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Fab & Glam 11 - A New Chapter

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Tanee58 · 11/08/2010 19:07

I figure that the reason I haven't been able to post all day, is because we've run out of thread - again!! Hope you all find this, my fellow Teabags. Are contenders for the longest-running MN thread?

Anyhoo, TFM, I have a tent, and an inflatable mattress. And I quite fancy a trip oop north!

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Tanee58 · 11/08/2010 19:13

PS DP is being very nice - moved into 'reel her in' mode I guess, after a week of being polite strangers. Even doing cooking. And when I get home late (which I do every day atm), he tells me how much the cats are missing me! Projecting his own need, as usual . Well, I am going to enjoy that, whilst still getting my finances sorted out. Getting the house valued tomorrow and contacted another financial adviser to get more than one opinion and a few quotes on remortgaging. Once I've got all my figures ready, I shall zap him with them - then he has to choose - stay and get treatment, or take his money and go. I'm feeling very empowered now, despite having the threatened beginnings of a cold.

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ginnny · 11/08/2010 20:01

Go Tannee!!!
I always find the charm offensive harder to take than the drunken crap.
Stay strong lovely. You are doing the right thing.
x

ladylush · 12/08/2010 01:11

Nice work Tanee
I quite fancy a trip oop North as well but haven't got a tent - will a child's sun cabana do?! Any boutique hotels near you TFM? Might be nice to spoil myself But maybe we could arrange two meet ups? One in London soon and a later one near TFM. Aren't HW and Baffy oop North too? Lilyloo is in Scotland I think?

ladylush · 12/08/2010 01:12

Tanee - tell him the cats think he needs treatment

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Tanee58 · 12/08/2010 13:04

Lush - I'll try that! Oh, and my tent sleeps 3 (two for comfort, 3 at a squeeze) - you're welcome to share.

Well, we seem to be up for Vintage G oodwood, after usual DP confusion over whether we're staying over Sunday night or not! He seems quite cheerful, and our friends are still speaking to us!

Had a depressing chat with a mortgage adviser last night, with my low salary, she couldn't find anyone willing to remortgage with the extra to pay DP off - in fact, no one would even lend me the amount we've already got! So, am expecting a valuer this afternoon, must give the house a hoovering, and an agent has got my details and says she will look out for a nice, spacious two bed with garden for me. DP's going to be gobsmacked when he finds out what I've been up to. Am I really, really evil?

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Givenchy · 12/08/2010 20:18

No Tanee - you are being very sensible.

Givenchy · 12/08/2010 20:19

I am feeling very dissatisfied in my private life at the moment. Despite everything else going really well, I feel lonely. I have lots of friends but need someone to cherish me. Am I NEVER going to be happy?

Givenchy · 13/08/2010 08:29

Ignore my miserable moan. I'm ok really.

SandSad · 13/08/2010 09:16

Hello

Ladylush pointed me over this way. She's been fabulous on my thread of sadness after H confessed his sins, and she suggested I drop by here.

So Hello.

ladylush · 13/08/2010 12:24

Welcome Sandsad

Tanee - No you're not being evil at all hon.

Givenchy - yanbu. You deserve to be cherished

ladylush · 13/08/2010 16:04

Tanee - hope you have a lovely time at Vintage Goodwood Oh and re city breaks........would dd not like Barcelona. I defy anyone to not like it - especially an artistic person. Sorry to hear mortgage consultation didn't go well but is it possible lenders might relax a little as the economy improves?

ladylush · 13/08/2010 16:04

Oh and thanks for the offer of a place in your tent I've got a sleeping bag

ginnny · 13/08/2010 17:07

Tannee you're not evil, just doing what you've been pushed into. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY!!!!
Givenchy - you moan away, you do deserve to be cherished and your H needs a good kick up the arse imo. I love all your jewellery on FB by the way, you are sooo talented
Hi sandad! You've come to the right place, we'll look after you . Put a link to your other thread on here, then we can all have a read and give you our tuppenceworth!!!

TimeForMe · 13/08/2010 17:28

I'm loving the thought of a Teabag camping session in my garden!! I have some superb outside light thanks to a wonderful manager at the council who has made it very clear he fancies me

I can picture it now, us lot drinking pear cider and yakkering until the early hours. I want to sleep in a tent too though!!

ladylush · 13/08/2010 17:37

I don't think I'd get much sleep in a tent but it sounds fun TFM - is he dishy?

TimeForMe · 13/08/2010 19:49

you could have my bed Ladylush!

Erm not dishy as such but he is nice. He is very sweet and has taken good care of me In a professional way you understand It's just to know there are actually some nice men out there, and that they find me attractive!!

ladylush · 13/08/2010 21:04

He sounds nice I'm not surprised he likes you Thanks for offer of your bed (bed council man would be jealous )

We're going away for the night next week (anniversary). Really looking forward to it

ladylush · 13/08/2010 21:05

meant to say bet council man would be jealous. Beds on the brain!

