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Considering abortion at 19 weeks..

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intheloudhouse · 04/05/2021 18:36

I've been struggling with nausea all the way through this pregnancy. I've lost over a stone and I can barely eat. I'm on so many types of anti sickness meds but it still doesn't get rid of the nausea.
I was hospitalised last week as I hadn't eaten or drank in days. I thought I was dying.
In desperation I've booked an abortion for next Wednesday as I can't imagine another 20 weeks of this.
I'm in turmoil as I can't feel like this any longer, the affect it is having on my mental health (I barely move from the sofa never mind leave the house, constant panic attacks) on my poor son and on my family is currently devastating.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

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intheloudhouse · 03/06/2021 18:16

Hello everyone, thank you to everyone who has been asking after and supporting me.
I'm still at my dad's, I'll have been here 2 weeks tomorrow. I just still don't know what I'm going to do and I'm just feeling really down and anxious still xx

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MotherofPearl · 03/06/2021 20:07

I'm so glad to hear that you're still at your dad's. That sounds like the best option for you at the moment. Keep taking things a day at a time. You are getting through it, and though it may not feel like it, time is passing. You are doing so well just putting one foot in front of the other. Keep posting on here as and when you feel able to.

drawerofwater · 11/06/2021 19:39

Thinking of you Flowers

Peachee · 12/06/2021 09:32

You’re doing so well putting yourself first.. keep caring for and looking after yourselfas much as you can as your TOP priority!! This needs to become a habit especially through all of this and when the baby comes.. Thank god you have your dad. Keep going you’re doing so so well!! xxxxx

MotherofPearl · 17/06/2021 09:35

How are you faring now OP? Hope you're okay.

StarsandStones · 28/06/2021 21:25

Thinking of you Flowers

Ilikechips · 30/07/2021 10:52

Hey op. Just read the full thread and wanted to say Ive been in a similar position. Your feelings are completely valid and you aren’t a bad person. How are you doing?

Bells3032 · 17/08/2021 11:10

@intheloudhouse wanted to check up and see how you are doing. Hope you're still at your dads and getting the help you need.

moralcompass · 17/08/2021 11:38

OP just came across this and hope you are ok x

moralcompass · 17/08/2021 11:39

@intheloudhouse

Gettingthingsdone777 · 16/05/2022 16:59

@intheloudhouse how are you getting on now? So sorry for all you were put through, very unfair, hope things are better now 💐

Soulstirring · 19/05/2022 19:54

@intheloudhouse how are you?

Annoymous1234 · 02/06/2022 12:36

I really need advise. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and have just found out the father has been accused of rape from a year before meeting me? I’m confused lost and depressed. I can’t tell if I’m being out of order of considering a abortion at this late stage but how can I live with the guilt of something he’s been accused of? How could I explain this to my child in the future? Someone please help me on what to do with something like this…

imsoscared2022 · 02/06/2022 15:33

@Annoymous1234 could you make another thread for more responses? I'm sorry you're having to go through that. His actions are no fault of your own or your babies. It's his guilt (if it's true). I hope you're okay.

Annoymous1234 · 02/06/2022 17:17

i can’t figure out how to make my own thread I feel awful commenting on here but I just couldn’t find out how to set it up :( And thank you I feel lost to be honest

Annoymous1234 · 02/06/2022 17:40

Managed to make my own thread now but no option to remove the messages off this thread!

imsoscared2022 · 02/06/2022 19:21

It's okay leave it @Annoymous1234

selfishmummy · 14/01/2023 22:45

Hi everyone, OP here (new account)
The baby is a very beautiful 15 month old now :-)
I did suffer PND quite badly and my relationship broke down when she was 3 months old but it's fine. We might work on it again as I think the pregnancy took its toll on us both.
She's got gorgeous curly dark hair, big green eyes, and is very mischievous. Her big brother absolutely adores her and she loves him to.
Thank you for all your support through that very difficult time x x

selfishmummy · 14/01/2023 22:48

My mum still doesn't really bother with her, doesn't help with childcare.. never bought her anything, never helped me with her. She actually has a drink problem which during my pregnancy I didn't realise, she has her own issues which are out of my control sadly. My dad is amazing as he was through my pregnancy. It's very strange reading the comments back that I wrote x

AftersomeAdvice234 · 28/01/2023 02:34

@selfishmummy that is a wonderful update! So glad you and baby are ok and I am very sorry about your relationship with your partner. Difficult situations / pregnancies can absolutely take their toll.

i have an almost 18 month old and read your thread during my pregnancy since I had some of the same issues. I silently cheered you on - regardless of the decision you were to make.

very glad it worked out. Btw, curious to know if you were sick throughout or if it did stop at some point?

Bells3032 · 28/01/2023 16:06

@selfishmummy I am so pleased to hear this. I still remember this post and it was an awful situation. I'm so glad it worked out for you even with the breakdown on your relationship. Wishing you lots of happiness with your little girl

selfishmummy · 01/02/2023 11:39

Thank you both! @AftersomeAdvice234 to some extent it lasted all the way through, it got a bit easier around weeks 25-30ish where I learnt what triggered it but then it came back towards the end. Looking at photos of us when she was a newborn I look so gaunt and unwell. I actually weigh more now than I did when I was 37 weeks pregnant! 😂 luckily she was born at 38 weeks perfectly healthy and the birth was only 45 mins so at least she gave me a good birth to make up for the awful pregnancy! Haha. Hope you and your little one are well! Xx

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