Abortion tablets

[QuirkyUsernameHere]

I recently found out I was pregnant after splitting with my partner and have decided to have an abortion.
Due to covid, I've had the tablets posted out to me..

I had the first tablet today and will be taken the next 6 tomorrow but I've read in the booklet that you can either put them up your vagina or put them in your mouth however the mouth option can cause more sickness / diarrhoea..

Just wondering if anyone did the mouth option and how they felt and how bad the side effects were etc..

@QuirkyUsernameHere I’ve had quite bad constipation cramps a couple of times, which I don’t normally suffer with but I have had after giving birth before so it might be that (although I’ve been quite bad about drinking enough water so I might just be dehydrated) Remember that you’re going to have a sudden hormone change so it’s not surprising if you’re feeling a bit depressed - make sure you look after yourself :)

Bleeding has tailed right off which is good. Otherwise just been so busy that I’ve not had much of a chance to think about it

I hope everyone is doing ok x

@TingTastic thank you! Feel a whole lot better today!
I think it's because we're having a BBQ and drinks for VE Day with next door.. social distancing!! They're sitting in their drive and we're sitting on the road as we're on the end of a cul de sac so no cars where we are 😂
Got a speaker sorted too and Vera lynn on Spotify ready 👍🏼
My bleeding has stopped and it's just spotting now, if you can even call it that.. it's just like red wee 😂😂

Glad everyone is okay ❤️

Hi ladies, hope it's ok to jump
On board, I'm currently in this awful situation of not really knowing what to do although my heart says I can't go through with this pregnancy, currently 7 weeks, where do I start? Should I call my gp on mo day to get the ball moving or my local family planning clinic? Feel incredibly sad but know this is the right thing to do thanks in advance x

I would suggest go direct with the family planning clinic - your GP will end up having to do a referral which will just take up more time.

@Imanewbiehere3910
I'm sorry you're feeling this way.
I would speak to GP ASAP as under 10 weeks of just the tablets to take as I, and the other ladies did.. I think anything over 10 weeks may need the operation however anyone else correct me if I'm wrong.
From me phoning my GP to taking the tablets it was 10 days in total so it was a very quick process all in all and the midwife talks you through everything, you're sent out a booklet and there's also an aftercare number if you have any questions or concerns etc x

@Imanewbiehere3910 when I spoke to my GP he just gave me the number for BPAS and told me to do a self referral and to tell them that your GP had given you their number.
I rang them straight after my appointment with GP and had a phone appointment with the midwife a few days later x

@imanewbiehere3910, hope you're doing well emotionally wise.?
I rang BPAS from the bag after doing a lot of research on different companies, this was a Monday. Telephone appointment on the Wednesday, received the medication the Friday. Everyone I had spoken to was very lovely, kind and non judgemental (which is what I was very concerned about) they can also offer pre termination counselling if you feel you need it. X

Thankyou all for the information, emotionally feel like I'm going through a rough time, should I, shouldn't I, going over it all in my head constantly. I think deep down I know the right thing to do, I've been so unhappy since finding out, I'm shocked with my reaction as didn't think I would feel this way. Feel very guilty for my decision and just generally felling a little lost at the mo!

@Imanewbiehere3910 guilt isn't unusual, especially if you're debating whether you want to go through with it.

We're all here though if you ever need to chat ❤️

@QuirkyUsernameHere Thankyou so much, just find myself crying and can't think of anything else right now....... just want to feel right again

@Imanewbiehere3910 it's a stressful situation to be in, it's not nice especially if you're unsure.
Luckily I was 100% certain, no doubts at all.
I don't know if you've read through the thread but a lot of us are all different and have all felt different things. It's normal to feel that way, and don't forget that you're not alone in all this x

@QuirkyUsernameHere I'm 99% sure that this isn't the right thing to do to carry on with this preganancy, I'm 39 this year so know this would potentially be my last chance, I have a 5yr old and very happy I have one. It's just an awful situation to find yourself in, feel like all I've done this last week is cry....... the thought of medication is also a worry, my anxiety is through the roof right now x

@Imanewbiehere3910 aw bless you. I'm 26 and I know I don't want kids and everyone always says 'oh you never you, you might change your mind' but I know my own mind and I know I don't want kids so for me this was a complete no brainer.

