Considering abortion at 19 weeks..

[intheloudhouse]

I've been struggling with nausea all the way through this pregnancy. I've lost over a stone and I can barely eat. I'm on so many types of anti sickness meds but it still doesn't get rid of the nausea.
I was hospitalised last week as I hadn't eaten or drank in days. I thought I was dying.
In desperation I've booked an abortion for next Wednesday as I can't imagine another 20 weeks of this.
I'm in turmoil as I can't feel like this any longer, the affect it is having on my mental health (I barely move from the sofa never mind leave the house, constant panic attacks) on my poor son and on my family is currently devastating.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

I have no advice, but i couldn’t read this and say nothing. I’m so sorry you’re suffering so much. Wishing you all the best, whatever you decide ❤️

Could you speak with a counsellor about your options/decision beforehand? Hope you're ok x

I'm 18 weeks and have felt like this, pregnancy is not at all how I imagined and I've really struggled, I honestly think you'll regret it though.

@wildeverose

Could you speak with a counsellor about your options/decision beforehand? Hope you're ok x

I am speaking to a perinatal mental health nurse on Thursday but I'm not sure what they can do to be honest x

Morning sickness at 18 weeks? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4234878-morning-sickness-at-18-weeks

Is this the same post?

Maybe you should speak to your doctor and or call your midwife and tell them what your going through. They may be able to help.

Is it hyperemis? There is a very good long running support thread on here somewhere. You might be able to get some pertinent advice on there.

It sounds truly awful. Do your GP/midwife know the extent of misery it is causing you? Can friends and family rally round to help so you don’t need to worry about doing anything? Abortion is of course your choice but it is very final and if you do want another child in the future, you may still have to face a tough pregnancy. The sickness may ease and every day is a day closer to your baby being born. I hope you can find the right advice and counselling if needed.

@musicalfrog

Is it hyperemis? There is a very good long running support thread on here somewhere. You might be able to get some pertinent advice on there.

I think so but with it being nausea up to now I'm not sure if it can be called HG? I have been taking tablets a lot though x

@Amammai

It sounds truly awful. Do your GP/midwife know the extent of misery it is causing you? Can friends and family rally round to help so you don’t need to worry about doing anything? Abortion is of course your choice but it is very final and if you do want another child in the future, you may still have to face a tough pregnancy. The sickness may ease and every day is a day closer to your baby being born. I hope you can find the right advice and counselling if needed.

Yes I've broken down in tears a few times now at the doctors and my midwife isn't really interested. I have support from my parents and partner but they have their own lives, I can't expect everyone to put their lives on pause for me and to be honest everyone is getting fed up with the situation x

Please please call Pregnancy Sickness Support who will talk to you about all your options - they are amazing. They have text help too on WhatsApp
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/contact/

I don't think you have been supported enough lovely and it's very very likely you have HG which can go up to 20 weeks and sometimes longer.

You need medication and I'm not sure why they are not listening to you.

As PP suggested to contact Pregnancy Sickness Support.

I do also think you might regret it. Please look at your other options first as they need to treat you seriously.

I hope it gets better for you.

Just sending you some virtual support as I have been there. I had HG diagnosed with nausea (following a pregnancy which I had HG with actual sickness).
I actually think the nausea was far far far worse than being sick and I also contemplated the same due to the way I am feeling.
It did lift a bit for me after 20 weeks.
The one thing about a really really shit pregnancy.. the newborn phase is a breeZe.

Were you discharged with a prescription for anti emetics. 4 years ago there were some the gp could prescribe and then some the hospital dr could prescribe. But it was following admission I got the stronger anti emetics.
The HG thread on here was awesome. My gp wasn't interested - told me to try some coke. I ended up walking into a and e and was admitted there and then I was so dehydrated from the nausea.

Just so you know, you are not alone. Im pregnant with a desperatly wanted baby but upto 20 weeks i completely understood why people terminate because of sickness, its truly horrendous and not all flowers and glitter like you are led to believe pregnancy is really like.

I hope you get some support and get some rest from the sickness soon.

Oh bless you OP, this is awful. Please give your GP one last shot and tell them you’re booking an abortion because you can’t cope with the nausea. Have they absolutely tried everything they can (including the expensive shit like Ondansetron which they avoid prescribing because it costs too much)? I would want to know every possible thing had been tried. I was lucky that my severe nausea responded well to medications as it really was awful.

I suffer from HG. It sounds like you have that and particularly bad. Im 21 weeks pregnant and im getting better. Only taking 1 anti sickness tablet now. I am feeling much better and happier. I know the constant vomiting is tough. Please ask for more help and support.

There is a HG thread on mumsnet with lovely posters.

Omg that is tough! I was sick to depression and bed bound until 20 weeks of pregnancy. After that I was all fine. I can see how you have come to make that decision. I was very depressed and had dark thoughts.

Really hope that you feel muchbetter soon and hopefully change your mind. All the best

Oh I feel for you.

I had this, around 20 weeks I considered seriously jumping off a bridge I was so tired of being ill with HG.

It started easing a bit around 24 weeks which helped and DS was born at 31 weeks. Everybody was so worried for me in labour because he was early but I just wanted the horror to stop.

Do you ever get a reprieve from the nausea? What meds have you tried?

@PeppaPigStinks

Were you discharged with a prescription for anti emetics. 4 years ago there were some the gp could prescribe and then some the hospital dr could prescribe. But it was following admission I got the stronger anti emetics. The HG thread on here was awesome. My gp wasn't interested - told me to try some coke. I ended up walking into a and e and was admitted there and then I was so dehydrated from the nausea.

What doctor was this!!!! I really hope you meant coca cola 🤣🤣🤣

OP,

You are not alone. I had two HG pregnancies with lots of hospitalisation and medications, and it's literally hell on earth. You have all my sympathy.

The only thing that helped me mentally was the amazing support I got on here from the long-running HG thread mentioned by previous posters. The woman who runs it is LucindaE and she is so knowledgeable and kind. I first joined her thread when I was on my knees with HG back in 2011. Look in the pregnancy section (I'm going to try and find the link for you in a moment but I'm on my phone).

I know it's horrendous but whatever happens, it will eventually be over.

You poor poor women, you have been let down so badly. It very much sounds like HG.

I had it with my daughter and it was the most awful time of my life, I remember feeling like I was dying and my mum telling me to stop feeling sorry for myself, I responded by saying I'd rather die than suffer on for another day and then dragging myself to out of hours in sheer desperattion for someone to do SOMETHUNG, where the nurse gave me a hug. It made all the difference. The sickness will go away, it will. Maybe not this week or the week after but it won't last forever and if this baby is otherwise very much wanted I think it would be so sad for you to feel like you didn't have options.

Sorry OP, it doesn't sound like you've had a lot of support. It's absolutely your choice to terminate but there's a real possibility you will regret it and it can affect your mental health dreadfully. An abortion should only be had if it's what you really really want, not something you feel you have to do. Feeling the way you do now can mask your real feelings (I'm assuming this is a planned pregnancy) and make you feel like you have to do this. There's a real danger that when the illness goes away your initial feelings will return and this could be devastating for you. Please follow the advice about and contact PSS. Forget MW and GP at the moment if they've not been helpful so far and find someone or an organisation who will take you seriously before you make your final decision. Good luck OP, I hated being pregnant, it can be truly awful but it honestly isn't as long a time as it feels now. We'll all support you whatever you do xxx

Yes to Ondansetron. What tablets do you have? Are you also dehydrated?

Support www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4148672-Hyperemesis-Support

I think this will link you to the thread OP. I wish you well, whatever you decide.