All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

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Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

ahh ginge!! what a little sod!, how old is he?, perhaps its kick up the arse time!

well, quiet on here this evening, i am on my own, dh is playing badminton, dd is out with her friends celebrating - its been quite a nice day, had lunch my dm, she drives me insane but i love her (i do find her easier to cope with now im sober, i trail after her and mutter, helps no end, even if passing strangers think i am a loon! ) - heading towards 12 weeks - its been a long old road sometimes, but am so glad i am here, i sometimes wonder where i would be now if i hadnt stopped drinking - im pretty sure dh wouldnt be here, and the knock on of that would have been dds total hatred.

as it is, life is pretty damn good, dh and i are getting on famously, dd is behaving like a normal 18 year old, i feel better, my db and his wife now trust me to have my niece for a long weekend, my house is all comfy and homely and guess what, got a nice new contract at work this week!

i do hope i dont sound smug, im not, this could all go in a flash, i just need to pick up the first drink, right now though, im in a good place, life is sweet and i love it!

Jesus you have done SO well, it is good that you are taking the time to reflect on how you have turned your life around

hi christi, i suppose its a gratitude list really, it just seems a good idea to think about it all sometimes.

Not only that JWN but you have managed to inspire many others to re-evaluate their drinking. By starting this thread I think you have helped lots of other people.

Your success is fantastic and I think you have probably earned the right to feel a wee bit smug. I know it is still fragile situation but it is good that you are getting rewards for your efforts.

And much more importantly, following behind muttering is a key bit of advice that I will be sure to use!!

I have developed a stinking head cold but plan to stay up for mistresses then collapse. Enjoy your peaceful house

You deserve to feel proud of yourself JWN - and you have inspired so many of us. I'm right peed off at the mo - had a nice takeaway, but hubby is tucking into the wine and watching Liverpool, so I have taken my laptop to bed with yet another cup of tea. Pav - sorry you've got a cold, I've taped Mistresses and will watch it tomorrow - I suppose they'll all be knocking each other off whilst knocking back goldfish bowls of wine...great. Can someone remind me please exactly why I'm doing this?? (lol).

I am feeling your despair! For once Dh and his generous glass of red is not that appealing tonight thanks to the cold but it is tough usually. I am not sure of your reasons but for me..

I have spent at least the last year with a guilty and shameful feeling that I was not fully choosing the wine, that it was more of a need. Each day began with a sentiment that I really mustn't drink tonight and yet I always did, and usually 3 big glasses. It was a relentless cycle. I was haunted by self doubt and it seemed to be getting worse.

I may be no different without the wine but I feel that I have some control back. I just want to feel who I am without the daily crutch.

Understand that tea gets a bit dull though!

OOH ,following behind and muttering !
Do you think it might work on lazy teenagers?
Thanks for kind comments all - have had more ranting followed by a lie down .
Peace restored now .
In the past I'd have been straight into the alcohol - and the ranting and subsequent lying down would have been a lot more extreme !
Well done JWN - keep going .
Saffy - bed is a great refuge isn't it ?
Pavlova - hope you feel better soon .Have some parecetomol ?
Christi - how are you ?
Algee - where are you ,talk to us soon .

Hello.

I'm not really back, I'm sneaking on MN in between washing and drying and chores. Did you miss me?

I just wanted to say that I'm going to catch up and see what's ocurring, who's who etc........

Hello Saffysmum

...........And then be back 'in person' tomorrow.

Hope you are all ok. I'm pooped!!!!! Night.

Pav - I know what you mean. I used to get really anxious about having enough wine in the house, and would panic if there was only half a bottle left of my white. That just isn't good - I hated not "having enough" - which was usually a full bottle. And I used to look forward far too much to that bottle -and I'd glug it back even if it wasn't chilled - so it was just for the effect, not the taste. Ginger - yeah, bed is a great refuge, but I'm only here to keep away from temptation! Talk tomorrow everyone - have a good evening - going to finish my book. X

Yes Mouse ,missed you !
Get some rest and see you soon .

Thanks ginger, I think I will take some paracetamol actually. Glad you are feeling better.

Saffy - I was always aware of how much was left AND how much of it belonged to me!

Hello Mouse.

