domestic violence

[zozos]

Hi, im really not sure if im in the right place and after some advice from others who have been through domestic violence. I am currently having problems with my partner mainly because of his drug abuse, drinking and gambling, the arguments are daily and the abuse is getting worse.
I dont know if i love him any more or even want to be with him, i am to ashamed to talk openly with any member of my family or my health visitor about any of this yet i am to scared to leave.
I dont know where i turn i have a disabled son whom adores his dad and a 9 month old baby and dont know how i would cope on my own, the situation is dragging me down. is he likely to chance or do i accept that this is how he is from now on and i either stay for the support and help but put up with the physical abuse or leave and struggle on my own with 2 children.

hi just poping on to let you all know that i have had a injunction out against my ex and he has had to leave the home so me and the kids are able to go home, we also have a panic alarm fitted and things are good cant wait to go home just me and the kids.

Really good news - am so pleased for you and thanks for posting. All best wishes for return home.

Excellent news Zozos, you have come a long way and your kids and all of us are so proud of you. It will be fantastic for them to go back to familiar surroundings. Well done for fighting the bully, best wishes x

Wonderful Well done for getting through this tough patch zozos, excellent news that you can go back to your house. Just make sure you use that alarm the minute he turns up (if he turns up), don't get sucked into any kind of dialogue.

So proud of you, you are an inspiration and incredibly brave.

Fantastic news zozos, you really deserve it, it's good to see justice being done.

Hope all goes well with your move home and agree with Dizie, be prepared for any tricks he has up his sleeve.

Good for you zozos- just being able to not be frightened any more is worth more than all the money in the world. To be able to relax, to live..You have made your children so proud, you have changed their lives. :)
Good luck, stay strong, all the best wishes in the world. Welcome to the club of those who escaped. :)

Really pleased about this outcome. x

Just wondering how you are getting on zozos - hope things are continuing to improve xx

Zozos, just read ur thread. You are amazing!! I went through a very similar situation in June. I can't begin to tell you how much better life is now - peace in the house, peace in my head! You have done the best things ever for yourself and the children. Always lock up, keep your wits about you always and stay strong! Don't ever let him through your door. You've come so far, mumsnet helped me get the courage to leave and confirm that I wasn't going mad too! All on here are amazing - good luck and here's to a bright and beautiful future - big hugs xxxx

Zozos, I just read this thread from top to bottom and just wanted to say how much I admire you and I hope you are truly proud of yourself.

It is easy to do the right thing when the right thing is very obvious and you're not half out of your mind with fear. True bravery is doing the right thing when you are completely alone and so scared you can't think straight. Your bravery is truly humbling. Well done you!

Just looked up your thread to see how you were doing - so glad you are happier now. I can't imagine how hard it must have been, and I have so much admiration for you for getting through it in the way you did.

Hi zozos - just wondered if you and the kids are settled back in your house now and looking forward to a peaceful christmas? Hope so xxx

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Keeping it bumped. Also if you have an injunction and a panic button installed - it might be an idea to get the locks changed as well.

Hi Zozos - just saw the bit about teh inunction and the house now. Excellent news. Hope you are well settled back in and looking forward to a good Christmas.

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Hi Zozos, I hope you are feeling much brighter and looking forward to a brand new year with brand new beginnings! Wishing you and your children all the very best xxxxx

Hi zozos hope you and the kids had a good xmas. Just wanted to wish you a happy new year x

zozos, I hope u r getting better, i hope u will be able to come back to ur home soon x wish u the best x