All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

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Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

My plants are looking good. When I get the urge to press self destruct I go and give them a good misting

Moomin, it's taken me a long time to understand and be honest about my feelings - however it's the will power that I'm lacking!!!!

Here's to a happy, sober Friday for us all

Morning.

Right, I have read through most of the thread.

New Babes - steam and helpmenow welcome. (I said hi to Saffysmum last night, so I've not missed you out!)

Red - sorry you have been having money worries. I heart the bank of M&D. They have bailed me out more times than I like to remember.

In fact, we have just paid them the £4k back that we borrowed to by our current home. Thank God for parents eh?

desire - sorry about your purse.

venus - have a wonderful holiday and yay for DP being home. I read your purse story and it made me feel really uncomfortable too..... not sure why. I felt like I was you as I read it. I was in your shoes.

ginger - hello. Well done for beating your wobble!!

NeedsTo - I see you went on a bender. Well done for coming back!! Carry on getting this bus, it's a One Way Journey To Soberville!

pavalova - I see you're still going strong! It's bloody hard but worth it. Every sober minute of life you get back is worth ten of what you lost pissed!

Trinity - I love the idea of the BBQ for Neil. I wish I was near you so that I could come and help out. All of the suggestions you've had on your thread sound fab......

Hello again to lucilastic and lowenergy nice to have you back.

algee - I see you're moving house!! How exciting!!

JWN - have you fully recovered from the trauma of your DD's bedroom?

Well Salisbury was lovely, Stonehenge was boring as Hell. Now to the chores!!!

Oh, and the wine that I won on MN has just arrived!!

Hi mouse! So lovely to have you back on board!

Well done for reading everything that happened while you were gone!

How are you feeling anyway? Was the holiday restful at all?

mouse, i have a little story about stonehenge, when our kids we little, our friends were quartered at larkhill, we had all been on holiday to france, got back the day of the total eclipse of the sun, ahh we thought, wouldnt it be misystical to go and watch it up at the stones, we walked with 3 small kids for about 4 miles, got to the stones, began watching the ecplise,the crowds became silent, even the sheep shut up!, heard a blood-curdling scream, turned round to find all our dcs whacking hell out of each with the plastic swords they had bought in france mistic moment well and truely over , i tell you what, those druids have scary faces when roused!

Red - not really rested as it was the same routine for me re caring for DS, just in different surroundings. DH got a break though which is good.

JWN - do you know what? It was FULL of tourists. I think we were the only people there from the UK. We refused to pay the £6.50pp and just looked at them through the fence.

I just wanted to see them before I die, not that I plan to do that anytime soon. I just wanted to have been there. Esecially as you can't touch them or anything. I did get a tiny hint of mystic magic, maybe in my own mind!!! I always wanted them to be wonderful and to feel energised when I saw them........ oh well!!

mouse - I did the exact same at Stonehenge about 4 or 5 years ago!! Would really love to actually touch them! (Not sure why.) I thought that your 'holiday' would be like that for you - it's good that DH got to rest though. Were there any issues with you not drinking or was it all easy?

mouse, i am old enough to remember being able to sit on the stones, when we went on holiday to cornwall, M&D would take us there for a picnic on the way, dad used to park his ford anglia right next to them and mum would lay out the beef paste sarnies, while db and i ran screaming round the circle! , no japs about then dont you know!!

I am ! (At sitting on the stones. Not the beef paste sandwiches so much !

Although I am very, very hungry at the moment and would wolf down said sandwiches!

Hmmm beef paste sandwiches - about as appealing as rice pudding. (shivers run up and down spine)

Never had rice pudding. Just doesn't appeal! God, I am getting really hungry now! Mmm, WeightWatchers soup for lunch for me

It is any milk based pudding for me, since some really bad school dinners years back. A weight watchers soup, you are being good. I need to feed my cold (well that is today's excuse!)

Red - sorry parents landed to scoop DD off to lunch!!

Nope re the not drinking, I told them I was detoxing as I'd forgotten that BIL's GF is only 24 and a bit of a boozer. She was hitting to whiskey most nights! Yikes!

