Is there a thread for the old birds who are pregnant and over 40?

[hippychick66]

I'm on a fab thread on the ttc section but am now 7 wks preg .

I know it's early days but I wondered if there was a thread on here for the older pregnant woman who might be experiencing all the same things as me.

God, I hope I'm not tempting fate by coming over from the ttc side!!!!!

Hi. Great thread! I have just turned 40. I have had six early mc's in the past 10 years. I also had severe Ashermans Syndrome which took about 8 operations to sort out and I was told that any future pregnancy for me would be high risk. Had two of the mc's after the Ashermans treatment. However, I was drinking early in all of the mc's, mostly because I didn't know that I was pregnant and not sure if this could have been the cause of the mc's. Anyway, I'm now 40 and thinking of giving it one more go, but have been wondering if I'm too old. My last mc was twins (my mum and my dp's dad are both twins). Don't really want to go through another mc, but don't want to not try again either! I'd sort of given up on the idea but my dp is up for it. I garnered opinions from my friends on Facebook and loads had their first at 40 and are thinking of having more, so I think I'll give it a go. Do worry about my age though! I haven't read the whole thread, but given me hope that lots of women have babies at 40 and above. I brought it up with my doctor a year ago and she recommended against it given my age etc, so that kind of put me off and I came to terms with the fact that I'll never be a mum. But I would make a great mum and love kids. Any suggestions for health etc? Anyone know about Ashermans? I conceive at the drop of a hat, so that's not a problem, it's making it past 8 weeks that seems to be the problem.

Congratulations pinguina fantastic news!

DC3 is 7 weeks old now and is a cute cuddly little thing. DH and I have gone all gooey over her, maybe because she's big and cuddly or maybe because we're a bit more relaxed with dc3 , or maybe because i turned 40 and he turned 50 since dc2 was born, and maybe the old birds make relaxed mums?!

Hello ladies - I am 41 today and also 26 wks pg. This year is SO much better than last year. I have celebrated by weeing in a pot for the midwife.

And I've got the whole day off to eat cake, hurrah!

Happy Tuesday everyone

Happy birthday heidipi!

this thread went terribly quiet for a while -- congrats on recent babies! MrsMopple, I remember you from the start of the year, fantastic news that your twins arrived safe and well

HaworthView, so sorry to hear of your losses, and hats off to you for persevering. There's another Hippychick thread over in the Conception section, for over 40's TTC -- fantastic support and great advice for supplements, tests etc and lots of hand holding through the ups and downs of it all www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/988679-Ongoing-and-continuing-conceptions-and-follicling-ahead-of-Feisty-Fabulous. I'm afraid I have no experience of Ashermans, but I did have two MC's on the way to current pregnancy, it's really tough to go through, and sadly more common the older we get, but provided your desire to keep trying is stronger than your fear of miscarrying again, then it's worth another shot. Best of luck!

Kiwi, missed your post last week glad all still going well with you I don't suppose Hippy saw your post either or she'd no doubt have replied, do pop back to the feisty fabulous thread, they'd love to hear from you... TFLS is still popping in over there and she's further on than you are! (makes me feel a little better for being unable to drag myself away ). Which reminds me, any news from ILGH??

As for me, halfway there now, about to turn 42, no complications (yet, touches wood...), all looking good at 20 week scan. I just wish I could get to the blooming stage... anyone else missing out on that completely???

and happy birthday Heidipi!

Thank you! I think I'm allowed an easy work day today too, right? (googles completely unnecessary baby paraphernalia)

Hi, glad to see the old thread is alive and kicking again.

kiwi hi there lovie. Alba was right. I didn't know your message was here. I'd lost this thread and couldn't find it anymore. Good news about your little girl. You deserve her so very much.

I was wondering how ILGH was as well. If you're reading this - pop over and say hi to the ladies who are still SWI please. We'd love to hear how you're doing.

haworthview I agree with what Alba said. Do pop over to the TTC over 40 thread - we'd be most welcoming. I also don't know about ashermans i'm afraid. But there is a regular on there (galwaygirl) who has had about 9 early MC's - she also finds it dead easy to get preg (just a glance from her DH can do it). But is having problems getting past the first hurdle. She saw a very respectable specialist recently and he said that her body may be allowing faulty embryos to implant where it should be rejecting them - IYSWIM. Anyway, pop on and speak to her, she can explain it better.

mrsmopple congrats on the twins - absolutely wonderful news.

pinguina having just turned 44 I was most heartened by your news. Congrats and thanks - it all helps with the resolve to keep on trying.

