ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No.7

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Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity. ...........

dress check out this website i just think i have found my favourite shop!

Hi all just back from hols x

starting - nice attitude :)

On my anniversary earlier this month I bought myself a box of chocs as nobody else was going too. I ate them all

Soverign, hope you managed to have a lovely pamper night . I would defo not be feeling guilty about xp not seeing dc's, it was his choice not to turn up at agreed time.

Pink, that sounds like an awful situation . I often think it's not just the loss of xh's or xp's that we end up dealing with but it's also all the other relationships/friendships that are so badly affected.

Patience, hope you're doing ok & glad you're refocusing on style

Oh Happy Days! Happy is back from her holls . Welcome back.......

Chairmum, glad to hear you celebrated your anniversary in style too .

Slight catastrophe here tonight, dd's tooth fell out & she was washing it in sink. I walked into bathroom & saw stopper in sink & pulled it out!!!!!!!!!!!! Have just managed to convince her that tooth fairy will be able to get it out & helped her to do a letter explaining situation!

Ok, slightly nervous about doing this but said to hell with it & am going to share Mr Normal's latest email with my dumpling pals

"So at the risk of sounding forward?.there is only so much of this typing on line I can do and much prefer the conventional method of sitting with someone and having a good chat. So I I?d love to meet up for a coffee or a drink. I would do my best to ensure no matter what you think of me in person it would not be an unpleasant experience and we could agree to do it without any obligation to meet again. At any stage if you feel uncomfortable I will not take offence if you wanted to leave early. Meeting a stranger may not be easy for you but at least it would be a start and something different. Let me know what you think,"

Hmm and will you meet him?

Quite Normal is he an intellectual sort ,sounds like he isnt going to bullshit you are start singing elvis so might be worth a go ?Do you think you might fall asleep ,choose an establishment with large windows in the toilets incase you need to leg it and leap LOL!
Ok went crazy in the Nomad new best shop ever website they had a sale on ...amazing lots of bright silks heading my way skirts dresses tops scarves ...amazing LOL!
Waves to Happy!

As a belated anniversary present to myself I decided to hell with it & already replied in the affirmative .

Shop will restock next week want to buy x3 more dresses and i dont even have the boots yet LOL!Throwing all my old stuff out i only need 1 new pair of jeans one new hoodie and a pair of leggins to go under a dress i bought fuck this shopping lark is cool,but dont know if it will fit but who cares ,will keep returning til i find the outfit for me LOL!Totally gone for this divorce makeover thing im loving it not dressed like this for years ,lots of prints and bright scarves ,making me feel better already,saw another house online will prob not hear til tuesday now but lots of fields surrounding it .

Mega Startin' i love it !Nice to go out for a meal eh!I'm looking forward to it myself someone taking me out in the future ,just general civilised behavior.Shall be such a novelty for me.Imagine a man that didnt need boundaries and actually treated me with respect ,Lord i am a changed woman indeed.

Patience, depends on who's taking you out for the meal . Xh used to take me out all the time but I think he spent more time looking over my shoulder then actually looking at me [twunt]

Loving the new look Patience. I went on the site but really can't afford to start dabbling with online shopping . Best of luck house hunting.

Well, Starting is off on her first internet date on Wed night

There's one guy on there who's 29 & has misfortune of sharing same name as xh! He's sent me loads of messages & I've had to resist urge to email him back saying F* O** I've had enough "Charlies" to do me a lifetime

V xcited for you Startin'
I think my dating is a long way off but you never know,they will have to get by my radar LOL!

Hello ladies,

Up to feed anya and have got distracted by stuff!

Been thinking that I need to set myself some boundaries with H as he doesn't seem to be in a hurry to arrange relate. I want to maintain the friendly relationship but make sure that we are keeping finances separate etc. To that end when I got an email from H about money stuff I went to sort out some online banking stuff and have got distracted for the last hour!

good morning all :o

So far today ive burnt my leg and rang O2 to get XP's mobile put on incoming calls only LMFAO so i feel great, he wont when he wakes up and realises that he cant call anyone hahahahaha

Didnt get the pamper night last night as XP cousin came to visit, she cant believe the way he's been behaving and said everyones now finding out exactly what he's like :o

Legs fine btw, it was boiling hot water but it hasnt marked and the stinging has almost stopped (see what happens when your rushing around after 4DC)

I checked XP mobile bill (in my name btw) to see how much he has gone over his minutes and was horrified to see that he had run up a bill of £50 and seeing as the phone wont be disconnected till thursday i was worried as i know i wont get the money off him so i rang him last night to ask him to stop using it ...no answer, so i text him....no reply so i thought BOLLOX and as soon as O2 opened this morning i had him cut off :o:o:o

So to be honest i think in that 1 phone call i did my emotional AND practical goal today already, there was a slight pang as i did it but i pushed it back down and buried it under a file named twunt not coming to see DC :o

Am a bit nervous about the singles club tonight but also looking forward to letting my hair down and relaxing, unfortunatley cant drink too much as i have the DC to get up with tomorrow

Hope everyone has a great day and hope you had a great holiday Happy < waves to all>

Hi Everyone.

