Is there a thread for the old birds who are pregnant and over 40?

[hippychick66]

I'm on a fab thread on the ttc section but am now 7 wks preg .

I know it's early days but I wondered if there was a thread on here for the older pregnant woman who might be experiencing all the same things as me.

God, I hope I'm not tempting fate by coming over from the ttc side!!!!!

Oh Hippy, 12 days, such a long time...

I have read of lots of inconclusive 6 week scans that go on to be just fine. Plug yourself in to your Zita self-hypnosis whenever it gets too stressful. I do recall you saying that she sends you off into a nice relaxing sleep. Reducing stress is the most important thing you can do for your little one -- you have to do all you can to assume all well. So incredibly hard to do. But you can do it, I know you can.

Hi alba - I will be in need of somehting to help me sleep that's for sure. Should be like a Zombie by the time 12 days is up.

I posted this on the other thread -

I'm worried cos the sac was very small and she said I couln't be sure I was definitely 6 + 3 - but I'm charting for goodness sake so I ought to be pretty close.

Also, I have some mild cramps today like a pain in a line from my bits up to my bellybutton and as much as I try to convince myself it's just the little one settling in - it is unnerving me alot!

I had heard that early scans can be a worry cos they can cause more concern than re-assurance but I was just so pleased to be offered one that I didn't think beyond that.

Another friend at work said I should use the progesterone cream but i asked the sonographer if the lining was ok and she said 'fine' - so I feel if we do lose this one it wont be down to progesterone or lack of it it will just be bad luck with the embryo (again!!!).

Maybe I am just too old for all this and should have stoppped at my two boys??????

Hippy, pains and mild cramps are very normal (and extremely disconcerting)... Since you said your GP was so lovely, and she did want to know how you got on, why not go back and have a chat with her, see if you can get a series of beta HCG blood tests over the next week, to see if your levels are going up? I'm not medically qualified, just basing on what others have said in the past (didn't ILGH have HCG levels monitored?) -- also, she may be able to check your progesterone levels and that may all serve to put your mind at rest sooner than 12 days from now?

Yeah I did think about going to see her and asking if my levels can be checked to see if they are going up. Will make an appointment for asap.

Am going to use the pessary tonight and see if that makes any difference to the spotting.

Have found loads of positive stories on the internet about people who were told there was only a sac and then later saw a baby and heartbeat etc. But they are the other side of the wait - lucky buggers.

It brings a whole new meaning to the 2WW.

Hippy Chick, trying this again as I tried to post twice and it is not coming up - this is a test....

Okay here goes.

Hi just thought I would send you a positive thread about early scan experience I had.

I thought I was about 6+1 when I first went in for a scan - I know my body really well and know very well when I ovulate. Sonographer did an abdominal only and saw gestation sac and yolk sac but no fetal pole and implied it was too early to see fetal pole and I must be slightly further back than I though. I was told to wait a week which was full of angst, I went back in at 7+1 and again no fetal pole on abdominal u/s however internal U/s picked up heartbeat immediately but she did put me back to 6+5 which I thought was really unsual but not impossible - would have mean't sperm had lasted for 5 days and I ovulated on day 22 which seemed a bit too far fetched. 2 Weeks later had another scan at and measured exactly right for previous three scans at 8+5. I was a bit confused but Sonographer quite rightly sad that it was not complete science and none of us really know what goes on in the body. So in essence try not to worry, although I know that is extremely hard. If you are like me you will find loads of positive stories like ours but you will equally find lots of people who saw a heartbeat much earlier than us, but try to remember no one really knows exactly when ovulation occurs and what happens when sperm actually meets egg, in some cases it might take longer than others to implant etc.

loubilou You are a star. Thanks for that - what a lot of typing you did just for little old me .

Everyone on this and a couple of other threads I'm on has been so wonderful to me today - i'm welling up!!

I know it's easier to say than do, Hippy, but try not to stress about it. If the baby's fine, then the stress won't help it, and in the (hopefully unlikely) event that all is not well, then worrying now won't change anything then. Let us worry on your behalf! x

Hi guys. I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news on Father's day but i wanted to let you all know.

I've been bleeding and cramping since yesterday, it looks like I'm having an MC.

I'm disappointed but not really surprised - I think I've been preparing myself for this for the last week.

