For those whose DC did not get a spot, maybe consider it a blessing. Imagine how tough the curriculum will be if the assessments were like this. If the school didn’t think they were a good fit, so be it, it’s their loss. We all want our DC to be happy, not to find school so difficult they hate waking up every morning. Let them develop that love for learning when they’re ready. They already have parents who really care about their education, and obviously live a life privileged enough to consider private education in the first place, they are luckier than most.
I’ve been reflecting on this entire process, and I question; what is the purpose of sending children to such academically focused schools at such a young age. I do really like the fact that intelligent children are “pushed” to reach their potential, compared to other instances, like some state schools for example, where teachers have no choice but to spend a majority of their time helping children who are falling behind, and the more academically inclined can just coast. There are plenty of non-selective who will have the resources to challenge the academic children, and still support the ones who are less so. Why does this “academic push” so to speak, have to start at reception? Children taught to read at 5-6 years old can likely grasp it much quicker than children who are 3-4 years old. The same goes with writing and maths. There’s an enormous difference in concentration and focus between these ages. If the child shows a natural interest in academics from 3 years old, I do believe this should be nurtured, although I don’t know of many who wouldn’t rather be digging in the mud and swinging at the playground.
I think a lot of it is “bragging rights” for parents, whether we like to admit it or not. What’s the end goal; Oxbridge or bust?
For people considering sitting their children through these assessments in the future, the 4+ process is extremely stressful, but thankfully in most cases, this is true more for the parent than the child. My DS still asks to go on more “play dates”.