All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

[Mouseface]

Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thanks Mouseface. I know that I will feel more positive the more steps I take.

Its funny, I thought that it would be something major that would stop me drinking, not an email confirming additional childcare.

Right, I am going to do an hour of work, then dance around with DD, enjoy teatime and bathtime (rather than count down to wineoclock) and enjoy an evening not spent planning how to drink more.

I am not going to drink.

Mouse - you are 'smokin' today! There is so much wisdom and positivty in your posts. Must have been the mint Aero balls
MsGee - you sound as if you are starting to 'process' things, which I think you can only do when you stop drinking. Feeling guilt and regret is all part of that IYSWIM. I have had hideous reruns of drunken episodes playing for no apparent reason too, in the early days. Keep at it! x

Playing in my head that is

Hey MissP

Thanks! I feel really upbeat today. Must be making up for my day of woe yesterday!!!!

No aero balls....... the shop didn't have any.

Must be down to my night of weird, kick ass dreams!! Bizarre!

MsGee

Sounds fab! Enjoy your evening. And your family.

hello you gorgeous ladies!!! i have had a brilliant day, won 80 quid, so i have come home 30 quid up on the day! , had a fantastic meal, 3 N&Ts and sticky toffee pudding, ohhh scrummy!!

mouse - just read your posts, blimey, you are shit hot today!! i remember your first posts, what a difference!!

right, am off to bed now - another busy day planned for tomorrow, need to start planning my menu!

oh, btw, guess who 'pulled' today? yep, little old me, was asked out by the most handsome race official - dont worry, i let him down gently!

JWN - get you, you hotty!!!

Glad you are having such a wonderful weekend.

Oh, and I think that maybe I have a dose of the MIFLAWs...... not at all like me!

morning all!!!

mouse - dont get the cream!! the 'miflaws' really suit you!

well, had a pants night sleep due to the fact our nieghbous are away, but left their teenage boys at home!, i will go round later and make sure the mess is being cleared up properly, little sods!

got loads to do today, dinner to cook, loads of people round to eat it , so, must go and get busy!

hope everyone else is doing ok? thinking of you all!!

back later

xxxx L

Hi, have noticed much cooking and chocolate in this thread! Must brush up culinary skills...

Feeling tired and weirdly hungover this morning, despite not drinking. I even woke in the night thinking eugh, how much did I drink. DH being v supportive of decision to stop drinking. Got as far as sniffing DH wine last night but I stuck to my milk!

Lazy day here today, didn't finish all my work last night so now reading whilst watching Disney film with DD.

Hope you're all having lovely Sundays.

JWN - sorry you had a rubbish night due to neighbours! We have the same here when next door go away and leave their teenagers behind!

I sympathise! Have a lovely dinner later.

MsGee - yep, par for the course I'm afraid! What day are you on? It should soon settle. Before you know it, you'll be sleeping like the dead, but in a good way!!

Big breakfast here, housework and roast chicken later. Yum!!! I may have to cobble some sort of desert together too!!!

Hope everyone is ok?

Christi? How are you today?

I woke up with a major wobble today. Felt groggy and thick (still the cold) when I woke up, am irritable and feel lost. Not so different from when I was drinking so I feel cheated. I know I sound like a princess and I also know that not drinking wine is not suddenly going to give my lots of self confidence and direction but I was hoping it would. {sad}

I wasn't going to post because it sounds so self indulgent but then I thought maybe someone else may feel like this sometimes. I don't intend to give up giving up but the temptation is greatest for me when I feel this way.

Anyway, have had a chat with Dh who is very supportive and am going to take a picnic, the children and the dog out for the afternoon and count my blessings. Hope everyone else has a good and, by the sound of it, largely eating day. Thanks for letting me splurge. x

pavalova

Hello lovely. Read the previous threads. And parts of this one too I guess.

There are LOTS of wobbles on them! You are not alone in feeling cheated, oh no. The whole 'well, if I'm going to feel like this, I may as well enjoy myself and get pissed'

The difference being that if you had drunk to feel the way you do, you could add self loathing, regret, failure and of course the physical symptoms at the very least to how you feel today. Great huh?

It's a blip, a wobble. You are only human after all. Be gentle with yourself. You are aloud to feel like this. What you do about it is up to you and by the looks of things, you are taking control.

Take it a day or an hour ar even a minute at a time if that gets you through today.

Enjoy your family. Enjoy the fresh air. Enjoy feeling the warm sun and your skin.

