Is there a thread for the old birds who are pregnant and over 40?

[hippychick66]

I'm on a fab thread on the ttc section but am now 7 wks preg .

I know it's early days but I wondered if there was a thread on here for the older pregnant woman who might be experiencing all the same things as me.

God, I hope I'm not tempting fate by coming over from the ttc side!!!!!

Big congrats to the two ladies who gave birth on the same day. I don't know you and haven't been following your stories but it's always encouraging to hear of over 40 successes. So nice that you're using my term 'old bird' too - makes me feel like I still belong here (kind of!)

alba YOU HAVE NOT OUT STAYED YOUR WELCOME. Pop back to the over 40's TTC thread soon please. I need you to keep me focused on my goal.

In a way it isn't really about TTC anymore - some on there arn't even TTCing at all at the mo - it's just a group of ladies who care whats going on with each other and we are always happy to see you and kiwi (if a little of your bumps!)

I got a positive on an OPK today (23 days after MC started). So am raring to go. I have to believe it will be ok next time - gotta keep positive.

Lool00 thanks so much for sharing, sounds like the perfect birth, here's hoping I can do that too. Good luck with finding a name soon

Kiwi that sounds dreadful! Are they really allowed to do that to you? Or will SMP still be the same amount (albeit that you'll need to claim directly)? Not something you really need to have to be figuring out just now. Best of luck with it all and I hope all goes really well with your scan on Thursday and your little one isn't being all coy and not letting on its gender!

Hippy, I just figured it's not such fun for you all to have someone pg hanging around whinging and moaning when I know whilst TTC I'd have given anything to be as tired and sick as I currently am (15 weeks, should be blooming, but I'm not, it's not fair. And have a pg colleague who hasn't felt sick once ). I'm glad you've decided to keep on trying. I firmly believe in 3rd time lucky, with a bit of extra folic acid to help minimise defects, and a bit of extra iron to replenish depleted supplies after recent losses -- it's about all I could do to help beyond regular pregnancy vits and as much rest and relaxation as is possible with other kids already. Wishing you all the very best and I hope your lovely kind GP is being helpful to you too.

negrilbaby congrats!

kathsunn I found the actual classes with NCT not especially helpful but our group kept in touch and the support from each other in the early days was invaluable. Have just spent a lovely afternoon with them and our chaotic toddlers who all have a wonderful time when together. I might try to see if they're running a refresher near my due date, to get another group of same aged kids buddies...

Hi all

I'm a newbie - I just posted a separate message, then saw this.

I am 18 weeks pregnant but prior to falling pregnant I did a batch of tests and was told I was in the 1% of women who would have a menopause before I was 45. I'm 40. Anyone else in this sort of boat?

Thanks

Hi, can anyone help me, i'm going crazy with uncertainty?
i'm 47 decided to TTC in Feb, conceived in May, had scan at 5+4, all perfect, 2nd scan at 7+4 all horribly wrong. Told fetus was too small and HB too slow will MC any day (slight bleed around sac), 2nd opinion 2 days later said I was small for dates, had slight bleed but it could go either way. Go back for another scan this Thurs and am terrified. I feel pregnant, I look pregnant I have had no sign of MC so hope all is well but am I being stupid? This will be no.4 for me but no.1 for my partner. Sorry for being so long, just don't know what to think.

Hi. I can't help much I'm afraid but wanted you to know that someone was here supporting you.

I guess the only thing to do is wait until the next scan (so much easier for me to type than for you to do - sorry).

Maybe they just couldn't be sure at that second scan what was going on.

I'd say try to be positive but guard your heart a little that it may not work out - it's all that we can do in these situations.

All the best for the next scan. Let us know lovie.
xx

Hi

As the oldest lady here (46, oh that hurt!) just popping by to say how fraught with worry this whole thing is at this age. Bad bloods, amnio, (all ok) and now I'm stressing about the 20 week anomaly scan in two days time. Just keep expecting the worst, and for those who have experienced the worst I know this sounds ungrateful.

My heart is with you who have experienced loss, and I'm reassured and happy for the rest who are doing well.

Thank you hippychick,
I know im being hopeful but i am a realist too. Started bleeding today, nothing much just old blood, hopefully from the sac bleed. No sign of anything worse, went to work and am trying to carry on as normal. I know if this one isn't a keeper then there was a god reason for it and we will try again. Thanks for keeping me company, will let you know how it goes.
Hey ButterflyChild, good luck with it all, I don't enjoy taking your crown but...I am now the oldest, i'm 47 soonish to be 48, but I'm not sure how long i'll be here before watching the TTC thread...i'm not a big talker but i like to keep up with everyone.
Sending positive vibes through the ether for everyone here.