TimeForMe · 13/08/2010 21:22

He is nice. We are in text communication until the early hours of the morning too! I'm just thinking of all kinds of excuses not to encourage him but at the same time liking the attention. Basically I'm scared of getting involved.

I hope you have a lovely night away. I hope you don't mind me saying but I read through your thread today, the one you linked to on sandsad's thread, you really did go through a lot Ladylush but you handled it amazingly well. I'm am so pleased that things turned out well for you, you certainly deserved them to xx

SandSad · 13/08/2010 22:19

Thank you for the warm welcome

Here is my thread

its a bit surreal. Can't quite believe it is my thread - but the support I have received has been phenomenal and so many people, such as Ladylush, has shared their stories.

What is the origin of this thread? Seems that everyone has been (put through) the mill a bit, but has come out the other end - or is that completely wrong and you are all, in fact, swishing around like Joan Collins, wearing heels on the school run and generally being Fab & Glam as I presumed the thread to be? Its one of those threads I've seen but not read - and it is very lovely to be invited to.

If anyone is camping Oop North, I can provide hot chocolate (with Baileys) and toast if you get scared and want to come inside

TimeForMe · 13/08/2010 22:45

Welcome Sandsad

I have read your thread today and I would like to say how much I admire you, you are handling your situation with much dignity.

Now I can't speak for the rest of the Teabags but yes, I do swish and I do wear full makeup and heels for the school run! We are a very glamorous bunch we ladies

Do you live ooop North too? I'm in the Huddersfield area. Hot chocolate with marshmellows while sat round a camp fire wrapped in blankets sounds divine! i think we should do it! I could still use my hair dryer if we were only in the garden!!

Givenchy · 14/08/2010 09:31

Oh, I swish too, but in Birkenstocks! I seem to have forgotten how to wear heels since I put on so much weigt. Now I have lost it again, I feel all wobbly on them! I DO do lippy all the time though...

H really pissed me off last night. A car overtook me last night and a huge stone hit the side of my car. I told h and he said, 'Were you driving too close to the car in front?' .

I just said, 'No, the car was overtaking me at the time. It wasn't MY fault'. Bloody men.

ladylush · 14/08/2010 09:32

ha ha Funnily enough I thought the very same thing as you Sandsad and didn't even glance at the thread prior to being invited - thinking I wasn't glamourous enough to even read it

Hot chocolate, marshmallows, toast and a camp fire. Honestly what more could a jaded mother want

TFM - thanks, so kind of you to say I didn't realise I hadn't linked before. Don't think I knew how to do links then Yes, have come a long way since then (helped +++ by you lovelies) but can still vividly remember how I felt at the time and some threads in particular strike a chord - such as sandsad's. At the time it was Baffy's. Am listening to dd babbling away on the rug in front of me, and do appreciate how lucky we are as it could have easily been very different. You and council man texting in the early hours How extremely unprofessional of him Yes, he must be very keen Can totally understand you being scared about new relationships. Just take it slow. There's no rush is there

TimeForMe · 14/08/2010 10:15

I think your DH is very lucky Ladylush, it could have turned out so much differently if you hadn't been so strong, determined and mature about things. It's so nice to have a happy ending. You must have thought that you had something worth fighting for

I know what you mean about some threads striking a chord. I find I don't like reading those threads that remind me of my own situation, they throw me right back to a place I don't want or like to be. DD has been away on holiday with him this week and that has caused me enough emotional upset. I actually started to miss him and wish things could have been different. Mind you, I suspect that was caused by him sending me text messages from her via his phone, they were quite loaded messages and obviously from him as well as DD. The the postcard came and DD had written "not the same without you" at the bottom. I'm sure that was a message from him too as it isn't something DD would think to put. I'm back to my senses now though. I did once tell him that if he had had an affair I could have forgiven him, we could have worked through it but this, the abuse, that is something I don't think you can work through and forgive. He was of a different opinion though, he thinks an affair marks the end of a relationship and that what he did to me wasn't worth throwing everything away for I think the forgiving of the abuse is what gives them message it's ok to carry on and abuse some more. And I certainly don't want any more of that! I've had enough of that to last a life time!

Council man ensured that I had his personal mobile number a few weeks back. He gave it to me in case of any emergency Awh bless him. He really is lovely. I'm just not so sure I want to be involved with anyone just yet. A camp fire, hot chocolate with marshmellows and all the Teabags appeals much more to me at the moment

Dior you are in exactly the same situation as Tanee, going round and round in circles with H, following the same pattern. You have so much going for you, you do not have to put up with this!! you can do something about it.

Givenchy · 14/08/2010 10:18

Yes, and apparently I didn't HAVE to start at WW again, so I don't NEED to be tired. Despite only starting all of this to help out with family finances . Only he is allowed to be tired because he does full working days. I worked last night until 10pm, but 'relaxed' all day before that, so couldn't possibly be tired...

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