Is there a thread for the old birds who are pregnant and over 40?

[hippychick66]

I'm on a fab thread on the ttc section but am now 7 wks preg .

I know it's early days but I wondered if there was a thread on here for the older pregnant woman who might be experiencing all the same things as me.

God, I hope I'm not tempting fate by coming over from the ttc side!!!!!

pinguina Thanks. That is very encouraging.

Can I ask - Did you have your FSH levels checked before this preg - or did you just decide to go for it? (I'm a bit obsessed with FSH at the mo!) Haven't even had mine checked yet but am obsessed none the less .

Hi all you elderly preggers women. I am 40 flipin 3 and really shocked. Iam now 8 weeks adn saw Dr yesterday making it all the more real.Am kind of driftin along on a cloud of disbelief/worry and sometimes a flutter of excitment i admit. It will be no 5 and i havent told anyone yet apart from 3 close friends. I am actually scared to tell my Mum!! whats that all about?? Obviously dh knows and is a bit like me but it will be his first(and only)haha so that bit is the nice part. I am a bit of pessimist i admit but am a bit battle scarred from life so far and at the moment i am convinced that my baby will have some chromosome disorder. My lovely neice had downs and i love her dearly but she is hard work for her 33 year old mum.I wonder if anyone else out there has had this worry to this ott extent and has anyone else had cvs testing/ I would like that i think is it on nhs does anyone know. I cant talk to the midwife until the official hospital test comes back positive-i have done 9 positive tests tho.
Thank god for thid thread. I have a day off work and too much time to think.

I am so sorry hippy i was so anxious to get my message on i didnt read above very carefully. How rude of me to bang on. Really sorry for your loss. I had mc 8 yrs ago still think about it to this day. Even,you then feel such a strong urge to concieve again its so frustrating. Hopefully this od 43yr old may give you some hope.I had chemo 12 yrs ago and have now managed to get pregnant(with much time between) 3 times. Theres always hope. good luck.

ledkr No worries. This is a thread for older pregnant women and i would hate people to think that they can't join just cos I've just had a loss. It's about supporting people through all the stages of pregnancy and unfortunately, mine didn't get too far.

Well done on getting preg after your history. Lovely for your DH to have his first child.

All the best.
x

thanks hippy.its very hard to congratualate other people when you have just mc.My sis in law was due at the same time and i felt very bitter but my friend collected me from hosp after my mc and was due at same time also but was so sensitive it felt ok. Are you going to try again?I always felt that if i didnt i would never really gat truly over it. In a way the early teats are a curse arent they. When i had ds now 25 you couldnt get a test until you were two weeks late and then it took a week so lots of people must have had really early mc without actualy knowing it.I suppose at least you know you are still fertile. I have not used any contraception for 5 years (see what happens) and look what did so dont give up hope.
good luck

Hi Hippy,
No, I didn't check anything tbh - just went with the flow. I felt that DD1 had already been a blessing (conceived at second month of trying), and if there were to be a number two, that would have been great (and it is), but if not, never mind. Things changed a bit after mc (which was when DD1 was 10 months and I had just stopped bf) - every period felt like loss, like my body was failing me. And then five months later, when I had pretty much given up on it and was resigned to have just one gorgeous daughter, there it was, the unmistakable positive sign.
Personally, I didn't want to be weighed down by too much info and preferred to feel fatalistic, but completely understand wanting to know more - our bodies are such mysteries! I think feeling relaxed and happy is vital: everything else (diet, exercise, supplements) is secondary. Good luck! x

Hi Hippy, I'm 17.3, and it seems (touch wood) to be going ok. How are all the girls on the 40+ thread? I miss them all so much, but don't really feel that I belong there now. Please give them my love.

You can pop over any time kiwi. they'd love to see you (IYSWIM).

Wow 17 weeks is fab. I really really would love to get that far again!

You deserve it all. Don't other people's pregnancies just fly by.

kiwi I take it you know about Jolly's news??

Just had a sneaky peak, Hippy - that's great news!

Hi everyone. Haven't been here for a while, and it took me ages to find this thread again. I got my CVS results today and all is well..... what a relief! So glad that is over.

