All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

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Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Wanted more or couldn't help having more?

I want a £500 suit but I manage to put of buying one when to do so would be a bad idea.

Hate to interrupt when MIFLAW's in full-on 'MIFLAW- mode... However, I need to make my fond farewells until tomorrow morning, I hope that everyone passes a sober and serene and safe evening. Catch up tomorrow x

If I say I couldn't help having more then that sounds like I had no choice, but I know I had a choice, all I had to do was put the glass down or fill it with water but I didn't.

"full-on 'MIFLAW- mode"?

You ain't seen nothing yet.

MIFLAW - if I was JWN I would post something suitably flirty at this point. But I'm not so I can't!

Heading home now, wishing everyone a peaceful night.

Stay safe desire

Hi Cid. Getting into your pjs is good if it helps you to avoid alcohol (assuming here that there is none in your house).

Feeling crap is pretty usual in the first couple of days. It is ok. Just focus on today. There is a possibility that you have damaged your liver, but our amazing bodies are actually phenomenonaly good at stopping us from dying, so at the moment do not let that worry you overmuch. Concentrate today on being sober, and then as the days pass without alcohol, notice how much better you feel.

Are you in UK? Scotland or Northern Ireland if your dc are back to school? No point in feeling guilty about what you have not done with them, focus instead on how great you can be with them EVERY day when they come home from school and you are not pining for a drink, or worrying about your health.

Go for it. I can recommend it x

Hello everyone - have ,and still am , lap top less and reliant on internet cafes .
But I'm not drinking ,but I wish I felt more confident that it would last .
The not projecting I find ,like not possible .
My most major wobble was when I was feeling useless and bad about myself - I just thought ,what does it matter .
But I did then manage to think it would mak me feel worse .
Anyway hugs to everyone ,great to see somany new people .
Great Algee ,Mouse ,Trinity ,Wasindie ( and every one else I've forgotten ,sorry ) are still around .
Have to go ,the background noise of videos in this place is doing my head in !

I'm NOT DRINKING tonight ,and this thread helps me .
Bless you all .

Wow, lots of messages today. I avoided turning on the computer earlier because I wanted to save reading this thread as a treat. Now so many comments I can't keep up.

Welcome Cid, really pleased you are here.

For those who have had a drink and then come back - I think you are really brave. I am terrified that if I do drink once then I will just give up trying. I think by brushing yourselves down and starting again shows real strength and perhaps you care about yourselves more than you think. I hope that didn't sound patronizing - it was really meant to be admiring.

Ginger. Good for you for finding a way of keeping in touch. Never mind about how long you can make this last, please just think about now, and keep on thinking about now and just for the next minute, enjoy being sober. And then just keep on doing that when ever you think about drinking.

Pav. Similar message. Do not think about what you might or might not do if you had a drink. Stay close and use everything you can possibly find to keep yourself strong. Have you tried any AA meetings? There (and here) you will find a mixture of people who have stayed sober for a long, long time and also those who have more recently had a drink. But for each the stength seems to be in keeping on coming back. Whatever.

thanks venus .
Am I right in thinking you didn't drink for a long time ,and then did ?
Or was that some one else ?
Just gives me strength to think I'm not alone .Pavlova - ooh ,I think the same about being brave to come back after a slip .
I'm not sure I'd be brave enough - though everyone is so kind and supportive here .
I'm not drinking tonight !
( they've got the video off ! )

algee lovely to see you earlier today and hope you are doing OK.

christi how is your day going? you do know that whatever other crap is going on, having a load to drink isn't really going to help. Actually it is not going to help at all. You first came on this thread for a reason. And that must have been that you could not control your drinking just by willpower. So use the support of others on here, take some strength from what they can say, post on here the crap that you are feeling. Just don't disappear into a fog of booze. It really won't solve anything.

ginger you do not have to be brave to come on here (whether it is for the first time or the second or the third or whatever). After all we are just a bunch of alkies. You have already done the bravest thing - you have admitted to yourself, and to us, that you have a problem with alcohol. Now you just have to work out the best ways of keeping yourself sober. " simples " as that annoying advert says

Thanks Venus. I am feeling quite strong at the moment but I do worry about having a drink. I worry that one will become four and then one blemish on the record will make it easier to repeat, if you know what I mean. I guess I am taking strength from those who have stumbled yet not given up. Well done to them.

