The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Offy!!

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Well, this is our tenth thread so we are throwing a little party!

Everyone is invited! No booze of course, soft drinks and mocktails only!

I'm Mouse, hello.

There are all kinds of drinkers on board the bus. Come and join the journey, whatever stage you are at, drinking, cutting down, wanting to stop or sober already.

Everyone is welcome to post here. Come say hi.

The journey so far is below.

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Morning everyone. Fell off the bus big style on Friday evening, between myself and a friend we polished off 4 bottles of red wine, felt like deep fried dog shit yesterday (and deservedly so), ate all round me and just wasted my Saturday off, house like rubbish tip this morning. Today I will definitely not be drinking.

Dichotomy, well done for resisting the 10pm shop. You didn't make a big night of it. You put yourself back on track. You didn't use Friday night as an (understandable to me) excuse to get drunk last night. You feel OK today.

I have noticed a relationship between the state of the house and alcohol consumption in my place. You have done something positive today.

It is a lovely day here and I am going to tidy up outside before the puppy wees on my lap.

If you think of over drinking as being on a crazy out of control car that is going to crash and get smashed to pieces as a result,
then you have not stopped the car, and got out, but you have begun to apply the accelerator.

Maybe you won't get out, maybe you will end up being a careful Sunday driver type.

(I don't think I should continue this metaphor or I might get muddled with the bus on the highway.)

morning!! i see i have go round and kick some arses this morning!!

COME ON YOU LOT!! you all know why we are here - read your posts!, how is drinking going to help your finances, your home get tidy or look after your sick children? well!?

now, honestly, if i can stop drinking im bloody certain you lot can! start being brutally honest with yourselves, stop messing about and get on teh fucking bus!

get on with your days, do something useful, go for walk, play with the kids and just

DONT BLOODY DRINK!

JUST FOR TODAY!!

ITS ACTUALLY THAT SIMPLE!!

as you were!

later babes, off to do the above!

Thanks for the wake up call zombie!
Felling pretty rubbish this morning - but that's good - A good reminder of one reason not to drink.
Is it possible for your alcohol tolerance to reduce to drastically within jusy 3 weeks? - the amount that had last night was only half what I would have had on a Saturday night but I feel terrible - or have I just forgotten what a hangover felt like.

I need to do something about the "I deserve it" button - It seems I can ignore the others, the I'm bored, I'm sad, I'm with friends and want to join in....

noteven sorry to hear about your little one - does steaming help - or is that just with croup - I have spent many a night sitting in the bathroom with my 2 when they were little, with a kettle boiling withthe lid off - doesn't comply with health and safety regs but works a treat with croup!

So...on with the day...off to walk the dog....and note to self..."don't be such an arse"

Morning Campers.

The 'I deserve' button is called permissive behaviour and it is the danger point for all us drinkers - when you reach a point after a while of not drinking and your stooopid brain convinces you that 'I deserve a drink for doing so well' and we conveniently forget how bad it will make us feel/did make us feel.

Just an observation for this fine and sunny morning.

good arse kicking JWN

Gerald is now warmed up and ready to go.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Zombie, the thing is I know all of that, I can see how in the past 5 years drinking to excess has ruined so many aspects of mine and the kids lives.

I want to stop, I feel like I can stop, in my head I am not going to do this anymore.

I just can't understand,given all of that, why I still did it.

I'm actually dying for next weekend to come so I can prove to myself that I can do this.

Christi - I couldn't find the Allen Carr book in Watersones but got it off Amazon instead - It was the kick start I needed to start me off not drinking/drinking/notdrinking etc but I would also highly recommend it - when you get to the end of the book you realise how much sense it makes - order it now and you will have it in a couple of days

xxx

Hello babes and blokes!

witchety - yes, I'm sure it is possible for alcohol tolerance to go down after 3 weeks not drinking. DH, for religious reasons, abstains during Lent and Advent, and he usually finds that his first drink at Christmas is also his last - one glass makes him feel blurry, and he's a big 16 stone guy.

dicho - I don't know how it is for you, but for me there's no 'understanding' - drinking is for any of us something we can't logically justify, we should know better. If I try to look for a reason why I'm drinking, I just find excuses. It's not something we should be able to understand.

That's how it seems to me anyway.

Ouch . . sore butt here compliments of JWN, taking that first glass is really the problem, once I have that first glass all I want is more more and more:( Note to self - don't drink that first one
Now off to tidy round house, visit my mother, make something tasty for dinner and early night tonight!
Will check in during the day if only to remind myself why I don't want that first glass.

i'm so sorry about these multiple postings on my craaaaazy phone!

afternoon everyone. so.....for me it was a success although I drank. Guests arrived at 2pm, late lunch and I had one small glass of wine. Everyone else continued on through the afternoon, and I didn't. Big milestone for me as even just a couple of weeks ago I'd have carried on with everyone else.

Out for dinner and I had three small glasses of wine, and no extra top ups.

DH meanwhile turned into an absolute twat and was verbally abusive to me all through dinner, and obnoxious to everyone else.

Got home at around 1045, dh straight to bed, doesn't remember half of what he said last night. At least he seems to realise that he has a problem with alcohol too - and seems to understand that I'm making a big change and he probably should too.

Lunch today one small glass of wine and stopped, everyone else except DH carrying on.

Not feeling too bad about it, it's not perfect but it's a hell of a lot better than I would have been even just last weekend. Am on the way to having my own seat marked on the bus hopefully

Will catch up with all other posts tomorrow when guest have gone

Well done on cutting back so much, daddy!

Sounds good that your DH is beginning to realize there's a problem too.

Hello ladies.
DD is not officially asthmatic. She is full on though, that's for sure!
Not winning with the alcohol however.....

silver i've ordered it from amazon

Got enormous amount of clearing up to do this afternoon. Better get on with it.

But daddy you are AMAZING. Well done you. What self restraint. Brilliant by you.

noteven why are you trying to FIGHT the alcohol? You know you will lose. Please, it's not a responsible idea to be drinking when your children are ill, my DD worsened very dramatically last weekend, she's not asthmatic, or never has been before, but she went from a cold to a bit of a wheeze to A&E in the space of not many hours at all. Alcohol will obscure your judgment and also make it harder for you later if you have to call a doctor as you will not want to sound drunk. I don't know what else we can say. I've said the same above, and it's obviously not having any effect, I really don't know what you want us to say?

noteven how much have you had to drink? I'm worried about you, are you ok?

Well done daddy, all it would have taken for me is to have that first glass and the rest would be history.
noteven why are you drinking? honestly? really bad idea especially if your child is unwell.

--- back home needing a forklift to move now ... but I did complete the 10k ..

as for everything else peace has returned

Congrats Diabolik :) Shape I am in I wouldn't even manage a 10metre run

I think we're ok. Not drinking for last 6+ hours so feel rough, but thank you for the talking to. I needed it.

And wow for the 10K!

And many KUA needed.
Going to to do normal bathtime and then sew and create and turn computer and television off as I always do.

Doing ok here. didn't have a drop last night and slept a solid 10 hours!! incredible!
have had more energy and been for a long walk this afternoon,so.....why am i treating myself with a glass of wine tonight? Because it's Sunday, because I deserve it,because I'm a twat???
however it's only one....I'll do my best to cork it now.

Ma Read post this aftenoon from me about permissive behaviour and have a think.

Well done for corking it though.

xxxx

Diabolik Fantastic, well done on completing the run.
neam you clearly love your DD, hang on to that and make it through the evening, hour by hour if necessary. She may need you awake and alert.
Everyone else - have a peaceful evening.