I hope to be preggo again soon and will be back to join you all.

Long live the old birds!

Hello its been very quiet on this thread and Im just hoping evryone is alright
I am now 27weeks(nearly 28) and suffering with the most hellish SPD or Pelvic Girdle Pain( never had this before with my other PG)
at first I thought it might be age related but I think I might have caused it to start when I slipped a little one day coming out of the shower .
And now I can hardly walk the length of myself and Im off sick and been told I should/have to take early maternity leave at 30 weeks .
hope evryone else is good and hope Im not out here on my own x need some cheering up.
xxx

Hi everyone! i'm not really on this pg thread anymore, babyDC3 is 3 months now, I'm 44 now (last week I turned 44 and DH 50)and life is great.

lee69 you need to get a physio referral ASAP. I had terrible SPD with dc1 and dc3 and the physio straightened me out a bit and gave me great pelvic floor exercises to do sitting on a gym ball. It goes (or improves) as soon as you give birth, but i'm still a bit creaky as it made me immobile for so long. There was a great thread called the SPD sofa, but it has gone very quiet. The best things you can do are rest (lying down) sit on a gym ball and wear satin pyjamas to make it easier to turn over in bed.Thre's lots of info on the Pelvic Partnership website. Hope you feel better soon.

ps I'm not sure they can make you take maternity leave at 30w, it's normally 4 weeks before due date that taking sick leave makes you go on mat leave.

Hi,

I'm 41 (14 weeks) with my first. I've certainly had the concerns. Didn't meet my partner until later but it's obviously meant to be.

I know I haven't been on this thread for quite some time - things have been more than hectic. My beautuful William Michael was born on 19th Sept when i was 27 wks + 2 weighing in at 2lb 10oz. I am pleased to say he is doing extremely well, breathing on his own. We have had some minor hiccups, but he is slowly gaining weight and all being well will be out of his incubator when he gets to 1.5kg.
He is in the Trevor Mann unit here in Brighton and they have been absolutely amazing.
I'm very tired in between hospital visits, expressing milk and trying to keep on top of things at home, and we still need to buy all his bits! But seeing him everyday doing so so well makes it all more than worthwhile. I am one very very proud older mummy :)

Congratulations Mamabubs. Glad to hear he is doing well and hope that the expressing and hosp visits don't get you too tired. I did it for a week with dc1 and had a noisy mini electric pump at home- i didn't know you can hire the hosp ones from NCT.

Bumping this as cant find another.Am 44 with my 5th and hate to admit it but i am finding it hard now. I am 27 wks and quite big(lots of fluid)and also have spd and anaemia although i am on lots of iron.
Biggest prob is energy levels and walking. I can only walk slowly and not for long as i become breathless and absolutely exausted t the point i feel like i will collapse. Same if i do a bit of housework or anything. Have been signed off work thankfully but i wonder is this my ripe old age or do you think it would have happened anyway?

Poor you ledkr. I've still got the old birds thread on 'I'm watching' but I'm not pg anymore dc3 is 4 months old now. I had awful spd with dc3, it just got worse and worse. Have you seen a physio? mine managed to keep me going until about 35w and then I gave up as I couldn't walk far enough to go to see her.She was nhs and I could've done with seeing her more often than was available.

Have you had your iron levels checked again as anaemia can make you breathless? i was breathless from the start with dc1 and had no iron problems though. I think walking with spd is harder work than 'normal' walking.Do as little as possible , lie down to rest (sitting doesn't help spd really) and let things go a bit. Our kitchen floor didn't get a proper wash for over 6 months and noone got dysentry.And don't worry, spd goes once you've had the baby.