Starting good luck with the date,I take it this was an internet thing? I thought he sounded ok certainly more interesting than one of those who sends a snap of his tumescent member as happened to a friend of mine !

Patience you are really getting the bit between your teeth with the post divorce reinvention. You must post some pics of you in your new gear! Agree how nice it would be to go out for a date some time but its far from my horizon . The guy I met got fed up with me being away all the time and unable to see him and has faded away

Sov I went to a singles party for fun and it was a laugh although I think if I had been on the hunt it would have been profoundly depressing Anyway enjoy yourself

Chairmum you sound very organised and serene today

AB are you ok ? Tea are you ok ? I read your thread re PIL and you got a lot of support so I hope you are safe in the knowledge that you are in the right.

I have been for a run this morning as my emotional step today, exercise helps me so much.

My practical step is to keep going with housework and write out list of outgoings even if I dont get financial values all done today.

Starting I think you may be write that I am at a turning point as I am feeling much better but in a quiet sort of way if that makes sense ?

Need to go and sort out pile of kids that have slept over last night

Waves to all

ps LC if you are lurking I really hope things are coming together for you and xp

starting I saw this thread and thought of you as she has had so few responses but could do with a listening dumpling.

Btw having a down day, suspect I must be due on. Feeling very tearful and have a short fuse before I get cross with DCs. My DD has gone backwards on potty training in the last 3 days after doing well for ages and keeps weeing and pooing in her knickers, so I didn't manage to keep my cool about it. Even though I knew it was wrong to get cross No idea what's wrong with me today.

Tea, sorry to hear you're having such a crap day. Can you force yourself out for a walk in the woods? If not just do whatever makes the day a bit easier. Imho most dc's take a step backwards at some stage in the whole training business. The novelty factor makes them do great to begin with & then some of them just loose the enthuasism for a bit. Keep with it & she'll get back on track soon. Does she have to be trained for nursery? If so just have a word with someone in nursery, they're used to dc's going backwards at times. Just keep reminding her to use potty/toilet & then try not to give it too much attention when she doesn't.

Getting, am so impressed that you went for a run this morning! Feeling better in a quiet sort of way is prob exactly they way I am too. Date is from Match, not exactly rip your clothes off material but seems nice & fairly normal up to now so will just go along for the laugh. Tbh I'm a bit like you in that I'm not sure I really have the time/interest/motivation to do the whole dating/relationship business.

Soverign, hope your leg isn't causing you too much pain. Great that you sorted phone in true dumpling style . Knock em dead tonight, go dumpling, go . Hope you have a great time.

Chairmum, hope you're not feeling too tired today. It seems your x also wants to keep things amicable so fingers x'd it'll all continue to go smoothly.

Waves to all......

Well got a text from the man I met at singles party mid july and he still wants to arrange a "date" ! I must say he has been very patient so I think I should put aside my shortismand meet up with him.

Also I was reading on another thread about how someone had been on a couple of dates with a perfectly nice guy but was about to give up as he didnt ask her anything at all about her. My own experience of men,especially with exh ,backs this up and this guy was not like that at all . So on that basis I will text him back and see if we can arrange something. However this has been rumbling for the last 6 weeks so I do wonder if it will come off !!

Sorry you are having a bad day Tea, I get very weepy around my time of the month and because I have Mirena dont really have periods so find it hard to keep track so when I am in a mess I wrongly think I am falling apart when actually its hormones .

Its easy to forget all the ups and downs and frustrations of little dc and on a bad day it must be maddening but as Starting says keep going and dont feel bad about losing your temper.

Have been chatting to someone on match LOL! def has taken my mind off X ,told him JRT had just killed a mouse LOL hope that wasnt TMI,didnt put a photo way to complicated but he is tall for a change and similar history x

You Cant Stand Me Now LOL!

Sov, LOVE that you cut his phone off....brilliant, serves him right.

Starting, I think Norm sounds nice, good luck

Getting, must feel good that singles party man texted you for a date, nice boost to the old ego

Hi Happy, hope you had a good holiday and DS1 is ok.

Hi to everyone else, Mumfun hope you're ok.

Hope ur ok Tea x
Waves to all dumplings and friends of the thread