The Braves Babes Battle Bus - NOT stopping at the pub!!

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Hello

I'm Mouse. I've been sober for over a month now, thanks to the support of posters on this and previous threads.

No matter where you are up to with your sobriety, you'll find someone here who has been in your shoes!

Come and meet the other Brave Babes........

And here are the other threads for those who want to read them.

JWN's original thread (and the reason we are all here!)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

What a nightmare mouse!! Is the site just extremely user-unfriendly or volume of traffic? (Have never done an on line food/ grocery shop!)

Hi nearly - very, very normal to be totally knackered for a while. Some have heavy sleep, some disturbed. All totally normal!

wasindie - no worries at all! Would very much like a tinymoomin at some point but getting the booze licked is number 1! Have a nice afternoon.

Was, thank you for your comment about four days, or rather nights, makes it feel far more possible. I know i am hung up on the sleep issue, almost phobic I think. However that is a good impetus to see how sleep settles without those increasing glasses of wine.

Now, anyone want to tell me how slim I will get? How good I will look? No? Oh well! (hee hee) Never mind I was just wondering about Jesus' rep for high heels and looking groomed and hoping that was another 'side effect' of stopping drinking!

I will not chuck out wine, yes I know that seems daft as no one else in the house will drink it but it works for me. My best attempts at giving up smoking have been when I have had some available, and chosen not to indulge. If none were available then I get a bit panicky. I am not going to to struggle as much with the booze as I do with giving up smoking I know but I will stick with tried and tested! I am the same when trying to lose weight when there is a lovely hunk of Gorgonzola to eat!

Btw you are right about the sugar though, at one o'clock this morning I had a golden syrup sandwich!!!! Yuck!!!!

well, i wish i did look like honor blackman! i will pretend though!

wasindie - i have never owned a 'family car', i just bought the bigger versions of the sporty ones i liked!, have a super sporty car now which still goes good and fast but fits 3 car seats in the back.

nearly - how about trying the tonic on its own this evening? - this is known as a N&T on here, we all drink them, they are uber fashionable!

starting - i always tried to look after myself, but now i look at it, i was fighting a losing battle, i was gaining weight, looked puffy and bloated, my eyes were dull and red and quite frankly i was heading for well and truly raddled!

i cannot tell you how much better i feel but not only look - i really am not exaggerating or being big-headed but i know that i have knocked off about 5 years in teh last 3 months - the weight is dropping, my skin is soft and glowing, my eyes are bright and white, my teeth look whiter and tbh, i just look happy!, my mood has lifted which in turn shows on my face!

i keep saying it, but i really cannot think of one negative point in giving up booze!

my last post makes me sound like i need a kennel club name!

Red - I've got no idea what's wrong with the website. Due to being rural, we are limited as to who delivers.

The chances of me getting to do a physical weekly shop are zero with DS.

Tonight, I will be sipping pomegranate, raspberry, and apple juices, mixed with diet lemonade, in a long, tall glass, poured over a hill of ice.

And for desert, I'm having Ovaltine, with a spoon of Cadbury's hot chocolate in. I'm only 35 so Horlicks is out for now.

Introducing.....Beautiful Baroness von Battlebus Babe (fomerly know as Jesus)

PS have you had you hips checked - very important for KC reg.

venus -

venus I nearly choked at my desk there!

mouse - you do make lovely soft drinks! I really need to take a leaf out of your book... DH and I are doing the 'big shop' on Saturday so I will be loading up on soft drinks then!

ROFL venus

Red - if you buy nice cordials, high juice ones and mix them, with soda, lemonade etc, pour over ice, even in a cocktail glass for a bit of excitement, they just taste so much nicer!

Get creative!! I made a strawberry, banana and vanilla ice-cream smoothie yesterday! Lush!! And way cheaper than wine or vodka, my old weapons of choice.

A much healthier way to make you

Hmm am thinking about going to coop and buying some sugary soft drinks, that is beginning to sound like two birds with one stone for a just stopped like me. I really can't face another golden syrup sandwich!

Mouse you have some lovely ideas, I quite like sour stuff so think I will get some cranberry juice for starters. I wonder what it tastes like with lemonade. I am determined not to drink for a few days (yes I know I should just say today but I want to really see if the benefits are worth it the lack of wine).

Have a friend coming over tonight who was dumped on Saturday. We usually manage three bottles between us (slight exaggeration but not much) so will see how I get on tonight. It will be a huge test! She is broke too so I am going to play that card although she does without a doubt have a longstanding alcohol problem (AA and inpatient treatment) so it might be hard. She is lovely and one of my motivations for giving up. I will never forgive myself if she ends up in hospital again as a result of my bad influence. I intend to tell her I am not drinking for a while to see if pain levels fall and to save money and hope to ask for her support, thus helping her to at least cut down. Does this sound horribly manipulative? I am not sure she could cope with a direct plea right now.

starting

The benfits ARE worth it, I promise. But it's up to you to discover them for yourself.

Okay, sour drinks...... Cranberry is nicer with diet lemonade, less sugar too. Lime and soda in a tall glass with crushed ice. Just smash some ice in a bag with a rolling pin!!!

Great therapy!!

I also like lime, ginger and soda. All over ice. Blueberry, raspberry and soda too. Soda is better if you like a more sour taste.

Your friend will do nothing other than support you, if she is a true friend. And tonight may be perfect for trying out new 'mocktails'!!

Take your time.

"I intend to tell her I am not drinking for a while to see if pain levels fall and to save money and hope to ask for her support, thus helping her to at least cut down. Does this sound horribly manipulative? I am not sure she could cope with a direct plea right now."

Please don't take this the wrong way, but her drinking is not your concern. You just need to worry about your own drinking at the moment.

The main manipulation that is most likely to happen here is of yourself - she will drink, and probably twist your arm to join her (especially if she is also a manipulative problem drinker), and you will then be "unable to help it" because you had a "friend in crisis".

Decide that you are not going to drink; tell her; that's it.

Leave her to decide for herself what she wants to do (or at least directly ask you why you are abstaining.)

Nearly home time Babes, hope everyone gets through another successful evening! I am in the very tired phase at the moment - looking forward to getting home, having some lovely food, reading my book. But then I have to go back out for a meeting. Argh!

Thanks to all again!

Cranberry and lime - that is what I will have tonight! Thanks Mouse.

Swallow, I really really want her to say, "well if you are thinking you have a problem I must be heading that way too and so I will give up with you". Or something like that anyway. She is losing days at present, and cannot remember the row that led her to be dumped and needs to work on divorce stuff NOW (Final Hearing in three weeks). But, I am positive that any direct approach will have her running like the wind in the opposite direction. However, it is true if she does not drink it will be easier for me to stop so I am not totally game playing.

SAF!!!!! Well done you!!! That is a MASSIVE step.

MIFLAW!! Storming in with words of wisdom again...

(Form an orderly queue ladies!)

MIFLAW, I will not drink tonight.

Promise.