Hello ledkr Im just a little ahead of you Im 33 weeks with No4,(I thought I was off me trolley but oh my godness 5....well done you whats the ages of your children?
I have SPD too and it is a real swine, been feeling pretty crappy over this last week with headaches and feeling sick, but done a wee bit of research and think I might have a low iron count so I have started my preg multi vitamins. I asked if it was all to do with age as I never had SPD before but I was told that this was not the case,it was just one of those things, I reckon mines was caused when I slipped a little coming out of the shower when I was at 24 weeks.
Due for a scan at 36 weeks to find out the position of this little one (last baby 9 years ago was breech and transverse and I had to have emergency cs)Im hoping this time to be told baby is head down and ready cause I know I am!. This thread has gone a wee bit quiet not sure where all the "old Birds" have gone and I hope they are all well.
Hugs to all out there x

Hello ladies - it's nice to see the thread pop up again/ I'm still here - 37 wks today and just been booked in to be induced next Tuesday!

It's because of my BP, which has been a bit high all the way through (and before I was pg) but went up again last week. I know I could opt to wait longer but I feel ok about it and I was half expecting it. Can't quite get my head around the idea that I'm having a baby next week though!

Apart from the bp I've got off really lightly throughout the pregancy, am feeling heavy and more tired now but overall I've felt fine so I've been lucky.

Baby no 1, I'm 41, never thought I'd be here at all so it's bloody brilliant!

Take care everyone, will update again next week hopeully!

Good luck next week heidipi.

I don't think spd is an age thing, there were a load of 20 somethings on the spd sofa thread, suffering as much as I was.

gosh i forgot id bumped this. Thanks for all your replies its so nice to have some sympathy and understanding.I feel people just cannot understand how it all feels.
My others are-wait for it-26,24,20 all boys and dd 8.I got remarried to a younger gorgeous guy 2 yrs ago and we have been together for 4.He graciously accepted that id have no more children as i have also had chemo and it has never been ahuge issue(more for me i think)then suddenly this!I cant believe our luck,its a shame that i feel so crap.
My hb was 11 which is not really anaemic but a gp i saw said that can be low enough when providing oxygen for 2.I am on iron but i think the combo of that and spd has just knocked me sideways.Just did food shopping and its like i ran a marathon.
Good luck heidipi

Hi, I'm 46 and 37 weeks now. A completely unexpected joy after a lifetime of infertility! Congrats to all the other older mums to be. Has anyone else been advised not to go over 40 weeks, or even be induced before this, purely on the basis of age? I'm terrified of the unexplained still birth risk, though have had fantastic medical support.

Hi butterflychild I was advised not to go over 40w by the consultant that I 'had' to see as I was over 40. Dc3 turned up at 38w so we never had to deal with the issue. i was reluctant to be induced as I didn't want to go to hospital and have constant monitoring. I had dc2 at age 39 and nobody suggested induction .

Oh - I like this thread I hope it keeps being used again. I'm 41 and mother of a 9month old DD. Found out today I'm pregnant with number 2!

anyone feeing terribly tired?I am 28wks and absolutely done in,even overslept this morning and slept thru the apprentice last night,unheard of.

Hi, can I join in? I'm 43, turing 44 in Dec(!).
I have a beautiful 5 year old boy.
Never been quite sure whether to go for number two or leave it at that. I conceived ds at age 38 on the second attempt.
Last year June I started using Clearblue fertility monitor to try and by Aug I was pregnant. Unfortunatley I lost the baby two months later in OCt.
Since then I have left it as was too upset and also worried I was too old and shouldn't be thinking such crazy thoughts. Also my DH worried we're too old and shouldn't bother. But of course now I'm wanting to try again....
But... I started to use the Clearblue monitor a few months ago; this month NO peak whatsoever! It just stayed with one bar every day til now, day 21 the M is flashing to show my period is due. Does this mean I have stopped ovulating? It showed two bars and the egg symbol every month for the past three or four months. I've joined the clearblue fertility monitor buddy thread too, but thought , due to may age, I should also get advice from you ladies.
Am feeling glum and depressed now. Have I left it too late. What should I be doing to maximise my chances? Should I consult GP?
What does the lack of a peak on the monitor indicate? Is it just a blip?
Also how does everyone feel about the risks of pregnancy over 40?
Are the risks enormous? Oh dear, feel pretty sad now....why did I leave it so long? Well I know why I left it so long, DH not keen, life too chaotic with one let alone two, my health not great, paranoia about risk of birth defects etc.
If anyone has a moment I'd love advice, sympathy, kick up the butt, etc.

Oops I've posted in the wrong thread, I'll repost in the trying to conciev over forty thread. Hope I can come back and see you ladies again soon!!