Hopefully you can speak to your GP on Monday and get an appointment with BPAS xx

Hi @imanewbiehere3910, I cried ALOT about it. So I know how you feel. I have a nearly 5 and a nearly 2 year old. I've never thought I would have one. Took me a few days and a lot of tears after phonecalls and taking the tablets and honestly, after it all happened I've coped a lot better than I thought and have been fine (had a tearful day today) but that's hormones returning to normal.
As @QuirkyUsernameHere has said. If you need a chat we are here. Just PM one of us if you need too. I'm 27. Would love another one, but now isn't the right time at all.
Don't be hard on yourself, we know what you're going through. Xx

Imanewbie I know that this thread is to support each other through the process. However I will play devil's advocate with you - this is very likely your last chance. You need to be entirely sure you want to do this.

The best chance you can give yourself is to think yourself through the other side. Imagine your life and feelings if you have the child. Imagine a week in the future, a month, after the baby is born, each year ahead. 20 years time. And then imagine the same but how it will be and how you will feel if you've had the abortion.

It's probably easy enough to imagine life with the child, as you've already got one. It's more difficult to imagine how you might feel after abortion, as you haven't done that before.

Different people of course react differently. I personally found it deeply traumatic, and life-changing in a bad way. But many don't feel like that. Unfortunately you just have to try to analyse yourself. Presumably you've already analysed your situation and this seems best. But do take time to put your likely emotional response into the picture.

Hi everyone, hope you’re all doing ok.
It’s a week today since taking the first tablet and I’m feeling my normal self again. I feel like I can be a mummy to my two again.

@Imanewbiehere3910 oh I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. It’s just the worst place to be. I found out at 5 weeks, got my first appt at 6 weeks but then spent another 2 mentally going backwards and forwards over the decision. I had a couple of phone calls with counsellors and also spoke to a lovely nurse who actually helped me come to peace with my decision.

I totally agree with the advice here, think of yourself and your situation in x number of years, I think ultimately that’s how I reached the decision. For me there was a lot of sadness but I knew that 3 children with such a small age gap, me being 38 now, would just be too much. I wouldn’t cope and my children deserve the best of me and the best opportunities we can give them.

I’m here too if you’d like to PM. I found this thread and some other ladies that I was messaging a crucial line of support. I wouldn’t wish this situation on anyone but it certainly helped to know others were/have been through the same situation and had similar thoughts x

Thankyou all for the kind words and support- advice.
@ponchek Thankyou for a different take on things, I think it's so hard as I'm just so unsure what to do.

@sunandrose Thankyou for the kind words, it is a horrible situation, I'm going to speak to my local family planning tomorrow see if they can offer some advice/ support with my decision making.
I can't see how to pm people 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you click on the theee little dots at the bottom of the person @Imanewbiehere3910 it comes up with a list of things. PM is one of them :)

@sunandrose glad you're feeling yourself again! ❤️

Imanewbie you're v welcome and please do also feel free to PM me. 🤗

Sunandrose really glad you're feeling ok 👌

Hi ladies, I hope you're all doing okay. I took my pills at the end of March and I took the pregnancy test on the date they told me to and it was positive. They sent me another one out and that was also positive so I had to go to the clinic and they dipped it and it was negative. So thought all over. I had bled for three weeks and pretty sure I passed the sac but I was very early so not 100% sure. Anyway fast forward and I was due on this month but instead of my normal bleed, I've just had a very light brown discharge. I took a pregnancy test (a shop one not the clinic one). I know they detect lower levels of hormones and so it is expected to be positive but it's almost 8 weeks since I took the pills. Anyone experienced this? The line is very faint so I don't think I'm actually pregnant but wondering if I've retained products? I haven't had sex since the pills so no chance I'm pregnant again. Thanks.

@gingerbeerandlemonade
Hey! I'm due to take my test next Tuesday as it will be three weeks then.

The last test you did, was that positive as well?

@Imanewbiehere3910 how're you doing

Did you manage to phone your GP or family planning clinic?

@QuirkyUsernameHere
I spoke to my local family planning clinic yesterday, they have arranged for someone to go through it all with me over the phone tomorrow. I'm still so undecisded and just don't know how to make this decision, any advice greatly appreciated......... I just feel I won't be able to make a decision either way x

@Imanewbiehere3910 I would ask for some counselling when you next speak to someone.
Unfortunately I'm probably not the best person if you're undecided as my decision was very easy for me as I knew straight away that I wanted an abortion.

The counsellor will be the best person I think as they are trained to help people make these decisions and ensure that they are making the right one.

Hope you're not sending yourself too crazy overthinking about it xx