You can bet your life that if you were hungover today, you would not be going on a picnic. Or if you did, you'd feel like deep fried dog shite.

pavalova - sorry to hear that you are feeling crap, sounds like Mouseface has lots of great thoughts. I'm very new to this but I do get the feeling that you feel cheated when you feel crap and haven't drank. Feeling a bit the same myself today but I keep trying to think of the bigger picture. Would feel worse with a hangover.

Mouseface - am on day 3. Hope it settles soon!
I feel so tired. Of course there is also the worry that I give up drinking and find out that its not the booze I am just crap at everything. Guess all this is normal.

hello all, must apologise i haven't time to read any of the posts, but to let you know my computer died, and am now living in an empty house for the next two wweks with no pc. Pinched dh's laptop for 5 minutes before he heads back north. I am still sober... love to you all. look forward to catching up in a couple of weeks probvably. Don't forgert me, still need your fairy vibes!!

hi msgee and pav! its early days!! i felt absolutly exhausted for the first week or so, apart from anything else, this is all quite emotional stuff, bound to wear us out!

i am taking a break from getting ready for this afternoon, its really muggy here and its its giving me a headache.

btw, its lovley to hear about supportive dhs, i find i really need him - his support and encourgment is such a help, i find i love him all the more for it! (despite the fact that i am rushing round like a blue-arsed fly and he decieded to clean his sodding fish tank! )

Firstly - 'allowed' not 'aloud'. Pha!!

Secondly - MsGee - You sound like every other drinker that has come and gone before you.

Yes, of course you are crap at everything. You are a failure, pathetic and weak.

Really? I think not. NOT AT ALL.

What you need to remember is that alcohol creates a unique little world, just for you. Your own definition of drunk is different to mine, different to JWNs and different to the next new poster's too.

Drink can make you feel on top of the world. Invincible, strong, beautiful, needed, wanted, desired, sexy, clever, charming......

OR

Worthless, pathetic, weak, insecure, ugly, cruel, empty, shallow......... shall I go on?

Alcohol stays in the system for a number of days after you stop consuming it. It varies from one person to another depending on how your body processes it.

The world it creates for you, in your mind, remains that bit longer.

What you thought you knew is no more but it will take time to move away from that state of mind.

Little steps. I promise that in three more days time, you will feel better. Stronger. Happier. In control. Worthy. Valued.

Each day that you don't drink is a day of your life that you will get back. A life that you will want to live.

You will get a taste for freedom. The freedom of not having to drink to get a high.

Life will be your high from here on in.

ALGEE!!! A QUICK SHOUT HELLO!! WELL DONE, YOU WONDERFUL WOMAN!!! SEE YOU SOON!!

L XXXXXXXXXX

algee - nice to 'see' you. You are often in my thoughts. xx

JWN - of course he's cleaning the fish tank...... he'd be in the way if he wasn't!!!

mouse - i hope you havent caught my spelling disease?

btw, wise words again!, you havent got miflaw locked in the attic have you?

mouse, he has now set the toaster on fire! , i told him we needed a new one and he rekoned there was nothing wrong with it!

i can hear him crashing about the kitchen, swearing alot, im sitting here in tears of laughter, no intention of helping him!

Fecking brilliant!!!!! I just spat diet coke out reading that!!!!

Men!!

Nope, MIFLAW is not in my attic.

I'll check the cellar.

well, i must be off, need to repaint the kitchen , oh, he is nitwit sometimes!, his mother did warn me!

see you later!

Just sending you all some lovely, encouraging, relaxing, supporting thoughts from a remote island somewhere off the coast of the world (Scotland actually, but I'm so chilled I could be off the coast of Mars, or even Venus).

Lovely to see new boys and to see all the rest doing well, or not doing so well, and everyone being honest with themselves.

Will beam in again when I return to earth. Byeeeee x

crikey, loads of new names for me to catch up with...many many more by the time I get back n line I suspect! Hello hello. Dh pcking car and then will remove his 'puter from my clutches. I miss you all. Two weeks of decorating then I'll be haeding to the frozen north to begin the next phase of my life... see you all soon.

What if you're tense, anxious and grumpy whilst sober and being a bit pissed is your only release from stresses (living with inlaws in tiny terraced house with unsympathetic partner and 2 kids under 4 plus 2 kids over 10 on alternate weekends and every Wednesday)?
Should I delay giving up the wine until the inlaws move out in Nov?
Give me it straight ladies.
My life is really shite at the moment. I detest DSP's step-father and find the lack of privacy soul-destroying and depressing.
BTW, am on a small dose of Prozac and even if I go days without drinking (which I often do) I feel only a tiny bit better.