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Sensitive middle class child in rough state primary, can this ever work?

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indiemummy · 22/10/2006 14:34

What do you think? Going private is not an option for us. DS in local state primary. Teachers & atmosphere lovely, even a swimming pool in school. Oftsted pretty cr*p, 75% don't have English as first language. I thought that with support at home, DS could get the most out of the school. Was totally confident about sending him there...

...However, in reality he's totally left out. The other kids screech and scream all the time, and discuss power rangers, mcdonalds, different tv programmes etc. DS doesn't know what power rangers or mcdonalds ARE, and rarely watches tv. so he just plays on his own at school. He's only in nursery class but we had planned to keep him there as we liked the school and it is our nearest school, 5 mins walk (any other would be 20 mins walk or a bus ride - we don't drive)... Tbh think other schools near us will be similar.

Feel so bad for him - will he make friends eventually? Don't mean to sound like a snob. Not saying we are great parents or anything! More like the opposite! I just want DS to fit in and make friends but not sure if this is possible (or if I want him to change...??) All these 4 yrs of feeding him organic, omega-3, reading with him, he has a whole library of books at home... and now I wish I hadn't bothered so he could fit in and not be left out at school!!

Anyone with any experience of anything like this??? Thank you thank you! Just a bit confused! xxx

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TheDaVinciCod · 22/10/2006 14:36

is he not happy therr?

TheDaVinciCod · 22/10/2006 14:36

and readign bhooks and watching tv arent mutdsually exxlcusive

TooTickyTheAppleBobber · 22/10/2006 14:37

Is this a wind up?

Blossomhowl · 22/10/2006 14:38

75% don't have English as first language?

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indiemummy · 22/10/2006 14:38

no no he watches some TV - but we don't like him watching lots of adverts. We're not anal or anything. He has a few DVDs like Thomas the Tank Engine and stuff.

he seems happy to play on his own and talks about the teachers as though they are his friends. He doesn't seem sad... I just worry, you know...

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TooTickyTheAppleBobber · 22/10/2006 14:39

I think you will alienate people with this thread title, however valid your concerns may be.

TheDaVinciCod · 22/10/2006 14:40

i htink you asoun da bit precious with him
let him watch tv
deliveratley alieanating himf rom his peers through ,snobbery ( sorry yes you do soudn terrible) is unfair to him

TheDaVinciCod · 22/10/2006 14:41

thomas the tank ats hcool age soudns odd

tiredemma · 22/10/2006 14:41

how do you know if the children are screaming and screeching all of the time?

whats 'rough' anyway?- not having english as your first language????????

TheBlonde · 22/10/2006 14:41

if you can't afford private then what are your other options?

have you read the ofsted reports for the other nearby schools?

SherlockLGJ · 22/10/2006 14:41

Roll up, roll up, get your hard hats and flak jackets here.

TheDaVinciCod · 22/10/2006 14:41

id nto be happy if 75 % wene engliush as first language
same as i wouldnt if they wer all french/ boys whatever tbh

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indiemummy · 22/10/2006 14:42

why would it be a wind-up? no, i am serious! i'm embarrassed now, did I say something wrong?

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TheDaVinciCod · 22/10/2006 14:42

you cna be as pc as oyu liek about it but it woudl nto be the same int he classroom if language was an issue allt he time

TheDaVinciCod · 22/10/2006 14:42

IS HE HAPPY THERE?

TooTickyTheAppleBobber · 22/10/2006 14:42

Hey, Cod, nothing wrong with homas the Tank at 4!!!!

tiredemma · 22/10/2006 14:43

yes but not having english as your first language does not make you rough though does it? or does it? I dont know, thats why i asked.

TooTickyTheAppleBobber · 22/10/2006 14:43

I mean Thomas!

LadyOfTheFlowersAKA2Babies0Bum · 22/10/2006 14:44
Hmm
TheDaVinciCod · 22/10/2006 14:44

no ti doesnt but its hard to get alogn socially form what mums have told me.

TooTickyTheAppleBobber · 22/10/2006 14:44

0Bum? No bum? Serious diet!

HumphreyComfrey · 22/10/2006 14:45

Being happy is the most important thing re school, IMO.

If he's happy, he'll learn.

If he's not being deliberately excluded by the other children, and he's happy to play alone, I can't see a problem.

I wonder if the other parents categorise the children as you have done though?

Perhaps you could buy your son a popular toy, such as a power ranger, if you are concerned that your son has no common ground with the other children?

Pinotmum · 22/10/2006 14:45

If he seems happy then I'd see how it goes in Reception. The boys in DS's nursery class (rough, state ) are all into superheroes and power rangers and are very active and possibly boisterous at line up but they do calm down. Ds is definitely having his testosterone surge at the moment! If you really are concerned that he will be left out is moving an option for you?

TheDaVinciCod · 22/10/2006 14:45

i htink there are a lto of parents who deliberatly aleinate their kdis fom others by sayng" oh we do ont liekt hat we like this"

LadyOfTheFlowersAKA2Babies0Bum · 22/10/2006 14:46

i wish ticky! no, my registartion went nuts and wouldnt let me have 2babies0bump at the end.
will drop that bit soon anyway, and my large ass if i could!!