The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Brewery!

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Hello.

I'm Mouse and I've been on the bus for 2 months now and not fallen off it as yet. It's much more comfortable than The Wagon!

Anyway, this is thread number nine!

Everyone is welcome to join at any point of the journey, drinking or not, wanting to stop or just to cut down.

Jump on board, you won't be judged, just supported whatever you decide.

Here is the history of The Brave Babes if you want to have a read.

JWN's original thread

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Hi christi You are sounding so much more positive these last few days. The sleep thing feels like a miracle to me - it might not be a big thing for everyone but I had given up on ever sleeping like 'normal' people again. I feel like I have joined the rest of the human race again!

it's also become my main motivation for not drinking - when I feel the cravings - usually between about 6-9pm, I just envisage lying in my bed - wide awake all night.
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Well I'm up and full of flu. Right now thoughts of drowning the germs are high on my list but I don't need anything from the store except flu remedies. But feeling as bad as I do, I know I'd cave in so I'm not going to.

Never have much of an appetite anyway these days and at the moment have even less than normal so I might just go back to bed and hide under duvet

morning all!! , dm HAS GONE HOME!!! phew! - df is home from hospital today so all is back to normal!

depeche - keep some sugary stuff around, it is a very good replacement for the booze, get a few weeks of soberity under your belt and then think about the diet - one thing at a time!

tonight dh and i are off to a dinner in the city, i have a new dress!! (and shoes!, silver slingbacks with a glittery 5in heel and platform! lush lush lush!), i usually dont make much of a fuss and stick to the orange juice offered but i dont like it much, so tonight i will be asking for an N&T, i think non drinkers should be catered for!

fallen - hop back into bed, get cosy and try and get some sleep! (im here gently stroking your forehead and passing you lemsip!

Morning everyone, day 4 for me today and today I will not be drinking! Strange but still have hangover feeling in the mornings and getting it hard to get out of the bed for work

Fallen

Excellent idea to avoid "tempting" situations for a while.

However, if you go about this whole thing the right way, I can promise you that a day will come, maybe sooner than you think, where someone can offer you free booze, or even pour it out for you, and it will be like they're offering you a speedboat in Moscow - a kind gesture, but of no use or interest to you. You will say, "no thanks" and that will be that, whether the offer comes once or a hundred times. And if it all gets too much, you will be able to walk away.

Sounds impossible, I know - but I can say it with confidence because it happened to me.

There's another similar thread going on at the moment. Someone (who stopped on her own) posted, "to be honest, I 'd love a drink now, but I prefer how I am without one." That's great for her - but I have to tell you that, not only do I prefer how I am without a drink, I never come CLOSE to thinking "I'd love a drink." Never. No interest for me. Occasionally I think, "I wonder ..." - then I remmeber and have no further need to wonder.

If others want to drink, that's fine - but it honestly is not a struggle I face. Drink is for others, sobriety is for me.

Morning Campers

ditto that Desire - day 4 for me too and TBH my DP said to me last time I stopped for a long period of time - 'no dear - everyone feel like sh**t in the mornings!'

No - seriously we will feel better in another couple of days - but me too with prickly skin and parrot cage mouth today

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JWN - lime and soda is a really nice drink - I find tonic water a bit bitter.

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Morning Silver, parrot cage mouth describes exactly how I feel today:)

Quick hello, hope everyone doing ok, parrot cage mouths and flu permitting.

All ok here, feeling positive and less anxious this week. Just want to put a call out to Red

Red if you are there please let us know that you are ok. We are thinking of you and here if you need us.

LittleMissGee sends a hug.

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Hello McGee, great to hear you are feeling more positive this week, am worried myself about Red:(

Haven't had time to read through, but is Mouse around today?

I think Mouse might be at physio today.

desire I am getting really worried about her, its been nearly a week now.

Thanks re positivity, have got a lot of things sorted with DD and house move going better, so feeling a bit more settled!

I am really worried about her too McGee, she is always around during the day and you do miss her when she is not around. As you say it's been almost a week and nothing from her.

Hello everyone. Have not had a drink since Sunday. There have been moments where I've been tempted but so far am firmly back on the bus and am happy to be.
The sun is shining. I took DC2 for a walk to the park this morning. I felt really calm, really sober (I'm starting to sleep better) and I really felt I was living the experience in sharp focus, not through a haze of a hangover, a headache and the usual niggling low-level permanent guilt I feel over drinking too much.
DC2 is just over 2 years old and is not speaking. Speech therapy referral is in hand and I am going to spend my weekends trying to bring her on a bit instead of standing in the kitchen sneaking drinks, getting drunk, acting like an arse and passing out before the X Factor has even started.
Hello to old and new alike.
Stay strong everyone.

I also hope Red is ok.

Lucil you are doing so well. I am in awe of how far you have come. You sound like a totally different person from your first posts.

Hope you have a good weekend with DC2, I have noticed a huge difference in DD since I stopped drinking. Plus, I find her easier to manage enjoy when not hungover.

That is so true. At first I used to kid myself that my drinking made me a more relaxed, fun mum. It might have done if I'd ever stopped at one or two drinks.
Getting smashed made me argumentative, tearful, (during that incident DP filmed me whilst I was absolutely pissed out of my head I was begging him not to take the kids away from me)angry and eventually passed out.
I don't want them to remember me like that when they're older.
I am doing this for them.

And also for me.

Well done Lucil, As McGee says you sound so totally different now, more positive and determined.

quick wave past. came on to check up on you and ended up posting on another thread. need to get back to my insulation before pick up. another sober day in my world!

Hello all,

algee what you have posted is really good (even the sweary bits), you are sounding very determined.

fallen don't be tempted to go out to the shops, especially while you are feeling a bit sorry for yourself. Most cold/flu remedies have little more in them than paracetamol (to reduce your temperature and dull pain) and caffeine (to make you feel a wee bit brighter). A few have ephidrine (or something similar to dry up a runny nose, but they can also stop you from sleeping properly (that is why they are marked as non-drowsy). You would be better off with a couple of paracetamol, a wonderful mug of hot creamy chocolate, wrap yourself up warm and have a really good sleep.

christi so pleased to hear you sounding a bit stronger. You should really keep a copy of the posts from your lowest point - when you just wanted to run away. I bet you thought that that pain would go on for ever and would never end. It may be helpful for you in the future to be able to remind yourself that even at your worst point, you got through it and the world brightened after a few days. Especially remind yourself of what you have experienced about the link between drinking/depression/insomnia. I know it's still early in the day for you, but it's dark here, so I feel justified in wishing you a good nights sleep.

Hey all.

Been at the hospital again with Nemo and then at physio for me.

Will catch up soon.

Red - wave if you are there xxx

Think this must be the quietest afternoon ever on this thread . . come back Red could always depend on you being around during the day!!

Thanks venus.

Dh has gone away till Sunday night.
Am drinking fizzy water and telling the bottle of pinot noir in the cupboard to eff off

Luci you're doing so well!