Anyway, I know Kiwi mentioned a London meet-up further down. Is anyone interested? I don't know where people are but was thinking maybe dinner in South Ken? Any takers?

Sorry for your loss, Hippy.

Hi ladies, I haven't posted for ages but I have been keeping up with everyone's news sporadically.

So sorry for the recent losses, I think we're all fretting about what could go wrong and it's so sad when something happens.

My news is really not much news, first pg, will be 18wks tomorrow, I turn 41 in August. I've had a relatively straightforward time so far, am on methyldopa for high bp but I was on different bp medication before I conceived so was half expecting it. I'm having consultant led care because of that but she has been reassuringly down to earth and is just keeping an eye on me for now. Apart from that, just a couple of killer migraines. Paracetamol? What is the point of it, really?

Anomaly scan is 12th July, so naturally I'm setting aside time to worry about that one now...

Take care all, enjoy the sunshine, if not the heat!

Well, my news is that my company is making three people redundant, and I'm pretty sure that I'm going to be one of them. It turns out that maternity leave gives lots of protection, but pregnancy gives little to none. Watch this space ...

Also, dh's mother has been diagnosed with a brain tumour, and it doesn't sound good.

Life's a funny old thing, isn't it!?

Oh no, Kiwi. Sounds terrible.

What is your notice period, and will you make your qualifying week?

I am Persnickety, incidentally.

Kiwi sounds like you're going through a pretty rough time, must say I always thought you were high on the protected list as soon as you'd informed the company of your pregnancy and they'd be on thin ice to make you redundant at that stage. There's a few other threads with some pretty good HR/employment law experts if I recall correctly, might be worth a quick querying post? Or have you already got the legal advice? Sounds really tough just before you're due to be on maternity leave - especially if your firm had an enhanced package?

So sorry to hear about your MIL, you must be worried sick.

I'm feeling like I really shouldn't be lingering so much on the feisty and fabulous thread either..... possibly outstaying my welcome there, 13 weeks now, and my nuchal scan was, thankfully, low risk on all counts (except my age, of course...), which was the hugest relief.

Persnickety (That's such a great name, sorry, should really call you Strix) really happy for you that CVS was all clear, it must feel good now to know for sure. Did you also get told if you're having a boy or a girl? Not a good reason for having an invasive test, I know, but nice to know so soon, once you know all is well -- or are you not finding out?

DuellingFanjo best of luck for your amino.

Any news from TFLS or ILGH? Hopefully a few more feisty and fabulous ladies will be over here with good news soon too...

As for meet-up, I work in London, but live outside, so much as I'd love to meet up with you all, I'm a bit too tired just now for an evening out in town then the long journey home... I'm sure my exhaustion should be getting better soon, but hasn't yet, rather like the nausea that wears off, I get really happy that it's gone, then find myself throwing up again...

and Hippy, you've gone really quiet, but if you're popping in here, I hope you're ok, that your scan showed you're through the worst and you don't need any followups... thinking of you, really tough time

It's a boy, but we actually knew that at the nuchal scan. But, yes was nice to have it confirmed.

Now I just need to kick this infection that reared its ugly head yesterday. A bit feverish, headache, but no bleeding, discharge, clear fluid, or abdomnal pain so that is a good sign. But still infection post CVS is a miscarriage risk. So not great either. I got ABs from GP las night so hopefully that will sort it.

Hi Alba and Strix - Persnickety, make your mind up who you're going to be!! (Kiwi is easily confused.) Glad you've both had good news, that must be such a relief. And hope you feel better soon, Strix. Hope all goes well for you too, Duelling.

One of my colleagues opted for the voluntary redundancy today, as she figured she was going to go anyway. They told her that not enough people has opted for this - they're looking for three - so they're starting the elimination process for everyone now, INCLUDING this woman who's resigned. I'm amazed - what a waste of time! But that's just them pretending to find the people most expendable, when they've already made up their minds. It's all so ghastly.

Re MIL, we're driving up to see her this weekend, and I think her operation is next week. On top of the worry for MIL's health and life expectancy, there is also lots of family tension there, as DH's sister feels that she's been unfairly dumped with the task of looking after her mother, and her brothers have got off scot free because one lives overseas (although he's here now) and DH and I live in London.

