The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Brewery!

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Hello.

I'm Mouse and I've been on the bus for 2 months now and not fallen off it as yet. It's much more comfortable than The Wagon!

Anyway, this is thread number nine!

Everyone is welcome to join at any point of the journey, drinking or not, wanting to stop or just to cut down.

Jump on board, you won't be judged, just supported whatever you decide.

Here is the history of The Brave Babes if you want to have a read.

JWN's original thread

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Diabolik - wasn't trying to apportion blame - it's something that we do unconsciously or at least I know I did.

There is no 'blame' - it's just the way things have turned out but the good news is you can do something about it.

You already have..............

xx

Thanks wasin

My village has one aa meeting a week (I know I've been before) I don't drive so it would be a pain to get to a regular daily/nightly meets (36 mile trip and no buses to get me home).It's not an excuse,transport here is a toughy

I have been to a few meetings and this is no excuse,but find it terribly difficult with social phobia I know you don't have to speak but I felt I needed too but was utterly floored with panic.

I'm just going to take it second by second right now.

Yes,stopping alcohol helps my anxiety in the longterm but the first few days and weeks my panic levels are skyhigh anyway I can't comment on longterm effects as I've only reached 2months sobriety in the last year.I'm not an expert...

Right now I feel like curling up and not waking.

Poor me,self-indulgent hungover woes!

If only I thought about being hungover yesterday before I started drinking....

Ah, hindsight!!!

Yip mouse

Have a happy sober evening wasin!

Had a chat with dh earlier ,well a blub,he's sick of my drinking too and also sick of his own-he drinks when I drink and I drink when he drinks,we both enable each other SO both are stopping so there will NOT be any alcohol in this house anymore.

Not a drop.

Hey......

I just had a thought......wouldn't it be brilliant if alcohol came with a big, fat box of hindsight!!

I always believed alcohol was the perfect cure for my shyness. I felt confident, witty, friendlier...and tbh I probably was after just a couple.
I remember clearly being in my first job after college and being invited out for lunchtime drinks. I was only 17 and had probably 2 taboos and lemonade (am showing mty age!) and getting back to the office with my colleagues feeling relaxed, happy and chatty. I wanted to live life always feeling like I'd had 2 drinks.
Sadly the nature of the addiction did not allow me to do that.
I gradually drank and drank more and more amounts until I was no longer cheerful, confident and relaxed. I was the pathetic girl slumped in a corner about to be sick, unable to stand up straight and a complete embarrassment.
When I met DP I thought he liked a drink as much as me. He does but he is ultimately a social and controlled drinker. He has "a few" if he's out with work colleagues or one or two in the evenings or at weekends.
I can pretty much guarantee he has never drank in secret or lied about how much he's consumed.
That's how I know I have a problem.

He still believes I don't and that I am just irresponsible and stupid with alcohol and don't know my limits. I does not accept that I am an alcoholic.
He believes (as I did) up until recently that alcoholics drank from the moment they woke up and gulped vodka or brandy or super-strength beer on a park bench.
This thread has made me finally face up to my demons.
I am not "cured" by a long-shot. I now accept I will probably never be cured and be able to drink like a non-alcoholic but I still live in hope.
One day at a time...

Brilliant idea Mouse . . you should copywright it . . :):)

welllll helloooooo diabolik!! nice to meet you! , is that seat next to you free?
(heaves mouse off the seat!)
(tosses hair towards miflaw!) and crosses legs daintily!

seriously now -

welcome - you sound pretty desperate! please listen to all the advice on here, its second to none - i echo what others have said about your dp - its time to be selfish, this is a 'good' selfish though!, its sounds like its time for you to get better, youve been ill for long enough!

rage - bless you heart!, i know how dreadful you feel today - how about you look on today as a new beginning?, a fresh new start?, hour by hour, day by day, you get your life back?

JWN - oh dear Lord woman, leave the men alone!!!!

desire - now there's a plan!

luci - aaahhh, that myth about the alkie being the old bloke on the bench!, ime, its anyone at all!

you called me here!!!, you cant then tell me to ignore the handsome fella! its about time we had a bit of talent on board!

Luci -

'He believes (as I did) up until recently that alcoholics drank from the moment they woke up and gulped vodka or brandy or super-strength beer on a park bench.'

I think we all thought that. It's just not the case, though, is it? But alcoholics are actually by and large pretty fab people - intelligent, funny, and the best company at parties . Just because we're not drinking any more, doesn't mean that we're not all those things still, and will continue to be.

'This thread has made me finally face up to my demons.'

Celebrate that. It's something to be proud and thrilled about.

JWN - what about your undying love for MIFLAW????

I called you here because gorgeous lady, YOU are the reason we are all here.

YOU are the reason this bus exists.

YOU are the reason that I don't have a hangover today and I wanted the new posters to meet YOU!

xx

Hey CJ

Hey Luci

Yes I am the same as you lucil,an alcoholic.

I can really understand what you said about those two drinks,it sums my life for the last decade.sobering thought there.decade.

I'm also shy so used alcohol to become the real 'me' ok I'm bubbly after 2drinks but try 'me' after 6,If I'm not unconcious at that point somewhere im usually found talking very loudly to someone who actually,is not interested in being talked at by drunk woman.

ummm,peers in nervously can i come aboard? Am a newbie MN after lurking for a while but the thread on drinking has hit home good and hard. Drink a bottle of wine a night and have tried all sorts of ways to stop - spritzers, tonic and lime etc but even though I know all the scary facts about weight gain (yup!), liver damage, increased breast cancer risks etc, I just can't seem to get through the evening without it. I'm v worried - there is a drink problem running through the family and I don't want to fall victim to it.
where is the bus going?

Not sure where the bus is headed today dementedma but you are welcome aboard:) One place I know it's not going is to the pub:):)

....Hi JWN

not sure about being called talent as it's not how I would describe my self .. but I guess there is first for everything :)