Tradesman just made me cry

[Fluffyelephant]

I know it’s probably silly to be so upset but I’m really shaken up.

Having a nightmare with our house renovation. People cancelling, not showing up.

Finally had a guy in today (recommended by another tradesman). Long story short I was in the room next to where he was working and could hear him getting angrier and angrier in there: ‘FFS!’ every few minutes and slamming things more and more aggressively.

Eventually heard him say to himself ‘that’s it I’m finished’ and he started moving his tools. I went in, job was about 60% done and he was so angry. Like “I’m finished. Not doing anymore. People effing changing the job. Changing the date. Wasting my time. This b&q stuff you’ve got is shit.” It was so horrible. Then he stormed out. I told my partner what had happened and started crying so my DP ran out to the van outside and I was shouting ‘Don’t! Dont!’ The guy threatens him and then drives away.

Agh. Absolutely horrible. Really shaken up. Just feel like I’m cursed with this renovation. Feel like it was my fault for not making the details of the job clearer.

Not sure what the point of this post is. Just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced similar. And if so how do you keep it together?!

Nope and didn't pay him afterwards either. He didn't ask for payment, that's the only positive really.

This?

Well he was only here 1 hour. It was always supposed to be a small job and I would essentially be getting overcharged because they had a minimum fee that I would have to pay.

I think he just thought he could do the job (and quickly) and then found out it wasn't so simple and got increasingly angry and eventually thought ' this'.

I've got nothing to hide.

And the post was asking for advice or sharing of similar experiences.. so if you can't do either of those, maybe move along...

@Fluffyelephant so what was the job then??? is it a simple job or did you not tell tradesman what you wanted done?

In future don’t deal with tradesmen at all if your partner is present. Leave it to him.

Similar experiences...of a tradesman so frustrated by a job that he didn't charge for his time. I think that was a unicorn event.

Not OP’s responsibility to manage two men so they don’t get violent with each other. 🤷🏼‍♀️

what were you having done?

I had a plumber come to do a 5 min fix on a leaky radiator - took him over an hour and he took some of the floor up so had to replace it - bless him the young lad, all i could hear from downstairs was FFS

That’s another thread, I would imagine.

So what was he planning??

This is my thoughts too, OP you say it should’ve been a small job, was it not? Did you change what had been asked for? These comments are very specific complaints.

Don't know why people are being weird about this. I'd find it really upsetting to have someone shout at me in my own home. It's meant to be your safe space, plus renovations are stressful. Weird that people can't see that! Hope you're ok. And my DH is super chilled and easygoing, but he'd def check to make damn sure someone was going PDQ if that person had sworn and shouted at me in our home.

Those people questioning the dh - OP didn't say he was going out to be violent to the guy? He was probably going out to ask what the hell was going on! My DH would be the same I think.