Oops, that was a typo, I am trying to keep the faith... in the fava bean but i'm not a religious person, if its not a keeper its for a GOOD reason. : )

birthdoula, sorry I missed your post and was going by a previous list. I'm thinking of you. I didn't even realise I was pg because I had a normal period followed by 4 weeks of bleeding (not just spotting). Just thought that was how menopause happens. So I don't want to pass on false hope, goodness knows I've been on the receiving end of that enough on the ttc rollercoaster, but I am rooting for you and the bean that all is in fact going to be ok. Carrying on as normal may be so difficult, but please don't put your enjoyment of life on hold.

Thank you ButterflyChild,
Well i think it's all over, i started bleeding last night, nothing major more like a heavy period, some cramps but again like a bad period.
I am sure i've said farewell to the fava bean. I don't feel as bad as i expected, i think its because i have known in my heart for over a week now that the bean wasn't going to make it, i wish i could say the same for my man.
My thanks to you and hippychic for your support, may all the luck in the world be with you and i plan to be back here very soon. x

birthdoula So so sorry to hear that. I felt the same when i had this most recent MC. I was sad and disappointed when i started bleeing but i wasn't entirely surpirsed cos i had been expecting it.

It is still totally shit when it happens though and I send all my love to you.

It is probably worth still going for the scan - if you can. Or maybe move it to a weeks time. I had a scan about 10 days after I started bleeding and they were able to say that everything had come away by itself and I was back to a clean sheet. As crap as that sounds it was good to know that, cos i felt happy to start trying again knowing there was nothing left that could cause a problem.

Hi Hippychic (This might be a bit graphic beware),
just to let you know, the fava bean gave up on Wednesday, we went for a check as I was bleeding and saw on the scan it was all just about to happen, everything was detached and moving towards the neck of the womb.
About 3 hours later it was all over. I'm sorry if this sounds grim but I actually asked the doctor to show me the bean, everything was intact, the sac, fava bean, it was beautiful in a sad way but at least I got to see the bean and I know it really happened.
It was very cathartic and apart from when I came home and had a little weep I actually feel very positive, we will try again, everyone has been so helpful, all the medical folk etc. telling us that we managed to get pregnant after only 3 months trying its a good sign and i'm not too old (heck I am ONLY 47!), it has really made me hopeful, early days I know and I fully expect a cloud to descend on me at any time, but i'm ready for the bugger!
I just wish my DP could talk to someone he is so very upset this has hit him hard, but he also wants to get going on the next round!
We will have a scan in 10 days to check its all gone, then we'll wait for the obligatory 1 period and then back to rumpy pumpy 24/7. See always something good comes out of the crap!
Thank you so much for your kindness, I know you have had more sadness than you deserve (I am usually a silent participant on MN), I wish for all your dreams to come true and baby happiness for you and me and everyone else who is so determined in this cruel, bloody, battle with nature.
Tonight I am going to have one very BIG drink and eat some soft cheese! : ) x

Hi ButterflyChild, how was your anomaly scan? I hope you are only hearing nice things and kind words.
Thinking of you. x

Birthdoula, my scan was fine, tho' I'd got so worked up about it, thanks for asking. Sad to think of you losing your tiny baby, and being so brave at the same time.

birthdoula

Thanks for keeping me up to date. It was not too graphic at all - I can relate to it all. I actually felt something large plop out when i was in the middle of my most recent MC and am embarrased to say i fished it out of the loo and had a look. I think it was only a sac but there may have been something more in it - it was hard to tell.

I didn't get to see my 8 week feotus that I lost in feb cos I was too scared to look at the screen for fear of no heartbeat (I was right there then) and then I had an eprc so it was sucked out at high speed and I didn't see it then either.

I totally understand your wanting to see this one and that's why I fished what I thought might be 'it' out of the loo.

I have found that everyone in the medical profession has been wonderful to me - no mention of me being an old bag at all. I even look at the floor when they ask me to confirm date of birth - I'm convinced they must be thinking 1966 - that feckin' years ago! But they never let on if they are thinking that.

Take care of yourself and your poor old emotional DH. Keep in touch, you know where I hang out!

Hippychic, I'm so glad I'm not a freak! I do some odd things and have always been curious of body bits and doings so am very glad to find out you looked too.
That age thing is a strange one, I so forget how old I am, I honestly think I'm still in my 30s, I would feel younger but as my eldest daughter is 27 and my youngest is 17 I have to try and be realistic.
Anyway, I am returning to the nomadic life, popping in and out of discussions but being an observer rather than a talker, unless something fires me up.
I wish you all the best and hope to chat with you again when we both have happy stories to share.

