Morning all. Not sure if you are already up and away silver but make sure you don't spoil you trip by beating yourself up about last night - that's only going to make you feel worse and you need to feel good about yourself now. Have a fab time!
Just a few thoughts for luci and looking and anyone else who doesn't know who they are any more when they are not the 'party girl/boy drinker' and who is feeling sad that that person has gone
- Even when we make changes in our lives for the better, there is loss. Our identity is made up from how we see ourselves and how others see us, and how we see ourselves in the future. If any major change happens, negative or positive ( divorce, moving house, having a baby, giving up alcohol, partner giving up alcohol)then what's called our assumptive world dissappears.
When that happens we experience the feelings of bereavement and loss - just the same as if someone has died. Some of the losses are tangible - loss of friends, loss of status - but also there is loss of identity - who are you? were do you belong? What does your future hold?
We have to work through those feelings, in the same was as if someone died, to come to a point where we attain a new identity.
What you are feeling now is part of that process, you are grieving for the old you, now matter how much you disliked parts of yourself and your life, it was who you were. Feeling sad, angry, lost, is all part of the process. By being able to experience those things you will eventually settle on a new identity and a new assumptive world.
This is a very long post for a Saturday morning - apologies to those with sleepy heads on! Later in the day it is much harder for me to get on the computer as I have to fight my way past 2 teenagers.