I did grape juice and diet coke. And hot chocolate with a blob of ice-cream in. Yum!!

JWN - see, that's what I wanted. To touch the stones.

Pha!!

Eewwwwww - milk based puddings. Not for me. I think I'll have soup for lunch too. It's like the end of the world here, black skies and raining but very humid! So maybe not soup. I just feel that way out.

Utterly fed up. Chocolate will help.

It is like that here too Mouse - dark skies and rain. I have the doors open and the lights on, not very Augusty.

It sounds like it may have been a bit hard at times when you were away. Although whiskey doesn't appeal to me (until I have had a few glasses of something else) it is the socialising thing. Well done. You realise when you opened this thread you were on 10 days.

Enjoy the chocolate - it ALWAYS helps me

Went for pate and toast in the end. Not quite as healthy!

Very dark here, very humid too. Feels like the rain will start shortly and be extremely heavy!

Roll on 5pm and the weekend! (Apart from the fact that I will miss you all!)

Thank you pav.

I didn't realise how far I'd come. I've stopped counting in days, I'm just going forward.

Right now, forward towards the chocolate in the cupboard!!!!

Enjoy the chocolate!

I have also stopped counting - for some reason I felt like it made me put some sort of weird pressure on myself. I will be sure to tell you if/ as and when I reach any 'significant' lengths of sobriety - don't you worry about that

And mouse - you have come so, so far. I remember when you crept (mouse-like ) onto this thread and you were pretty freaked out by cutting down and stopping. But you did it!!!! And you're still doing it, one day at a time x

Thanks Red xx

Hi, am wondering if I can tentatively join the thread ... I read the first one last week and a lot of the discussions struck a chord with me.

Its something I have battled with for a while whilst plodding on 'as normal'. Reading the thread made me realise that its not really normal to plan every morning not to drink that night, then to do it anyway. To feel crap every morning because I let myself down and to wonder if the drink is to blame for the fog in my head that stops me feeling on top of things, working properly etc.

I am battling whether to be here because I don't feel like I have a 'problem' but I don't want to wait till I do. I have a lovely life and I don't want to risk any of it. And yet drinking does that - even little things like drinking at night so I can't work (means an extra day in childcare for my DD) which means its already affecting my family.

Sorry for confused post. I'd like to stick around if that is ok, but perhaps just see how I go? Every day this week I have promised I won't drink - then have.

Today I would like to take control (and responsiblity)and so I am posting here to say that tonight I am going to not drink. Not sure how, but that is the plan.

A big brave babes welcome to you MsGee! Everyone is welcome - whatever stage they are at. Lots of what you have said strikes a chord with me - waking up and thinking, 'Definitely no booze today/ tonight,' then getting to whatever time and starting all over again. Ugh.

Just stick around, keep posting and sharing, try to stay away from alcohol one day (hour/ minute) at a time x

MIFLAW may be along shortly - he is very good with newcomers and usually has some scary words of wisdom.

Welcome MsGee!!

Small steps. Keep busy. Be gentle.

Well done for getting this far. Don't think about tonight...... just get on with your day.

I found that worrying about what I was going to drink in the evening, as in soft drinks, made me want vodka more. Vodka was my weapon of choice.

I miss it. I miss the hit, the warmth, the fuzz. For a second or two.

I don't miss missing my children grow up. I don't miss missing time to myself without feeling sick and shaky and ill. I don't miss damaging my health. I dodn't miss throwing money away. I don't miss wasting my day wishing it was drink o'clock. I don't miss the way my skin used to look, or the weight I've lost. I don't miss not being able to treat myself because I'd rather buy vodka. I don't miss shouting at my DCs because I'm hung over and want a drink. I don't miss passing out pissed each night.

What won't you miss?

Welcome MsGee, please do stick around. Everyone here is just taking it one day at a time.

Lovely to see you Mouse. Fantastic that you managed to stay away from drinking on holiday! I have only seen Stonehenge from the car, driving passed

Been reading thread and following and thinking of everyone. Too tired to post much, but I'm so so grateful for 2 weeks sober today.