All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

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Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

I am just not a flirt (I am sure that I thought I was a fabulous flirt as well as gorgeous and irresitible when pissed!) but I wish I could be!

*irresistible. Cannot spell/ type or flirt!

Getting nervous here babes...........

You lot crack me up
Moomin stay cool. x

Thanks MissP! Just got a bit of sick feeling in my stomach and sweaty palms. Nice! Still, I must hold onto the fact that I am actually being responsible here and trying to face up to the problem. (Of being shite with money!) Funnily enough, worried and nervous though I am, the thought of alcohol has not crossed my mind. So that's good!

Well done to your daughter JWN. My daughter's boyfriend got three As and and B, and is hopefully off to the University of East Anglia to do Literature, so we are all thrilled for him. I said I'd treat us all to a takeaway tonight to celebrate, so that will be odd for me, to have a treat without a glass of wine. Did well again last night, but felt very niggly and hard done by, which is just stupid. Didn't sleep well again, which doesn't help. I also smoke, but have cut down a lot over the last few weeks, but I can't stop completely whilst I'm quitting the booze. Drinking a lot of tea and decaf coffee. Have blitzed the bedroom, sorted out my wardrobe, so feel pleased about that. Just trying to keep busy, busy, busy....X

You're doing really well Saffy. I think most of us understand the hard done by/ niggly feelings! It's all totally normal - as is the crap sleep. It does all get loads better. I smoke too - I am not worried about it for the moment!

(And well done to your DD's boyfriend! Enjoy the takeaway for what it is - some lovely food you don't get normally - instead of an excuse to drink. Which is what I would have done!)

Well done JWN's DD!!!

I have been THE bear with the sorest head in the world this morning. No one has escaped my wrath today

Still, I've been out and treated myself to some nice new houseplants so I am going to stare at them and try and chill out.

Thanks Red. There's this horrible little voice in my head that tells me that I don't drink heavily, I am healthy and well and that I don't need to give up. It's a bit like Mrs Doyle in Father Ted, nagging away at me..."go on, go on, go on, ya will, ya will, ya will". I keep telling her to F off!

Quite right too saffy! I think JWN's favourite is 'fuck the fuck off!' It seems to help!

Hello lowenergy! You might be grumpy but you are sober! Enjoy the plants

Saffy Ive got that nasty little voice too, it gets around! It likes telling me that 'no way am I an alcoholic, just over reacting! Get a grip' Yep tell it to shut the fuck up
at lowenergy staring at her houseplants.

They should make a film about us lot and call it...
Women who stare at plants

OK being a bit hysterical now i'll go and hoover something

It sounds odd but it can be helpful to visualise your alcoholism or drink problem (whatever you want to call it) as a person or a monster inside you and to react (and address it) accordingly. Giving it a "face" helps, I find.

Thanks MIFLAW

Blimy just re read my post Saffy I wasn't telling you to get a grip, that was meant to be what my little voice says to me IYSWIM sorry

That's ok Miss P - I knew what you meant! I think a lot of my problem is that many of my friends drink a lot more than me, so naturally I compare myself to them, and think "actually I don't drink too much" - whereas deep down I know damn well I drink far more than I feel comfortable with. So there's this constant internal battle which is driving me nuts. Really helps to know I'm not alone though.

Well babes, thanks for all the good vibes... The appointment went horribly and I am trying not to cry! Anyway, I think that I will either have to make an appointment with the CAB or else visit the Bank of Mum and Dad. FFS I am 33 I should not still have to approach my parents for help! Feeling really blue and in a bit of a panic but I have no urge to drink and I am off to a meeting tonight. I am sure that everything will be OK in the end no matter what I do

Oh Moomin, I'm so sorry to hear that it went so badly :(

No wonder you are feeling so blue.I guess the positive way to look at it, is that things would only have become worse if you had not faced it.

Well done for going to a meeting and not drinking.

I know exactly what you mean, usually my internal debating society starts midweek, and by the weekend I am so sick of it I give in. I guess the only way to shut it up is to stop drinking. I haven't had any alcohol for nearly 5 weeks now, and things are a lot quieter in my head. If that doesn't sound too bonkers One thing I do know is that we are not alone!

Thanks maddogs. Feeling shit at the moment but I am at work which is probably a good thing as I have to think about other stuff. Ugh ugh ugh. You are so right that it would just have got worse. At least I can stop the rot now.

MissP - nearly 5 weeks, that's brilliant!

Hi Moomin. Sorry you feel blue. I am a Mum of teenage boys and I can honestly say I would want to help them what ever age they needed it, and would be upset if they didn't come us. Don't feel bad, being 33 doesn't matter, having a mum and Dad you can turn to is wonderful. Enormous hug zooming your way (hoovered this one especially)

Thanks MissP - I know that my dad will help me if he can. It's just that he will be disappointed that I have got myself in this situation and I will feel about 12 years old! Oh well.

And thank you for the hug!

Oh Moonin I know that feeling, my Dad made me feel about 12 recently after I pranged my car!! and i'm 45