Goodnight to you all x

getting control back is what it is all about - however much we drink, if it becomes necessary to function it is a problem, if drinking worries you, then it is a problem, dosnet matter if it is a glass, or a bottle at a time
i have just become sick of it almost dictating to me, that voice that says, 'go on, you deserve it', 'go on, he pissed you off, you need one', go on, its been a long day, it will relax you' - its all a crock of shit!! that voice really can 'fuck the fuck off'!! I dont NEED it, IT NEEDS me to feed it, am im NOT going to!

so, anyway ginge, whats his next move?, did he get a uni place?

oohh pav, that dreg in the bottom of the bottle was always mine!

JWN - DC planning to repeat year 13 . Was the plan ,and agreed with school earlier in year .
He did a mix of resits and one A2 this summer .
Idea was to concentrate on the one A2 and get it out of the way ,but I don't think getting a D is getting it out of the way .
And I just know that he didn't maintain his momentum taking his last exam ( an A2 unit ).
He had a 2 week gap before it and I feel he just gave up .
Which makes me think ...how would someone with that level of motivitation manage in HE ?
And he has ( believe me ) not an iota of an idea about work,other courses ..

Morning all - hope you're all bright and breezy!!

Morning all .
Am soooo pleased I managed not to drink yesterday - it would have made it all worse and would have meant today would continue the gahstliness .
JWN - so agree ,I'd have been drinking to get me through my emotional meltdown ( which of course involves more than A level results ) and you are so right - it's all a CROCK OF SHIT !
Pav ,how's the cold ?
Off to sort stuff now .
Not drinking today .

Good morning everyone!

Nice to see you sneaking back on the thread mouse! Looking forward to hearing more.

JWN - loved your gratitude list.

Thank you everyone for listening to my worries re money yesterday... I made an approach to the Bank of Mum and Dad last night. The loans department (Dad) were extremely understanding (although a bit cross and upset) so that was hopeful. However the collections department (Mum) will now have to be brought into negotiations which will be a lot trickier! However I am feeling a lot better for getting it all into the open - feel like a weight has been lifted.

Went to a meeting last night and I did not drink! Money worries were always a sure-fire thing to send me to the bottle so that's a small victory in itself.

Here's to another sober day babes!

Morning ginger - what a victory in the battle to avoid alcohol you had last night, well done!

morning moomin!! see, i knew your mum and dad would help!, you'll just have to eat a bit of humble pie for a while!, it wont hurt you and you'll get sorted! btw, my m&d always worked on exactly the same lines, df would lend me a few hundred and forget, dm, even now! will lend me 50p and remind me until i have repaid!)

ginge - i understand totally where you are coming from, i just wonder, would your ds be better off on a vocational training course, or an aprenticeship type of thing - ime, some kids are just not right for the school environment and flourish once they are out of it iyswim?, maybe he would respond to an employer treating him as a man?, hope you dont think i am being cheeky, i have just known a few kids like this.

Day 4 today. In the usual day 4 fashion 'cos I feel so good the little voice is telling me that just 1 will be fine.

So I'm imagining what will happen if I have the 'just 1' - it will turn into several trips to the off licence, spending money that would be better spent on other things, feeling like shit tomorrow, drinking more to get over the hangover, buying 20 fags and undoing the good work that I've done etc etc etc...

I was watching a prog. on Channel 5 last night about Charles Manson. The Manson family (some bits were dramatised) were depicted lounging around smoking, taking drugs, drinking - generally getting off their heads. And for a few minutes I was jealous - then had to give myself a shake and remind my self that this was the fecking manson family that I was jealous of!!!

Anyway, today I will not drink, smoke, take drugs or emulate the manson family in any way

I loved your post lowenergy! I have moments like that too when I feel jealous of the most inappropriate people. Total madness! You sound really sorted about your feelings. Brilliant! I think what you are doing is, 'watching the film to the end,' and seeing what happens after that first drink.

JWN - I think that I will always be Daddy's little girl to be honest! My mum sees right through me - unfortunately!

Morning fairies
Moomin well done that woman, I glad you feel better today
Ginger you a star for not drinking last night. I have teenage sons so I can empathise with you.
Lowenergy how are your plants? I'm trying to emulate the Walton's this week
JWN (Chief Fairy) thankyou again for all this, checking in each day really keeps me focused.

STAY focused

ha lowenergy, i now need to change todays mantra

TODAY WE WILL NOT BE DRINKING OR MURDERING ANYONE!!

('specially not my mum, will do more muttering!!