Would women who owns house date a guy who doesnt

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Was thinking this over the other day due to a friend being in this situation. Would most women who own a house be wary of dating a guy who rents?

Not necessarily. Lots of divorced men will have left the ex wife with the house because of the children, and could not afford to buy another for himself.

Yes.
Although when we bought our home together, I ring fenced my deposit (from the equity of my own home) so that my children would inherit that percentage of the house.

Yes I'd possibly date but not marry or let him move in.

My house is high in equity and I can't risk is given I bought exh share when we divd.

Yes they may have kept their pension in favour of equity. A wise move in many respects.

In my 20’s yes. But now i’m in late 30’s and own two houses and me and DH have established business together. If i were single, I wouldn’t want men who are below me. I think men my age should be able to have a good career and a house.

Yes,

I own my own home (with a mortgage), am a high earner, and have also built a significant pension pot, and am now in my early 40's.

I would (cautiously) date a man who wasn't in a similar financial situtation, but highly unlikely I'd let him move in or marry him without a solid pre-nup.

I married a man who didn't own property when I did. His financial situation certainly wasn't on my mind when we dated.

No.

I live in Toronto. Most can't afford to buy a house?

So does it work in reverse?

I wouldn't date someone who rents, no. Unless they are so wealthy that throwing their money away on rent every month barely made a dent.
I've worked hard to get myself financially secure and wouldn't want someone to piggy back on my situation.

I think good relationships are built on different things than that in all honesty. Also there are so many factors there! Not owning a house doesn't mean bad with money.

My fiance owned a house when we first meet and I was in a house share.

He ended up having to sell the house ( nothing to do with me) and I was able to match his deposit so we bought a nicer house together.

Have a friend in work who let out her house when her and her now husband bought together. She alluded once to it being ringfenced and therefore not a marital asset( I have heard this before but not sure of the legality of it).

In a hypothetical situation i may be weary of marrying someone and my house becoming the marital home making them entitled to part of it. However when you flip that and have posters on here saying I live in my partner's house, he won't marry me people rightly ao say he's a prick. More so when there are kids involved.

Yes, we drew up an agreement setting out how much equity was mine in the event of divorce (my deposit plus all the capital I had paid off before we married) - it's not legally binding per se but would be strong evidence in the event of divorce and we won't be having kids to muddy the water. That's just common sense.
I am happy to share the mortgage payments and the equity with him since marriage as he has many skills and has done a lot of work on the house and increased the value so even though he didn't put capital into it he has invested time and created value.
ETA I had only had the house 2 years when we got married so it will become much more of a shared asset the longer we are together!

Read Grant Cardone. He is a billionnaire and refuses to buy a house to live in! Not everyone likes owning. His reasons are quite valid!

Wouldn't raise it on the first date. I was renting, but could afford a good-sized home in cash due to an inheritance. He started to poke around to see whether I owned and it put me off him. It's rude on first date; it put me off because I didn't want to move in with him after he weighed up my finances (he had a small flat with a mortgage). Besides, life is hard. If I had nothing, I wouldn't want to have been humiliated and disclose my lack of wealth to an almost stranger.

What, I'm married and will own a house my husband does not.

Whats it got to do with anything?

I own not dating right now but my plan would be to leave the house to dc. For fun I wouldn’t mind but I wouldn’t consider a serious relationship with someone if I thought they were going to turn out to be a cocklodger or on the hunt for a nurse with a purse I’ll be in my 50s though . It’s different pre kids in your 20s

odd question to be asking in the 21st Century, you might as well ask the question should rich men only date rich women or poor but young ones?

yes money differences can wreck relationships but it is hardly the deciding answer when walking up the aisle

Wouldn't bother me, no

No

No - unless he seemed more interested in my house than in me! I dated one man who was still living with his ex (her upstairs, him downstairs, kitchen rota). The atmosphere was tense! I asked him why he stayed there and he said when he met the right woman (i.e. one with a house and space for him) he'd be 'off like a shot'. I dumped him soon after.

I think it's fine. Moving forward though, it'd be wise to protect her assets especially if they remain unmarried and he moves in.

Mind you, you could twist this around the other way. My friend came here to escape an abusive marriage abroad. She met a chap you was a millionaire, she had nothing other than a cleaning job and children with her parents abroad. He gives her lots of money, has paid lots in Court costs to get her family here and treats her children well and pays for activities he encourages. He doesn't mind one bit, as they're both really happy and he has someone and a family to share his life with.