I haven't tried AA, at the moment I think I can do this on my own. I am a bit rubbish at seeking help, actually I am not that great at accepting that I might need help in the first place. In a way, I am only just recognising that I have become properly dependant on a daily drink. I have started to morph into my dad. There are a few light bulb moments happening for me and I am a bit raw and painfully shy of opening up. It is just about manageable here, where no-one can 'see' me.

I am getting so much support just following your journeys and I am truly grateful for that. It has been enough to get me here to day 8 and tonight I will not be drinking :)

hi everyone, nice to see ginger about!

pav - i have had a major wobble this evening, been very resentful, had a tantrum, generally been a bit of a madam - guess what bought it on!! a fucking property programme!! these people where outside toulouse, looking at these wonderful farmhouses, it was sunny, warm, vineyards were growing, ahh blissful, i thought! then i thought again, 'how can i possibly go back to rural france on holiday, i cant have a fucking drink or dh will go mad, so, whats the fucking point'!!
ohh the mind of an alkie, i have got cross about an imaginary holiday, that i havent wanted, that we wont be going on!! , what a waste of bloody energy!! its called projection! and at times i am a master of it!

AND, just to show what a spoilt ungrateful mare i am, while i was having said tantrum, dh was sitting in a miserable church hall, without having had any dinner, listening to tales of misery at al-anon

so, the moral of the tale is, dont watch property programmes!!

cid, nice to see you here btw!

Hi all,

ginger - you might have been thinking about me? I went for about 10 or 11 months without a drink and then 'slipped' and have been slippery ever since! However I just keep on trying.

Hello pava and cidre! Cidre - feeling bloody awful at this stage is pretty normal BUT it does get better, quickly (possibly quicker than we deserve!) Don't worry about your liver/ health at the moment. Concentrate on not drinking one day at a time for the moment.

Hello to venus and JWN too! Sorry about your wobble JWN! But you got through it. Bloody property programmes, ha ha!

Just thought I would surprise everyone by getting on here tonight! x

Hello everyone.

I had a disasterous weekend - went on a major binge on Saturday night and fell out (over the 'phone) with an old friend over really trivial stuff.

I said some really horrible things - things I'd have never said if I was sober. I can't even remember half of the night.

Spent yesterday with the worst hangover I've had in years - felt shaky, sick but worst feeling of all was the hazy memories of what a twat I'd been (or indeed am).

Today was the worst day - extreme paranoia (I tend to relive events but then make things up that haven't even happened and make myself think I'm going mad) and battled with the feeling the feeling that I just wanted to curl up and die.

However I've beaten myself up enough and crucifying myself with self-loathing isn't going to help.

Just got to dust myself off and start over again - luckily my old chum is coming to see me tomorrow so I can (hopefully) say sorry and build bridges.

Sorry for such a memememe post - hope to be more positive tomorrow.

Ah a danger I had not imagined - those devious property programmes!!

Well done for working through your wobble. You have a great way of describing the ludicrous way the alkie mind works, I can relate completely. Hope your dh got something out of the al-anon meeting.

needsto - no need to apologise. I, for one, have been exactly where you are now. The paranoia is crippling.

So pleased to see that you are not going to keep beating yourself up. Thank God for that!

Just pick yourself up, brush yourself down and start again. (Just as you said.)

We are here for you! (We're all here for each other!)

Nice to see you in the evening moomin, hope you are not still at work .

Hi venus - not at work!! I'm at my parents' so can use their laptop. They are probably wondering what on earth I am doing