I'm just wondering now if perhaps my eggs are just no good now. Is there a test I can have? I have never even had my FSH levels checked at 3 days and I have googled about and found that a very high FSH can mean love quantity or poor quality reserves.

I have an appointment for tomorrow morning to see my GP and will discuss with her.(I made the appointment last week cos I just had a feeling this was gonna happen).

I still have my lovely DH and my boys and I honest don't feel too bad - just sad and maybe a little scared about how much more bleeding and pain there s gonna be.

Thanks to you all of you for your positivity and care.
xx

Hugs Hippychick if you do MC they should offer you a scan to check you over, I'd ask the EPU people about tests then.

Definitely losing it. Passing small clots today and cramping - but not too bad yet.

Also poas and it is now saying 1 - 2 weeks since conception so i know hormone levels are dropping. Had my blood taken yesterday and will go again on thursday - to make it official.

I will still go for the scheduled scan next Monday just to check that all is clear in there.

Thanks ladies for your support.

That so sucks. for you. Wish more could be done via the interweb. Take care and ((hugs)). yup. hugs. there. done it.

Very sorry hippy to hear your sad news hugs sent your way,
It is quite hard to follow up with postive news and not feel guilty on doing so, but I wanted to share some postive vibes with evryone out there if thats ok
I was at my nuchal scan on sunday and got an excellent reading 1.75, and then I was told I was 13 weeks not the 11 I thought I was EH? , then yesterday I got my blood results back and was told I have a risk factor of 1-1,815 and I was told that my body is treating this pregnancy as though I was 15 years old and not 40
Proper dating scan on Friday,so I will find out for sure if Im due this year or 2011!!!
hope everyone is well take care

Wow lee69 totally understand why you want to share that kind of news.

congrats you little teenager you. It gives me hope for next time (if there is one).

So much nicer to share good news than crap news anyway .

hippychick66 I'm new, but just wanted to say I'm sorry for your news. Been there before and it's not easy. Be kind to yourself.

I'm 40 and this is my first - a surprise natural bfp after failed ivf and 10 years of trying. I'm 7 weeks in and hoping.

Oh, and I'm due 14 Feb 2011.

Congratulations lee69!

congrats honeywitch.

Sounds like you well and truelly deserve this to go well.

How lovely - Valentines day!

Hi all

I'm 38 and pregnant for the first time and wondered if there was an 'older' mums thread!!

I guess unlike you guys by the sounds of it you've had children before when you where younger but this is a new thing for me and never thought I could get pregnant had chucked myself into my career and then ta!daaaaa!! [shock}

I'd really appreciate and pearls of wisdom if anyone's got anything to offer I keep looking at the girls walking round my fairly small town and I could be their mums....feels odd

Debs xxx

Oh so sorry just seen the other messages directly above mine and now feel like I'm intruding, hope everything is ok with you Hippy and apologies for my untimely entrance into the conversation just saw the start of the thread
Debs xx

jaffa Don't worry lovey. This thread is for older birds to support each other and even though I would positively love to be 38 right now - I guess you just about qualify.

Please don't feel bad about posting your hello just after my horrid stuff. Life is full of good and bad stuff.

congrats on the pregnancy -hope all the others are supportive for you over the next few weeks/months.

If I do decide to try again - i might well be back (like a bloody bad penny!)

Thanks Hippy

Big Hugs on your sad week and I do hope you'll be back, if its any consolation from the lack of sleep and puking I look about 58.....

Debs x

Oh Hippy, so sorry to hear your news!

Thanks kiwi. I'm ok really - just bloody disappointed.

How are you? How many weeks are you now?

Hi everyone. welcome jaffa I had my first at 38 then dc2 at 39 and now expecting dc3 SOON. Thought it was happening last night actually but I think it was wind, the trouble is I thought dc2 was wind and only just made it to the hospital. Anyway I'm38 weeks today and rambling. Jaffa they're not all young, i have quite a few babygroup friends who are within a few years of my age, like they have a 5 year old dc and are your age.

Hippychick, I am so sorry for your loss. My mc last year was awful, and for a few months I really mourned, but then - at 43! - got pg again, and am now almost 32 weeks (and 44 by now!). So there is hope.

Am on iron tablets and they are working wonders - feel full of energy all of a sudden. Even love the heat!