school overstepping ?

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So my daughter is due to start reception in September, she is currently at private nursery. I have just found out that the school have arranged for someone from the school to visit my child at her nursery, i have not had the school she will be attending call or email me to ask if this is ok and the nursery have not contacted me to ask if this would be ok there end etc…. i’m feeling a little irritated that i have not been informed or asked if this was ok, of course it would have been if i had been asked as i understand why they do this, but to not even be in the loop of what is happening with my child has left me a little upset and i want to make a complaint but first want to make sure i’m not overreacting to the situation, any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

What's the problem with this exactly?
I expect they visit all the nurseries to introduce themselves.

This is normal procedure for schools and I have never heard of them informing parents beforehand.

I don’t think parents are informed of transition visits ahead of time here. What’s the drama? Is there a reason you need to know in advance??

This is really common. To be honest, I found it a bit odd when mine was at nursery but I believe it's the same where I teach. Don't know if the nurseries contact the parents but I don't think we as a school do. Ultimately it's in the best interests of the child and would be considerably easier for the teacher not to do it. I'd also consider whether you really want your first contact with a new primary school to be a complaint. Was there really any harm done?

This is totally standard for all schools IME and they will be doing it for all children.

This is quite normal and a good sign that the school is wanting to see their future pupils in their current setting. All part of transition to reception.

Totally normal nothing wrong with it, you should get a home visit from school as well.

This is usual transition processes and very much encouraged.
Premise is that the first meetings between school staff and children take place in the setting as it is familiar to the child.

We had a similar thread recently on this subject. It's completely normal and I'm honestly not sure why you think they are overstepping? What on earth would your complaint be?

You are being completely unreasonable. This about speaking with the staff who work with her and observing how your child interacts with others and engages with the nursery environment.

Also…I feel like this is a good introduction to the difference between school and nursery. In nursery you are told the minutiae of every day, what they ate, who they played with etc. in school, you don’t get all that info at handover and need to trust a bit more.
i remember finding this hard though so I do have sympathy for you in finding this weird.

Good advice.

By the way....a lot of what goes on at primary school you don't hear about until it's happened.
Ask your child what they did at school -
"dunno"
"can't remember"
"stuff"
Six weeks later you get the newsletter and you discover they had a performance from a local theatre group, a man with some snakes visit, Year 6 helped Reception with their Christmas songs and Prince William visited the new greenhouse.
😂😂😂

You are definitely overreacting!

They are not 'overstepping the mark' at all. She's going to be attending their school, they need to get to know her and her them. Nursery visits are all part of that process. A smooth transition is for her own good. You are being very precious about this and will really get off on the wrong foot with the school if you make a complaint about this.

Teachers are busy people. They haven't got time to contact all the parents to arrange visiting their child at nursery. They arrange with the nursery. Some nursery inform parents of the visit, others won't. Interesting that you appear cross with the school for not telling you when they're coming but you're not annoyed with nursery for not telling you.

School do not need your permission to visit your child. They're going to be in their care come September anyway. By applying to their school and accepting the place you've already given them permission to start obtaining all the information they need to know about your child.

That i was not notified on what is happening in my child's life and i would like to be kept in the loop as i feel as a parent i am entitled to be, or are we not entitled to know anything once there in the school system.

It's completely normal, and I'm struggling to see what you would even complain about?

The fact the school staff want to meet your child?

That they want to talk to the staff at her previous setting?

That they want to help make the transition easy and enjoyable?

There are going to be hundreds of things you're not consulted about now your child is starting school. You're going to be incredibly disappointed if you expect an email or call every time someone wants to talk to your child.

I think this is standard practice for children starting primary school

I'm in the US and this seems strange.

YABU, and quite dramatic.
This happened at my daughter's nursery and I didn't bat an eyelid. Completely normal procedure.

But why do you need to know? Honestly it's better if you don't lest you make it into some huge deal. You've already said you would have been fine with it happening had you known so it just seems really petty to be so cross about it?

It’s going to be a long seven years for you OP if you are ‘that parent’ right out of the traps.

How did you find out if neither the school nor the nursery told you?

We had this. I thought it was really helpful. His teacher came and gave him bits to take home - pictures of the classroom, his teachers/TA's etc and showed him the uniform etc. Seriously when he's in school you won't know anything about what they're doing all day. The school is doing what they think is best for your child to make sure they're prepared and ready to start school. Not sure what's wrong with that tbh!

Is this what you plan to be like for the next 8 years?

i would like to be kept in the loop as i feel as a parent i am entitled to be, or are we not entitled to know anything once there in the school system.

To put it bluntly, no.

You won't get an email, call, or have a meeting about every tiny thing that happens in a school.