Female perspective required (again)

[EngineeringMike]

I posted on this before, about my long term partner, but things have changed slightly and I'd still like to hear some thoughts

My DP and I moved in together 3 years ago, in a new town for work, where we didn't know anyone. Almost straight away, her father died and things were very sad. Neither of us were happy in our jobs or in our relationship (the sex died, we argued, etc), and we split up.

Now, in the mean time, I saw a few other women, but my (at the time XP) wanted me back, and with few friends of her own wanted me to visit, and I did. This meant stopping dating other women. The problem was that we're in limbo.

I thought to help me make a decision, we would go away for a week. We had a great week and got on really well, and if I'm honest, I do love her. But in the back of my mind I'm thinking of the adage that one shouldn't go back. On the other hand, I'm not really going forward.

I want to resolve this for both our sakes. I'm sick of this limbo. Am I just scared of commitment, or is it wrong to go back once you've split up? Or were they exceptional circumstances?

ah, so Fat Chris did it to his gf too

I hate him even more now

Moyles dumped his GF of 8 yrs because he was "a colossal wanker with an ego in inverse proportion to the size of his cock".

(I expect)

At least 'FAt' Chris was kind enough to do it now instead of later.

Come on, she stayed with him for 8 years, she knows him reasonably well, she's not entirely blameless is she?

there is that, DF

I still hate him though

IsThatTheTime: your theory has legs too

Yes, women do collude in this...as SW says, we don't want to look needy or demanding (or hysterical!!) by demanding an adult relationship with marriage & babies etc before a man has 'exhausted his freedom'.

I don't know who Shane Watson is, honest guv.

TBH I was mainly thinking of my BIL when I wrote. I've been needing to get that lot off my chest for years

The toilet brush thread is particularly entertaining.

Almost beats the Irish beef stuff other day. But not quite.

Ach, don't worry about analysing it.
There will be some unifying theme unknown to us mere mortals.
S/He will bestow clues on us and judge how stupid we are by our failure to pick up on them.
I for one look forward to spotting him/her

Oh it's the same one, SF. He just knows he'll be rumbled if he goes on about the usual stuff.

Or maybe he's finished his opus of the Dower House and the Sheep Sisters?

I want him to come back! hrrmmph!

me too! I want him to explain himself!!

He's deffo lurking. I think you may very well be right btw DF about that spate of threads a few weeks back. They were all of a similar vein, asking for a female perspective and then mostly ignoring/being defensive about any advice given. Also all had the same creepy vibe.

Let's think of a prize for the poster who spots him/her/it next...

I think he's doing more than lurking, I think he's posting but I don't want to be a troll hunter so I will keep schtum. His style is very obvious IMO.

ah jaysus, I'll never spot him.I am shit at spotting posting styles. Couldn't even spot boxroom with a giant red arrow point "troll" at her posts.

I thought I might spot the style too but haven't seen anything really obvious yet. DF, why not PM your suspicions? My "inbox" is looking very very empty.

Maybe he's off biting himself in rage at being laughed at.
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