Am I right in my conviction, lovely DP has done something unforgivable and I really think we're over

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We went out with a big group of friends yesterday afternoon,long pub lunch as most were off work due to the snow, he went home as he started to feel unwell.

I had a seizure in the loo, was taken to hospital by ambulance(this has happened a few times and is being investigated, possible epilepsy). DPs best friends wife came with me, made sure I was okay and was generally lovely.

I came home to a horrid email from DP, heres part of it

THANKS A FUCKING LOT, had half the village ringing me when I was ill in bed thanks to another of your 'episodes'. Can't believe you dragged Laura to the hospital in this fuking weather. You really worried people. I've had no sleep as the phone was contstantly ringing. Sort yourself out.

No 'oh my god are you okay?' etc Just that shower of shite.
I am stunned by this. What would you do?

Oh dear, just to echo what everyone else has said, take this as a clear sign that you have uncovered another of life's true cunts.

Hope you get some answers (medically speaking) soon. :)

Twatty twatty twat twat. Do not go back to him. What a twat. Call Laura and tell her about the email, he might just have lost himself some friends too.

Thank God you've found out how cruel, nasty, pathetic, and twisted he is before any moving in or whatever. That's a first abusive incident IMO. Congratulations on finding out, seriously

Yes I really think you should consider this relationship to be over. The full on-ness you mentioned and him saying he's never been in love before and about fate would have alarm bells ringing slightly, especially in light of your previous relationship patterns but that email is just monstrous. It really is.

Consider yourself to have had a lucky escape, he has shown his true colours and they are ugly indeed.

Don't bother replying or contacting him again, ignore his calls and concentrate on having a lovely christmas with your dcs.

I'm so glad you dont live with him.

I wouldn't even evr contact him again after this.

What would he be like if it turns out you do have epilepsy?

The others are right..get rid.

Yeah...forward his nasty e mail to all his friends.
What a git.

I wouldn't even reply to that email but would forward it in to a few mutual friends so they can see what he's like.

Teat.

. yep, run for the hills as fast as you can with this one. and forward the e-mail to a few of your closest friends, so they realise what (D)P is really like

There's no excuse for his behaviour. I don't think it's that he doesn't believe you are ill, but rather that he doesn't care.

There's no excuse, either, for you to not dump him.

If I received that email he word receive a 2 word reply and would never hear from me again after that.

I'm a bit worried that you even had to ask if this was unforgivable and that he isn't already dumped.

Am I right in thinking you are TheDevilWearsPrimark? A hell of a lot of tricky situations seem to be going on at once in your life, I hope you're getting enough support.

I would walk away now. Incredibly disrespectful way to talk to anyone let alone someone you're supposed to care about. He doesn't believe you're ill, so that's a problem too.

The alarm bells are ringing so loud they've given me a migraine! Saying he's in love so soon, talk of 'fate', obsession with perfection and now twisting this horrible thing that happened to you into something you've done to annoy and shame him? RUN FOR THE HILLS! This is an abuser testing to see if you will be his perfect victim. If you forgive him and stick around, he will know unequivocally that he can treat you like shit and make you feel guilty for all sorts of nonsense. Being obsessed with perfection, you having a potential serious condition will be perfect for him to make you feel inferior and pathetic in the future, as well as something for him to blame all his bad behaviour on.

Dump him. And when mutual friends ask why, don't let him lie, tell them up front what he said to you. Don't say it angrily or bitchily, just tell it how it is. Keep the email so you can prove it if you ever need to.

Hope you get a diagnosis and appropriate help ASAP.

What an unbelievable reaction. I can't believe someone could be so callous.

Agree with those that have said to let your mutual friends know what he wrote to you. Don't let him get away with it.

In what way was this pathetic excuse for a man ever 'lovely'?

It sounds as though he was expecting you to go home with him and then got angry that you 'top trumped' him in the illness stakes.

You deserve much much more - but you know that don't you?

I hope you're ok OP. What a childish and cruel email to receive from someone you're in a relationship with. It must have been very hurtful.

He sounds like a toddler having a tantrum.It's like he can't bear the fact that other people do care about you - hence the jealous anger at "half the village" ringing him to find out how you are.

I hope you realise you're worth the care and love that people around you seem to have for you though and you're certainly worth a hell of a lot more than what this 'man' is pretending to offer you.

Even better than what Kangaroo said (which was fab) is to not contact him at all

and put his email on facbook if you use it - and email it to all your friends.

Just never speak to him again.

That's the way to get the upper hand over this fuck monkey (like a sock monkey but cuntier)

What a wanker.

Hope you've dumped him by now.

Agree with everyone else.

Just this to add. Did it even cross your mind to send him an email like this:

"THANKS A FUCKING LOT, for going home with another of your 'illnesses'. Can't believe you dumped me in the pub on my own and left me to have to go to hospital in an ambulance when I had a seizure. And you made me drag Laura to the hospital in this fuking weather. Sort yourself out."

Of course it didn't cross your mind. Because you are a NORMAL PERSON. He, clearly, isn't.

Bin.

Glad you appear to have decided to dump his sorry arse.

And really, do forward his email onto friends - you can always say that you have received this email from your (now ex)P and you are just checking that you haven't accidentally upset anyone else, including Laura? Because that's the last thing you'd want to do...

That way it looks less like you're being vindictive, more like you're just checking other people's feelings. But in the meantime showing him up to be a completely selfish knobchees arsewipe.

What a pond-specimen he is.

What an utter b***d

Very glad to see that you will not be seeing him again. Well done for not being an idiot and trying to excuse that kind of hideousness.

And now that you have made that decision, I would send his email on to ALL of your mutual friends so that they can see what a tosser he is too!

He is dumped isn't he ?