Okey dokey birthdoula. If you pop on and read that I'm preggers again - please say hi and give me a bit of hand holding. Also, let me know if you get preggers again too.

I started off as someone who only read peoples threads and then i began commenting and made some wonderful 'virtual' friends and now I am quite hooked. I find myself genuinley worrying about how people I have never met are getting on at a scan etc. All very strange - but it does provide a great level of support and my DH would die if he knew the kind of things I tell people.

Hello can i pop in?I am on another thread too but they are a bit young and i need the company of older Mammas i feel. Also experiences are very different for us as obviously concerns re nucal etc is much greater. Anyway if you can put up with me i am 43 5th baby due Feb 5th ist for dh so quite precious. Have 3 ds 25 23 and 20 dd 8 and g child 10months!Didnt expect this one at all and have had a fair bit of worry so far but no reason to really. Have been text book so far a bit of nausea lots of hunger and wind (sorry)and so far a belly that looks as if i am about 5 months,had dating scan at 10.5 weeks all good and am of to fmc nest wed for nt scan as you have to pay here and so i thought money better spent there as they do more detailed scan etc. hoping that is all i need but am prepared to have cvs if nes.Am at this stage where symptoms are dying down a bit which has bought on bit of panic. Spoke to a fairly unhelpfull mw yesterday who pooh poohed the fact that i have already felt some flutters(confirmed when it moved during scan and i felt it)did feel some with dd too,anyway i am trying to remain positive and have felt sick this am esp when i get hungry so hope all is well.
Sorry to hear of the losses on here it really is a lottery isnt it and so sad esp when older i feel. I had mc at 11 wks before dd and it had actually stopped at 9 weeks which is prob why i am bit paranoid with this one.Anyway im glad i found you

Hi Hippychic, you betcha, bon chance us.
Hi Ledkr, congratulations, good luck with everything, no.5 thats brilliant! will look in to find out how you are doing. Keep positive, i was always hungry too with all my pregnancies, I loved that, food is my favorite hobby!

ledkr Congrats on your preg - lovely that it is your hubbies 1st.

I'm not even meant to be on here at the mo cos i am between pregnancies (ha ha). But i keep popping on as I like to meet 40+ women whose pregnancies are progressing. Hopefully I will get another BFP and be back on here as a fully fledged member soon.

Good luck with all the tests etc.

alba & kiwi how are you doing - how many weks now etc???

I haven't been on this thread much, so it feels a little bit wrong to be posting, but.... 2 gorgeous little brothers for ds were delivered at 34 + 4 on Wednesday morning 5lb 1oz and 3lb 14oz. I've been sent home from hospital, the boys are still there for some days yet, as they need to gain weight and establish feeding before they are allowed home. Both have had a go at bf, which amazed me!
I'm about to go back into hosp to try again, so that's all from me!

Congrats Mrs Mopple - that's fantastic news!

Hi Hippy! I'm 25 weeks and we're having a GIRL - something of a shock, as we were convinced we were having another boy. But very much looking forward to meeting here - especially as you know how much we went through to get to this stage!

Found out today that my oldest friend, who coincidentally has a ds 3 weeks older than my ds, has had ANOTHER m/c at 9 weeks. I am so, so sad for her, and just so grateful that we've been given this chance to have baby #2. How is everyone else on the Funky Forty Fornicators thread? Please give them my love.

Hi, another old bird here. I am 42 this month and 8 weeks pregnant.
We had TTC for nearly 2 years and not even a sniff of a pregnancy so I had given up hope and decided to try and move on.
I have my lovely DS already and all the TTC made me even more grateful to have him.
anyway, I decided to do a college course that I had wanted to do for years to give me a focus away from babies, so I got on the course, handed my notice in at work and was very excited about it all.
Of course the one month in two years that I pay absolutely no attention to cycle date, ovulation EWCM, nothing! is the month that I fall pregnant! I still can't quite believe it to be honest.
Cue lots of scrabbling about trying to get my job back, informing the college and changing all the plans without actually being able to tell anyone why!
I don't think I will be able to believe there is a baby until the scan, atm all seems a bit unreal.

Hello all,

this old bird (44) gave birth last Tuesday to a lovely tiny perfect little girl, by ELCS. All went well, home two days later, recovering speedily. Baby sleeping and feeding, feeding and sleeping. Very, very happy. Good luck everyone else, and - we are NOT too old!!!