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Would women who owns house date a guy who doesnt

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Lm1981 · 26/05/2024 15:27

Was thinking this over the other day due to a friend being in this situation. Would most women who own a house be wary of dating a guy who rents?

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Advocodo · 18/04/2025 08:24

i would in my 20/30s but not in my 50s or older. We wouldn’t have the same values or outlook in life. To be its incredibly important to have a home for security.

Whynotaxthisyear · 18/04/2025 08:36

chocolatecoveredpeanut · 26/05/2024 17:45

You have to get them drawn up by a solicitor then they are.

Like a Will - you can use the one from WH Smith but if anyone contests it it's about as much use as 1 ply loo roll.

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I don’t think they are enforceable whoever draws them up.

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Lm1981 · 19/04/2025 16:37

housethatbuiltme · 17/04/2025 14:32

What, I'm married and will own a house my husband does not.

Whats it got to do with anything?

If you’re married should it not be shared?

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MollyButton · 19/04/2025 16:42

I might date - but then I have no intention of living with someone other than my children ever again.

housethatbuiltme · 19/04/2025 16:55

Lm1981 · 19/04/2025 16:37

If you’re married should it not be shared?

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nope.

I got my house due to inheritance which does not have to be shared with spouses and also spouses can be disinherited. DH will receive his own inheritance so has zero need for mine which will be passed directly to my kids upon my death.

Djchickpea · 19/04/2025 17:01

No

Augustus40 · 19/04/2025 17:09

No.

CoastalCalm · 19/04/2025 17:11

I married one , 12 years married and no drama

CoastalCalm · 19/04/2025 17:11

Should say my equity is legally ring fenced

Felinnefine · 19/04/2025 17:13

AnnieSF · 26/05/2024 17:27

Yes

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No. Not in the uk.

waitingforautumn · 19/04/2025 17:51

If it affects her decision she will be deservedly limiting her dating pool. What if Mr Right has been waiting for the right person to buy/settle down with? He might have a full bank account and be enjoying his freedom to rent and up/go when he likes in the meantime!

waitingforautumn · 19/04/2025 17:52

I’m in London and nobody can afford a house single.

Boredlass · 19/04/2025 17:54

Berlinlover · 26/05/2024 17:25

I’m with my partner three and a half years. I own my home and he rents. I’m fine with that but I will never marry him.

Imagine a man coming on here and saying that. He’d be crucified

Withoutfearorfavour · 19/04/2025 18:58

Boredlass · 19/04/2025 17:54

Imagine a man coming on here and saying that. He’d be crucified

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No he absolutely would. Not. If there’s no children involved then assets should be entirely separate.

DiscoBeat · 19/04/2025 19:30

I did years ago, but it wasn't them not having a house that was the issue. It was just that we were incompatible. I did then meet someone (now DH) that also owned his own house, but I didn't know that at first so it wasnt the deciding factor.

Mulledjuice · 19/04/2025 19:31

housethatbuiltme · 19/04/2025 16:55

nope.

I got my house due to inheritance which does not have to be shared with spouses and also spouses can be disinherited. DH will receive his own inheritance so has zero need for mine which will be passed directly to my kids upon my death.

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What will you do if he wants to get divorced.
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Glitchymn1 · 19/04/2025 19:34

What if the rent is 5k a month? Does that change anything for you?
Renting is the norm in some countries, maybe they travel, don’t like to be tied down or don’t want to deal with the maintenance.

JadedCat · 19/04/2025 19:38

AnnaMagnani · 26/05/2024 17:57

Not only did I date a man who didn't own a house, he was living with his mother in his 30s!

Married over 10 years now, no regrets.

Same here - been married to him for 22 years. He's a lovely man and I wouldn’t be without him.

Whatsgoingonherethenagain · 19/04/2025 19:39

Lm1981 · 26/05/2024 15:44

I should have put a caveat in there that if it got serious would you draw up a pre nup. While many may want to say it’s not an issue I suspect in this day and age it prob is.

You could just not get married. Then your assets remain yours.

not sure how legally binding prenups or any other “ring fencing” is on marriage. Afaik all assets are then jointly considered for divorce.

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Lm1981 · 19/04/2025 22:20

It does sound a problem unless you build the wealth from scratch together.

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shinythingspaperrings · 19/04/2025 22:24

When we met DH was renting. I lived with my mum due to needing disability adaptations. He actually moved in with me & mum and we married still living with her.

TheWiseGoose · 19/04/2025 22:26

Yes. My friend who's net worth is very high, she owns not just a huge palatial house but two 5-star hotels, she dated a man who's very broke who ended up breaking her heart.

Maitri108 · 19/04/2025 22:27

They might find him attractive, funny, intelligent, interesting and have great chemistry.

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 20/04/2025 11:32

When I met my DH he didn't have a house and I did ( we were 20 and 22). I didn't let him move in properly until we were engaged though, he stayed a few nights a week and paid for his food and treats for us, and he didn't go on the mortgage in until after the wedding.

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 20/04/2025 11:33

Together 24 years and very happy I should also add.