ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No.7

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Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity. ...........

Enjoy the weekend Mumfun.

Discovery not bad just kind of something to process really. Photos of new family. And something a bit sly.
Detach detach.

I have kickassed the dishwasher into action and hit a ball v hard this afternoon.

I'm thinking weather is good and open house for DC bbq this afternoon.

Waves to all x name change later.

Am on here using delaying tactics as have no motivation to go out & cut grass! Should have done it last wk & didn't have motivation then either & it's now desperately in need of cutting. Am exhausted from wk of school runs . Also woke at 4am with the wierdest bloody nightmare! Have to say however that for past while it's like I have a new found freedom & finally feel over the trauma of x. All the mums at school have been raving about how fab I'm looking now & those that are closer have said that I look happy again .

Happy well done on dishwasher success . Ignoring twunts usually a good idea!

Mumfun, have a great w'end.

Patience, will be dying to hear how you get on

Chairmum & Sov, well done on your boundary work

Getting hope dd had a lovely day & well done for gym etc

Tea, hope there's some good new

I put an update on the prayer thread I'm on yesterday but waiting to hear how he is today. Everyday he seems to get a little better, although they're still saying 6 weeks until he can come home

Thinking of you Tea x

Phew, name changed, I am Happy once more.

Well all is ok here. I will be visting counsellor soon - have decided that today's topic will be how to remain strong enough to get through life's daily challenges with a smile on my face. Am doing this quite often generally but if too much DC/XH trouble then downward spiral occurs.

Enjoy the weekend Mumfun - I am jealous and want some off too - have decided to encourage DCs to bring many friends here always to create party house. I can always bring the music although of course they don't know me as DJHappy so that won't work (and they think I am an old fogey)

Starting, glad to hear you are feeling so good. I think that the lack of XH in your life and the appearance of Mr Normal mus be causing that.

Tea - fingers crossed for DN

Getting, glad first day went well - my DS has come hime with fine exam results so he had a good day too (I bought a cake to celebrate!)

Patience, looking forward to seeing you at the meet up. Getting, hoping you can provide music to suit the girls - now you know what we like!

Sov/Chair, hope you're doing ok, nice to see you at the disco.

Waves to all x

Heres another chance for you to dance with me

whatever happens we do need to go to some festivals next year - can we go to Glastonbury - we can buy on October 3rd?

Just been through itunes on home pc and deleted all albums of H's. Quite cathartic. Even ones I did like but remind me of him have been deleted. Feels good.

Just whack that one on Happy ,classic track ....what do they listen to normally?
When does college start Startin'
I've not been sleeping right either ...had a pretty mad fortnight though LOL!
Re boundaries i just didnt understand the concept b4 or thought i had the right to draw lines that shouldnt be crossed ,how things change ladeez i was just a muddled Maybees when i joined this thread ,now i have things more on my terms,being more competent to deal with what life throws at me day to day,i understand what you mean though Happy we are weaker when put under stress re family but we are all getting stronger everyday and our self love protects us ....SHINE BRIGHTLY ALL DUMPLINGS !

Mega Tea !
Please find out Happy.... do they take mastercard?

Tea, found your up-date, that sounds great will continue to pray for you all.

Happy, well done to your ds, great achievement after such a difficult yr for him with xh & ow etc. Counselling always great for learning to remain serene in the face of difficulties . Agree your ds's would prob not be impressed with your dj happy skills, nothing personal, my eldest dd already thinks I'm a has been too .

The reason I'm feeling good is nothing to do with Mr Norm (although I did enjoy it). It's because I have finally full acceptance that xh is what he is & that I'm so lucky to be away from him & most importantly I no longer love him. Despite everything it took me a long time to stop loving xh or missing what I thought we used to have. Reality has finally been accepted & life is not too bad really . I think it prob also helps that xh is not having access & so I'm not being pulled into constant drama or trauma.

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Tea, always good to clear stuff from x's

Happy, Glasto sounds great but are you arranging baby sitting services too ??

Patience, you have indeed done fantastic to come such a long way . College in about 3 wks.

Dumplings, grass is cut but white leggings & white floral designer dress top should have been removed first [dumb dumpling emotion]

ROFL at ur gardening outfit Startin'
Thanks for compliment... i am just someone else now ,cleared the toxic waste from my system

Can anyone inspire me to do a serious tidy up ,just keep playin music and dancin' but whole house has gone mental again

I'm exactly the same Patience Need to clear up this pit after baking cakes for SIL and casseroles for them, toys strewn everywhere, bath toys need putting away, washing up needs doing desperately and dining table wiping. I'm sitting here at PC though listening to music. I think I prefer what you're doing though, much more fun

Just had a text from my brother, little nephew has gone backwards again

Oh Tea, really sorry to hear that. Hopefully it's just a minor setback. (())

Solid Bond Weller was my schoolgirl crush

Big hugs Tea x

Hugs Tea xx

Sending positive thoughts to you Tea and to DN x

Dumplings there is a f*g HUGE spider just after running accross my sitting room & going underneath telly. I can't see it but loads of wires & speaker box & telly v big so can't really move it. Could move couch & try to access with hoover by side of telly but will need to move big speaker box & would f*g collapse if it runs out towards me. I'm not being dramatic, it was HUGE & I can actually hear rustling sounds which has to be spider. Dd nearly screamed house down & has gone to bed as refuses to stay downstairs till it's found. Patience, any ideas??? Anybody????????

On a more positive note Mr Norm has asked me out to dinner .

Just face the situation head on, get under the telly catch it in a bucket and put it outside,we get ones like that in the wood pile ......

Nice one Startin' ...now concentrate on the spider its just Incy Wincy and he is more frightened than you ,catch it in anything a bag ,then you can hold it shut you will prob drop a bucket when he starts escapin , they are fast wee feckers