The Braves Babes Battle Bus - NOT stopping at the pub!!

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Hello

I'm Mouse. I've been sober for over a month now, thanks to the support of posters on this and previous threads.

No matter where you are up to with your sobriety, you'll find someone here who has been in your shoes!

Come and meet the other Brave Babes........

And here are the other threads for those who want to read them.

JWN's original thread (and the reason we are all here!)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

SAF - it is the saying it out loud that counts.

The first time I posted 'I am an alcoholic' I cringed. But I am. Simple as that. I also get hayfever and I'm allergic to aspirn.

Funny how only certain 'conditions' come with such a HUGE label.

I am an alcoholic. It's quite powerful to get the words out there for the first time I think.

night moomin your meeting will be fine

SAF I too am a bit agoraphobic, but I did manage to overcome it when there was no option other than to go out to buy booze!

Can't remeber who was recommending Virgin Marys - Mmmmm I love those, specially made with V8 juice and with a stick of celerey and lots of ice and a dash of tobasco .... Think I know what I'm having to drink tonight.

Have a good evening everyone.

MIFLAW you dont take any prisoners do you

SAF well done you telling the doctor. When I last attempted to stop drinking about 8 years ago I was soo tearful and in a mess really and at an appointment for something else I blurted out about about the drinking. He asked if I ever drank before lunchtime and when I said no he told me to think about yoga or similar

Also ROFL at rationale at avoiding soft drinks because they are a waste of calories , we have a fair bit of mental recalibration to do !!

Still on for day 2 , cant see too many pitfalls apart from having to go out in car later for ds football and suddenly finding myself in supermarket carpark one of my favourite tricks

Starting

Also, just so you're not too disappointed - "hope to ask for her support". If she really is a problem drinker then you might as well ask a cat not to shit in your garden. It is in her interests that you keep drinking and that is what will drive her every decision and action.

Starting - why not make the promise to yourself instead?

You're the one that matters here.

SAF meant to say am same re soft drinks. Tbh still think that but its early days

getting - they don't sell alcohol in the carpark

evening everyone! just poured myself a lolvey long cranberry and raspberry juice, yum!

thing is, tis now a danger time for a lot of us, i find the thing to do is, keep busy, then keep a bit busier! , the time soon passes and before you know it, you have had a pleasant, productive evening, watched a bit of telly, cooked some dinner, had a chat with a friend, tidied the lounge, got the kids to bed, done your nails, been nice to your dp/h or of course

you could sneak out to the shop, drink the poison, feel like shit, smell like shit, be a lump on the sofa, tell the kids to get to bed, get annoyed with your dp/h, watch tv and not remember it in the morning, have crap nights sleep, possibly wet/shit yourself, wake up in teh morning and do it all over again!

i know which evening i choose to have!

DH was astounded that I stayed up 'til midnight on Sat watching a DVD with him, a, usually crashed out on the sofa by 9.30!

Well she came to supper and I just said when she suggested stopping for wine on the way home that I would not be drinking tonight. I added the explanation that I was trying to sort out my sleep patterns.

She stopped for the wine and went straight home after supper .

Am going to sit on sofa with son number three now. I feel very flat and worried.

starting - i know its hard, but you really have to focus on your own sobriety!

• try and enjoy your time with your ds

i know it sounds harsh, but you are responsible to yourself and your family first. once you feel stronger and have managed to maintain some sobriety, then maybe you can try and help your friend!

Hmm starting.

Think about it this way if you had had a drink with her how would you feel once she went home and then in the morning ?

Whoever said earlier about focusing on your own drinking issues first and foremost was right.

Why are you worried ? I understand the flat bit. Day 2 a success made it past car park - very funny munky

Hi Starting, totally agree with JWN and getting about putting yourself first. Well done to you for sticking by your decision not to drink today despite worrying about your friend.

Also hi to getting and saf and well done to you on your new rock and roll lifestyle choices

I am yet to make cocoa, but very comfy in my pyjamas! If only I had that glamour gene you seem to have JWN

hi everyone

Just dropping in. Not doing too badly. Had one glass of wine sat night- but stopped half way through.

Dh is going away with work alot so I'm going to be stuck at home and I'm dreading it- not even because I'll drink- I don't think I will- I'll just be so so lonely.

pav - i am in my pjs now - its a bit chilly and i want to do my nails before bed!

Starting - you made a good decision today. Yes, it does feel a bit flat but you could be feeling a lot worse.

Getting - glad the carpark didnm't tempt you

I too am rockin' the cocoa, a bit of Dragon's Den....then bed. Day 4 over

JWN YOU SEE - perfect nails as well. I quickly tuck my chipped toenails out of sight!

Hi feedtheyak, you are sounding sad tonight Well done for stopping the glass half way through on Saturday, sounds like hell to me! Maybe when your Dh is away you can spend a little too much time on here??

Well done on day 4 Munky.

feed - i know the feeling of having dh away a lot - do you have a hobby/interest that you have let fall by teh wayside? - can you get the dcs to bed and treat yourself to a book or a magazine and take it to bed?, apart from anything else, if you can find an interest then you have a bit more to talk about when he gets home - (i know that sounds a bit stepfordy, but you get my drift! )

i have to entertain a client for lunch tomorrow, i am actually looking forward to it - he is coming from hong-kong and is really nice - keep your fingers crossed, we are trying soooo hard for this contract, thank god i know i wont be pissed!

everybody is out right now, dd and new bf are down the pub, dh is at al-anon (bit of mixture of venues there! ) so i am having a soaptastic evening cor, it was good when sam whacked phil with the baseball bat!, didnt think much of the birth on corrie though, too quick, not nearly enough gore to be realistic!

yes, im a wee bit bored right now!

off to do me nails!

starting

Your friend is probably upset because you didn't want to get smashed with her following her break up. No more.

As others have said, focus on you. There are lots of nights on here that I read a post and think 'yeah! Fuck it, I'm getting pissed too!'

Just because someone has posted that they are drinking that night. I miss the booze. Oh how I miss the warm, mellow hit.

But that is where it ends. That one tiny moment and compared to all that I feel now I don't drink, there is no going back for me.

So, if you try to take that away from your friend, when she is not ready to face her own demons, of course she'll react the way she did.

This is about you my lovely. Just you.

This is the one time in your life when you have to be utterly selfish.