The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Homebrew In The Shed!

[HammerMouseOfHorrors]

Hello, I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus. You can get on at any point in the journey, there is plenty of room, it's free to ride and there is always someone who will be along to hold your hand over the speedbumps!

So, no matter where you are in your quest to quit the booze, join us for support, advice and a fair few laughs along the way

There is no judging, no cliques, just real poster with real problems being real and honest!

Come and meet the others.....

Here is the previous thread where you can read all of the threads so far, including JWN's original thread and the reason we are all here.

diabolik - what just the foam off the top of the glass??

diabolik I hope you are feeling ok. I'm not going to be much help here, as I have never even seen marching powder, lots of dope was around when I was at uni (the dark ages) but, I didn't do that either, as I was too scared. Makes my drinking seem all the harder to understand, to me.

mouse looking back at my post last Thursday (which I'm not going to do anymore, unless v. necessary) I thought you had scared me off too, but the major over-reaction showed me that in fact you did me the biggest favour ever, and I shall never forget it.

I hope you are ok in hospital, I was in lots of times, many years ago, sleeping!!! next to DC, and at the time I had a slipped disc, and trapped nerves, which were about 100 times worse when we eventually came out.

Good to see you are back on form Venus, can't shake off bad mood here, hating work at minute, hating the way I look at minute, hate hate hate:(

"Any ideas for good excuses for impromptu drinking offers?!"

Ultimately, you're going to need to get to a position where you don't need an excuse. You just say, "no thanks, I don't drink" or "I'm not drinking today" and if someone doesn't like it, fuck 'em.

If that state of mind still seems some way off, the AA book "Living sober" has some good practical advice on this. It's a while since I read it, but some that spring to mind are "I'm driving" (even if you are at home, perhaps you have to go and pick someone up later, or be on standby for a friend who's about to go into labour?); "I'm on antibiotics"; "my doctor's advised me to lay off it for a while" (even if he hasn't, you know that's only because you've never asked him); "I'm off it for x days for a bet" (don't actually make the bet, just say there is one"; "I'm on a diet"; "I've got a heavy cold/sore throat and the taste is making me nauseous"; I'm sure others will make other suggestions.

But, ultimately, "I don't want to drink today" is all the excuse you need.

How are you feeling this morning Diabolik?

It was a one off venus and I was TOTALLY in control.

diabolik - NORTY!!!!! Here was little old me hoping that it was Coca-Cola. Ah well, I am naive it would appear.

thank you Mouse. This thread is proving to be my salvation and is the first time I have actually managed to have at least SOME alcohol free days each week, in a very long time (years). I am beginning to feel that I am regaining some control, instead of it controlling me but I realise the journey is not over yet.
Hope Nemo is better soon.

Ma you ARE taking control. I can see that more than you maybe because I am on the outside, looking in at your journey.

The change in some of the Babes on the bus is amazing. I love that this thread and the posters have the power to do that.

Just by sharing our lives on here, our battles, our fears and our achievements, helps others to take those first few difficult steps forward, towards getting sober or taking control of their drinking!

Christi - (I'm guessing it's you with a new name) morning, nice to see you back on the bus. How are you? How is DP/H? And the DCs?

Hey Mouse very observant of you to recognise Christi, had to read back through to find her

Morning mouse when are you off to the dentist? Fingers crossed that you manage to get something sorted.
Hi christi I thought I saw you sneak back on but wasn't sure.
x

desire - what's up? I see that you are a wee bit down lovely. And, have you been keeping up with the LIGHTer lot, think we may have a weigh in next Monday if you are up for it? Eek!!!

witchety - and you, did I see a blue face on your posts?

I'm at the dentist at 4pm. I may pull my tooth out before then!! Argh!!

Hi mouse I used to be terrified of the dentist - but when I had bad toothache would have happily let him take the tooth out with no pain relief and a pair of pliers.

Things here are OK - just feeling a bit low, fed up with manageing everything on my own and starting to dwell on things...this will be the first time I have tried to get through it without upping the alcohol so I will just have to see how it goes.

Witchety think we are both feeling the same, I am also completely fed up with managing everything myself, worrying about everything by myself etc etc:(

desire I'm not sure if things seem worse or better without getting pissed. I know the sensible answer to that of course, and aim to stay sober, if nothing else because I know that it is better for my DC.

Witchety I know that drinking won't make it better, so determined this time to give the booze the old heave ho . .

Just back from buying some Christmas cards (eek).

looking back at my last post, I hope you all understood that I meant my major over-reaction (and you think you you dwell on things witchety!.

My worst time for dwelling is still about 5.30, and that's when I hear the wine calling. It's really hard, when I have been so used to thinking "right, am having a glass of wine, deserve it, just the one, will feel better, etc, etc.

I think I will be better when I am back at work, I am not too good being at home on my own all day.

Also, still find it hard getting my head around only having 1 DC at home, and not really being needed there either.
"Get a life woman, do I hear you say" or maybe some of you understand. It is really hard when they are little, but, my gosh, the time does go quickly. So... to all of you with littleys who are trying to give up, or cut down, you will be sooooo glad you did.

Should I feed my cake now? I made it on Monday.

thurso - feed your cake next Monday UNLESS it feel dry to the touch. If it is 'springy', it's fine.

desire and witchety - the blues have hit hard today. Is it grey and drab where you are? And, how many days in are you both?

'feels' even.

It's a beuautiful day here...so that's not an excuse. I'm not sure if I feel low, because my life isn't that great at the moment, or if depression is creeping back.

In the past I always took feeling this way as a signal to really up the alcohol...'cause after all if it made me feel better, that must be good for the DC's as I didn't want them growing up with a depressed mother to worry about.

It's been about a month now since I all but stopped the booze. One of the things that I realised as I came out of the alcoholic phase was how gulity I felt about drinking so much with my DC around...they have 1 parent who is always pissed - they don't need another. Posting on this thread really helped me to see that - I was totally oblivious to it before.

On more selfish note I have rediscovered sleep and have come to hate hangovers with a passion....

So whether it is depression or just that life is shit...I will not be drinking today.

Ok (deep breath, and possibly tears).

Three or four times in the last two years (don't think Dc realised before that) my elder Dc has came to talk to me on my own, and said that I drink too much at night. Said that I slur my words and don't make any sense. AND STILL I DID IT! In fact hated my self so much, did it more.

I still can't get over it, in fact have made myself feel sick, spk later.

'alcoholic haze'...damn my typing!

Re cake

Sorry, I don't agree that all the alcohol in a cake made with large quantities of spirits cooks off in the oven. A slug of red wine in a sauce or soup that then gets boiled/simmered/reduced - maybe.

But anything which, if it was savoury instead of sweet, would be described as pickled - well, I think your expectations of the typical family oven are optimistic. Maybe if you have a job at the crematorium and do all your cooking at work, but otherwise ...

Diabolik

"dunno - really -- just stupidity"

I don't believe you.

Do YOU believe you?

Echo Witchety depression or life being shit, not drinking today
Thurso you are not drinking now and there is nothing you can do to change what has already happened.