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All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

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Mouseface · 12/08/2010 10:09

Hello, welcome to thread five!! Smile

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!! Shock

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

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lookingtothefuture · 13/08/2010 21:20

All's quiet here for the moment. Day 11 - still feeling a bit crappy as not sleeping. I have no inclination at all to have a drink, but I was thinking all the days seem the same when not drinking - nothing to break them up or mark the start of the weekend. But then again, every day was the same when i was drinking as i was drinking each and every day so I don't know what i was thinking. Suppose I'm just feeling bit restless and that I am missing out on something. Am sure its a blip and tomorrow will be a better day.

pavalova · 13/08/2010 21:51

Hello
I have been following this thread for a while now and have been inspired by all of you.

I have been drinking too much for a long time. Dh and I open a bottle every night and rarely leave the second unopened. I wake every morning feeling guilty, yet by the evening I am ready for my reward of dealing with all the day threw at me. It is a cycle that has been going on for a long time.

Anyway, I have been quietly joining you and I am on day 5. I feel proud of myself and want to thank you all for sharing your stories. It has made a big impact on me.

lookingtothefuture · 13/08/2010 22:11

Hi Pavalova Its amazing when you break the cycle how quickly it appears so alien. Well done on day 5 ! Hope you are feeling the benefits and enjoy a hangover free weekend!

jesuswhatnext · 13/08/2010 22:31

hi pava!! well done for day 5, its quite am achievment to get there on your own!!, please keep coming back here, we would all like to get to 'know' you! (youre not another northerner are you?! Grin)

mouse, i have tried those becks, quite nice i found, the only thing i have thought though, is that all they are are calories in a bottle, i am doing a good job of losing weight here, so i am tending to stick to a slimline N&T.

went to a really good meeting at lunchtime, i just feel right at home as i walk into the room, and i also feel that i have made some good friends there, it is a nice 'warm' feeling iyswim?

i still read my first thread now and again, i am heading for the 11 week mark but i can still recall that feeling of utter desperation, i can still 'feel' the loneliness, oh my word, it was a bad place to be - i cannot fully describe the enjoyment of life that i have regained over the last few weeks, im sorry to keep banging on about it, but i really have got my life back and it is a wonderful feeling.

its also thanks to the people on here that i am feeling so happy tonight! THANK YOU!!

anyway, enough of my witterings - today i have bought a new dress to wear to the races next saturday, my parents are taking me as i have been such a good girl and deserve a treat!, i did tell them that i have tried sex and drugs and rock and roll, i may now take up gambling Grin, anyway, its a black maxi jersey dress with 3 quater length sleeves, i think i will wear it with my vuitton scarfe and a new ted baker handbag which dh bought me the other week, i should look the part i hope, as we will be in the owners enclousure (oh get me!! Grin) i am looking forward to it, my parents have had to be very wary of taking me places the last few years as i would always get pissed and do soemthing outragous Blush, isnt it dreadful, i feel very ashamed that they couldnt trust me to behave at nearly 50 Blush dh wont be with us as he is going to a cricket match, i am projecting a bit, as i am worried about him not being there, still, will shake that thought from my head and worry about in a weeks time.

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ChristianaTheSeventh · 14/08/2010 08:18

Morning everyone

Hope all well

DH very depressed, it's hard work

Jesus you deserve a lovely day out

venusandmars · 14/08/2010 08:58

Morning Christi, I am up early and getting ready to go to Edinburgh for a day of festival activity. Hope it stays dry.

JWN, lovely to hear you sounding so positive. It was your delight in enjoying a sober life that encouraged me to join in on here.

Hello to pavalova, and waving to everyone else.

TrinityRhino · 14/08/2010 09:53

morning all daaaaaay 5
Smile

I still feel like I've been run over by a bus

I'm taking the vit b fizzy things someone suggested and I'm drinking more squahs than I ever have

why do I still feel like shit?

pavalova · 14/08/2010 09:58

Good morning everyone and thanks for the welcome. Not a northerner, in fact right down south here.

Day 6 and feeling good. I have to admit to thinking about drinking/not drinking most of the time. Does that fade? As the evening approaches I have the "have I prooved myself now? can I have a reward tonight" voice arguing with the "you know how good it feels to wake up and remember the book you are reading and not feel guilty" There are countless other reasons from each side of the debate which makes a noisy brain.

It is very hard at times and it is being able to come here and 'listen' really helps me. You are all doing brilliantly.

jesuswhatnext · 14/08/2010 10:09

hi pav! yes, the voice does get quieter in the end, just give it time - in aa, there is a saying - 'we deal with alcohol, cunning, baffling, powerful' it is so true, that old bugger tries to make me have a drink everyday but i am silenecing him bit by bit, day by day and in doing so, i AM beating him!! so just for today, think to yourself

TODAY I WILL NOT BE DRINKING!

it seems to work! Grin

jesuswhatnext · 14/08/2010 10:11

btw pav, you will find that i am without doubt, the most crap at spelling that you will ever find! Grin

maddogsandenglishmen · 14/08/2010 10:25

Morning everyone

Welcome to the thread Pavalova. Well done on getting to Day 6 - I think that physically you should be starting to be over the worst now, but mentally, the hard part goes on. I'm only on Day 9 myself.

