All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

[Mouseface]

Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Trying to think of reasons as to why I continue drinking but everyone I think of sounds just like an excuse:(

One day at a time all all that wasindie!

I am sure that it was definitely a smile and not wind !

Trying to set achievable weight target instead of the usual, "I want to lose 11lbs by this time tomorrow" type of nonsense!

*One day at a time AND all that!

Hi desire - don't beat yourself up. Just don't drink one day at a time... When I 'slip' people ask me why (RL people I mean.) I never have a 'reason', for me it's because I'm an alcoholic and basically I wanted to get pissed. No more no less than that. I might have wanted to get pissed because I was sad/ happy/ angry/ depressed/ whatever. That's how it can be for me anyway.

Red - thank you for the compliment! And yes, the mighty Mouse is roaring!

Wasindie - HELLO YOU!!! Lovely to see you on here again, miss your posts about life and poo!! Sorry that you are struggling still.

I get it was a smile too. You make me so broody!!

desire

I have posted these words for others in the last day or so.

Today, these are for you. Feel free to skip this post.

Firstly, I am so sorry that you are struggling so much with life at the moment.

Stop drinking. Just stop it. You have no control over your life when you drink. Or your emotions or the decisions that you make. Drink controls you and the day after you drink, you feel so much worse, life is so much harder, the sky is so much darker.......

Go and read some of the posts you have typed out when sober. They are so positive! Those few days in between your drinking bouts. You are using your drinking to hide from something, ease some form of pain, forget, run away, numb the ache.

Except we all know that drinking magnifies these feelings by thousands. Yet you keep going back there. Why?

Stop drinking. Take control. Focus on yourself. Be selfish and help yourself. Stop drinking. If you want to.

Do you want to stop?

Really?

Take control. Change small things. A day at a time. There is no magical door to 'Happyville' at the bottom of a bottle and the last time I looked, wine didn't come with a free magic wand.

Stop drinking.

Alcohol creates a little world for you. It cocoons you. It envelopes you. It controls you, if you let it.

If you can give me or any of us on here 3 good reasons to keep drinking, then I'll buy you two bottles of wine myself. Today. Sell it to me, sell me the dream as MIFLAW would say.

If not then what do you have to lose by not drinking for the next hour, the next six hours? The next 12 hours? What is the worst that can happen if you don't have a drink?

Are you going to spontaneously combust? No. I think not. Try it. Try and see if you can get through today. Just today.

Not tomorrow, we'll worry about that tomorrow. Just give yourself one day off.

Keep posting, keep busy. Plan your day out. Away from the booze. Just one day.

Read a book yesterday and one of the lines in it really struck me, it went something like "the time has come to turn around and face life as it is", found this to be very thought provoking. I want to change my life as it is but until I face up to it as it is then how can I change it?

Mouse have printed out your reply and going to give it some honest thought, if by not drinking I can become as strong as you have then I need to give it a serious go.

desire

A day at a time. Write a list of all the things that you dislike about your life, yourself.

Then, one by one, a day at a time, change something. Those little things will transform into huge achievements.

They will build together to make you a stronger, more confident person and as things do change, you will see that you can take control of YOUR life. YOU can change what you dislike.

YOU can move forward. YOU can do it.

This is about YOU and for however long it takes, YOU need to be selfish.

To save your life, the life that you want to live if nothing else.

thankyou miflaw
thankyou everyone

Wasindie - 'Lionessface' doesn't really have the same ring! But thank you.

Trinity - Is the BBQ still on? Can you focus on that for the next few hours?

Maybe you could be lionessroar! That is certainly a good description for you over these past few days !

Trinity

You are welcome.

Remember - you are not a bad person trying to get good; you are a sick person trying to get well.

S

Red

DH has just gone to MacDonald's for the girls lunch. I am being good and having dust.

Pha.

Homemade burgers and wedges for dinner though, and a large shake with fresh strawberries in from the garden!!! Yum!!!

Soup for lunch I think. Not dust really, I'm all out after cleaning yesterday!!!

Looks like my diet will start tomorrow, had a huge tuna and sweetcorn baguette for lunch! Whoops! Will definitely be on the soup tomorrow though. I love homemade burgers, yum. Very jealous. And strawberries from the garden, wow!

Red

Do you fancy doing this together then? The weight loss and kicking each others ass?

I have been following this

For a while now. I find it helps with watching what I eat vs what I burn off.

I've lost 6lbs using it so far but need to keep going.

What do you think? And anyone else? The more the merrier!!

OK mouse - let's have a double whammy of ass kicking! What's your aim?
Mine:

1. No booze. One day at a time.
2. Lose 11 lbs by Christmas.
3. Generally tone up!

Number 1 is obviously most important to me - if it's a choice between alcohol and more chocolate then it's chocolate !

Hmm......

1. No booze a day at a time. (Snap!!! )

1. Lose 6lb in 8 weeks.

1. Tone up (carefully due to SPD and pelvic issues)

1. Get rid of my jelly belly.

1. Get sexy shoulders for the festive season and those dress wearing events!!

So, diet and gentle exercise here? How about you? Are you active at all? Gym, walking, swimming? Anything like that?

oops, back now, just had to go and help dh in the office, tut!

mouse, you do sound like a lionness to me, i think you deserve help for your lovley little fella and i think you are now in the right frame of mind to start kicking some arse!

i too will have a go at the diet, i would like to lose soem more weight and tone up, i find the yoga class i have started is a real help for that, makes you 'think' about which muscles you are using!

wasindie, course it was a smile! btw, what will you be called? mum or mummy?, i personally love mummy, my dd still calls me that, dont know why, she just never got round to shortening it to mum

trinity - how are the party preparations going?

Diet here - will aim for about 1500 calories a day for nice and sensible weight loss. Will be doing loads of walking. When I stopped drinking in May 09 (for 11 months) I had loads of energy and I would get up and go for a long walk every day before work. Since I started the on/ off carry on with booze recently I have not had the energy or enthusiasm. So I am going to get back into that habit. Also have an exercise DVD to do. So it will all start tomorrow!

isnt the enthusiaiam for life an amazing thing to discover once you get sober? , i always thought i was living life to the full, i wasnt even touching the sides!