Would women who owns house date a guy who doesnt

[Lm1981]

Was thinking this over the other day due to a friend being in this situation. Would most women who own a house be wary of dating a guy who rents?

No.

It wouldn't put me off, no. Why would it? Getting on the property ladder isn't always easy

Turn that question around, and ask if it’s reasonable to ask.

Wouldn't bother me, dating is for fun, for having a good time. Who cares what assets the other person has.

Just need to make sure that you marry someone roughly your financial equal but just dating or living together is fine

Is she happy? Then yes.

She can date the bin man if she wants. Just because she’s dating him doesn’t mean he’s after the house in any way.

What a strange thing to ask. You don’t know his finances. He might have a huge pension that would benefit her in the future if they stayed together, or renting because he doesn’t want to tie himself to a mortgage. There could be a million reasons.

I had a house and car when I met my husband to be. He lived in a house share and had no car as he lived in London and didn’t really need one.
We got married and he moved in with me and my child.
I had worked hard to get back on the housing ladder after several years of renting after my previous LTR finished and was wary of ending up in a similar situation.
But there was no alternative if we were to progress in our relationship.
20 years later, he earns significantly more than me, is generous to a fault and we jointly own a house, so all good.
I think it really depends on the relationship and the man tbh .

I owned solo when I met DH and he was divorced and in council housing. He moved into my house which we then sold. Bought a bigger house together with a joint mortgage. My deposit is legally ring fenced if we were to split. Has never mattered a bit.

No. I've dated all sorts. Actually in my opinion men who rent think it's great. Men who have their own house get far more resentful because the woman isn't looking at them like a god because they can "provide"

I should have put a caveat in there that if it got serious would you draw up a pre nup. While many may want to say it’s not an issue I suspect in this day and age it prob is.

I did. I had my own house and my partner lived with his parents when we met. He soon moved out and bought his own place.

If there was a huge disparity or if I knew they were bad with money, yes. I think if I were in that position (as someone with nothing), I wouldn't mind signing one and if they get weird about it it could show darker intentions. They're very common now.

Are they legally binding?

What an odd question.

There are lots of reasons to not date someone, but this isn't one of them.

Yes. Whether it progresses beyond just dating would depend on his attitude to money, reason for not being on the property ladder etc. He doesn't have to be my financial equal if his other qualities balance that out.

I’m with my partner three and a half years. I own my home and he rents. I’m fine with that but I will never marry him.

As long as he doesn't want to move in, fine

Yes

In my twenties yes, in my fifties like now, no. I'm amazed how many men there are out there who either don't have a house or don't have a pension or don't have any sure security over their heads for the future. I won't be marrying so the prenup (which isn't valid/secure in UK law) doesn't apply to me.

Date, yes. Live with, possibly. Marry, no.

I wouldn’t move a bloke / cock lodger into my house but would date someone. I plan on downsizing and giving dc deposits in the future.

Dating, fine. Moving in/marrying is going to depend on the rest of their finances.

25 year old dating another 25 year old who hasn’t yet bought? Fine. Single mum in her 50s dating a man of similar age still in a houseshare? I’d be wary about marriage, as the woman has so much to lose in that situation (I’d feel the same if genders were reversed).

You have to get them drawn up by a solicitor then they are.

Like a Will - you can use the one from WH Smith but if anyone contests it it's about as much use as 1 ply loo roll.

As in owns a house out right or mortgaged?.
Mortgaged is a debt.
Renting isn't a problem.
Wouldn't bother me either way.
I used to rent. Then bought my house out right.
I'm lucky in way l got a compensation pay out so my house was just under 1 Million.
But not so lucky of my disabilities.
I spent a lot having it adapted but it's a lovely four bedroom bungalow and yes l have an indoor pool.. ( helps with my disabilities).
If a guy lived in rented.. either private or council or HA and l liked him.. I'd be fine.. l was brought up in a council house and lived in one for many years.

No.

If I was in my 20s that would be different but I am middle-aged and would expect the other person to also be a home owner by now.

So if you do not own a house, then you can not date?