Jesus - your post was so positive and it was lovely to read.

Hello Christi, Trinity and Venus!

I'm not feeling well today, some kind of minor stomachy thing that's been going round. Nothing serious but I'm taking it very easy today. Had weird, anxiety-type dreams all night too, about work then about snakes and then about being on a train and I'd lost my ticket! Silly things but the kind of dreams that make you feel a little bit "off" all day.

Hope everyone has a great Saturday.
I will not be drinking!

pavalova · 14/08/2010 10:28

Are you sure that it is not a faulty keyboard like mouse??!

Thanks for the support, I will ignore the voice the best I can and plan that

TODAY I WON'T BE DRINKING :)

pavalova · 14/08/2010 10:38

Hi maddogs, I think you are right about the physical thing. Apart from a tongue ulcer I do feel better, it is the mental chattering to deal with. Sorry to hear you are not feeling well and have had weird dreams. Hope your day improves.

Hello to everyone else and hope you have a good day.

Mouseface · 14/08/2010 11:31

Trinity - it was me re the fizzy mega Vit B drink. It takes abot 2 weeks for them to 'hit' your system and feeling like shite on day 5 is about right. Sorry you do though.

pavalova - hello and welcome aboard the bus!!!

venus - have a wonderful time!! Hope it stays dry for you!! It's blardy awful here!!

JWN - you must have the same keyboard as me then! Wink

Christi - sorry DH is down.

What day am I on......... is it 12?? Confused

We have an electrician here, DH has taken 2 cats to be re-homed, the car is in for repairs after that kind soul smashed into it, I have a mountain of washing, packing and ironing to do, DS has spent the morning showing me just how bad his reflux is so he has been constantly hooked up to his feed and DD is sulking because it's pouring down.

TODAY I WILL NOT BE DRINKING!!!!!!

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jesuswhatnext · 14/08/2010 12:00

morning mouse - sounds like you have a bit of a 'day' on your hands! are you a mad old cat lady too? i have 4 Shock, i only meant to have one but more seemed to have 'turned up'

NeedsTo · 14/08/2010 12:10

Morning all Smile

Welcome pavalova - good to 'see' you here!

Trinity I take those fizzy vitamin B drinks and milk thistle - stick in with them, they're good!

Sorry you've had a bad morning with DS, Mouse (have emailed you BTW)

JWN - so pleased you're looking forward to next week's races - you'll look FAB!

Sorry to hear that your DH is down, christi

Not much planned here today - just a mammoth pile of washing to catch up with!

Hope everyone has a good weekend!

Mouseface · 14/08/2010 12:18

JWN - I gained three cats, DH gained a daughter. He so got the better deal!!!

The two that have gone are ferral. They fight, spray although they have had the snip, trash the kitchen and just make me scream!! It had got to the point where I said it's them or me!!

So they've gone and now we just have Mabel. She's so placid and chilled. She is a fluffier version of the Felix cat. She brings me half dead mice and birds but I guess that is what happens in the countryside!! Lots of snacks to catch!!!

Eew!!!!

NeedsTo

Had no internet til just now so will go and check my emails. Smile

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jesuswhatnext · 14/08/2010 12:22

ahh, the little presents, as we live slap bang in the centre of town all we get are rats, not always dead! ugghhh shiver!!

i have to go and get ready, dh is taking me out to lunch Grin lovely!!

Mouseface · 14/08/2010 12:32

Oooooo - have a nice time JWN!! Envy

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maddogsandenglishmen · 14/08/2010 14:56

Hello again!
HOpe you had a lovely lunch, Jesus.

Sounds like you're having a tough day, Mouse, hope you get a chance to relax a bit.

I would love to have a cat, but my dh hates them and claims to be allergic to them.

Trinity, hope you feel better soon.

Needsto, argh, our laundry pile is about to become intelligent and take over the world!

Today is our 11th wedding anniversary Shock Can't believe it's been that long! Or how we've made it this far to be honest.

We're going out to friends' tonight (bbq has turned into dinner because of the rain). I can feel myself thinking about "just one glass" so I'm glad I have the thought of you computer fairies here to keep me from such silliness.

MissPerrier · 14/08/2010 15:51

Hello fairies just want to shout 4 WEEKS TODAY ! Thank you all, You help me so much, even when you don't know you are Grin

MissPerrier · 14/08/2010 15:55

BTW we have 2 cats. They cleverly bring mice in and lose them, they are both too stupid to catch them, so we have to!! They have never managed to kill anything, though our boy cat injured a moth once then collapsed exhausted.

Mouseface · 14/08/2010 16:02

maddogs - HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! Have a lovely evening.

BTW - 'Just one glass' is also known as 'one more won't hurt'. Don't go there! You can do this! Just imagine that we are all stood with you, drinking juice, or a N&T (nothing and tonic_ or a mocktail!!

MissP - Congratualtions on 4 weeks!!! Well done you!!!! I'm 2 weeks on Monday!!!! 12 days today. Yippee!!

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maddogsandenglishmen · 14/08/2010 17:13

Mouse, thanks so much! I love that image - I'm totally going to imagine you are all there with me Grin