Nowt is straightforward.

One thing that makes me happy is that DS (4) has fallen in love with the idea of himself as a big brother, and insists on talking to the baby. This requires me to respond as the baby, and I have to call him 'Big brother DS'. If he does a trick or sings a song, he wants to know if the baby saw that, or likes that. Such a simple thing, but I must admit, it brings me great pleasure.

baby looL00 born 30 june 2am at home a little girl with no name yet, 9 lb 6 oz. I'm a bit tired so that's all for now.

Congrats LooL00, really inspiring to hear you had a homebirth too! I'd love one, but then hear yet another scare story and think perhaps I should stick with hospital, but I really dislike local maternity hospital... If you get chance to pop in and tell us all about it I would really appreciate it, once you're a bit more rested and those exhausting early days with your little one have passed.

Kiwi, hope you had a good weekend with your MIL and family tensions are easing off now? Fingers crossed that all goes well for her this week.
How's work? As I recall it can be a pretty stressful place, if they mess about long enough you may reach mat leave, then a redundancy payment too to tide you over whilst spending time with your DCs and finding somewhere better may not be such a bad thing? Though I know the uncertainty must be horrible.

Strix hope you're over the infection and all is well

Baby girl born by elective cs 30th June 1:12 p.m. 7lbs 11oz. She also has no name yet - starting to think she never will. 'Baby sister' seems to be fine for now!!

Hello, everyone. Congratulations negrilbaby!!! Hope you've found a name.

I've not posted lately, but wanted to update. In 16th week now -- had 12 week scan and all is well (low risk).

I wanted see if anyone had an opinion on joining NCT. This is dc3, so I don't know that I will get that much new info, but thought it might be nice as there is a group that meets across the road. I didn't join with first 2 dcs due to distance/no car. Just wondering in any of the oldies were going to give it a try or is it more for the first timers?

Congratulations LooLOO and Negrilbaby! Wonderful news.

Kathsunn, you can attend coffee mornings without belonging to the NCT. They don't mind at all.

Life's a bit jumbled for us at the moment, sort of The Good, The Bad and The Ugly - The Good is that I am 20 weeks tomorrow, and we hope to find out the sex on Thursday. The Bad is that I am def being made redundant, with a whopping payout of 5 weeks - one fore every full year I've worked there - and they're pretending that my pregnancy has NOTHING to do with it - the Evil Boss has got me at last! And the Ugly is that my MIL has now decided NOT to have the operation on the brain tumour, and no one seems to know what will happen next. Lots going on.

How is everyone else?

Fab news negrilbaby and that's 2 old birds babys born on the same day!

albaDeT my homebirth was just as I hoped, labour started properly at about 8 or 9 pm although i sort of knew at 7pm that it ws probably getting going. called the labour ward to ask them when it was best to call the mw at 9.30, they said wait a bit and I called again at 11.30. Mw round at midnight and lucky for me it was my own community mw on call so that was great, she'd been in the house before and had met DH. She called the 2nd MW quite soon as dc2 had arrived pretty fast and I was 5cm. Tens machine (mamatens) was too complicated and I gave up on it. baby born at 2am and everyone in bed by 4. That's it really. baby (no name yet) is 10 days old and hasn't been in the car yet. Oh and a GP came round to check her the day she was born.The only thing i should have done differently was to say I wanted entonox for the second stage, we'd agreed I'd ask for it if I needed it but the (5 min !!) second stage was so fast and furious I didn't manage to ask.I spent a magical minute or 2 holding baby who was very slippery and not being able to see if we had a girl or a boy. Dc1 and 2 asleep upstairs the whole time and FIL on call down the road in case we had to tranfer in.We also had the dc booked in at a neighbour's house for breakfast in case things went on a bit.

Just a thought kiwi , DH got made redundant 2 years ago and we had legal cover included in our house insurance that we didn't know about . DH found a new job so didn't persue the legal stuff. 20 weeks is fab, maybe more than halfway there. Hope you're feeling well.