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November Bus graduates and any other November to-be mummies!!!

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scarlotti · 25/02/2009 09:17

Morning All

For those of us who graduated from the November ttc bus, or any other ladies who are expecting in November, I thought it might be nice to have a thread where we can moan and groan to our hearts content!!

Hop on and chat away - if you're like us, then nobody in RL will be told for a while so I need someone to talk things through with!!

Anyone else want to join?

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scarlotti · 26/02/2009 10:30

Bump!

Koumak - hope you find this!

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Supercherry · 26/02/2009 10:38

Congratulations Scarlotti! I also think I'm due November. Found out yesterday. Also joined an October thread as I'm a little confused about the dates. I'm really excited- but also rather tetchy.

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scarlotti · 26/02/2009 10:55

Hi Supercherry, congratulations to you too!

If you're tetchy then you're on the right thread - much easier to rant and moan on here than in RL - especially if you're not telling anyone yet!

I think I'm due around 7th November.

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esselle · 26/02/2009 10:58

Hello! I found out this morning that I'm pg too! I think I'm due around 2nd Nov - according to the pregnancy calculator at the bottom of the page!

This one will be DC3. Dh and I are both very excited!

I'm gad to have someone else to chat to about this as I might pop while waiting for the magical 12 wk mark!

I have name changed as I have quite a few RL friends on here.

Koumak · 26/02/2009 11:28

hello girls!
great news everybody!
thanks scarlotti i am here now although i think the EDD is 30 October i am likely to give birth in Nov as ds was two weeks late!
i joined the october thread but they all seem so advanced to me i would rather be with you

Koumak · 26/02/2009 11:31

havent really told anybody yet - well one of my friends sort of quessed as she called me when i was in the middle of my vomiting(the one and only sick day when vomiting on public transport... actually thats not true i also told everybody on that train but i dont care about them...
how is everybody feeling?

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scarlotti · 26/02/2009 11:46

Welcome esselle and good to see you found us Koumak!

This one will be our DC#3 too and my due date is 4 days before DS's 4th birthday! My DD was 3.5 weeks early and DS was 6 days late so I have no idea which way this will go.

It's good to have others to chat to about it all as we're trying to keep it quiet. Am praying I get to 12 weeks as we've lost 2 previously before then. Will make me neurotic for the next while so I'll apologise in advance!!

Been feeling a bit queasy too and was surprised that it's started so soon.

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julietbat · 26/02/2009 12:13

hi. i'm new to this sort of thread. we found out last week that we're expecting dc no.2. Think might be due 1 or 2 Nov. We conceieved through ivf last time so everyone (it felt like!) knew right from the beginning. This time it was iui and we've kept it really quiet. that's so unlike me so it'll be really nice to have people to chat to about it while i go quietly mad with impatience!

congrats to all you other nov girls. i'm not feeling anything except tiredness at the moment but with an 11month dd that's not surprising anyway.

esselle · 26/02/2009 12:27

I'm feeling ok. Just knackered as DS 14mo is teething at the moment and keeping me awake in the night. I expect the shitey nausea and morning sickness to kick in soon...

I am expecting this one to go over due as I was 9 days o/d with DD and 13 days o/d with DS.

Dh and I have already decided that when we start telling people that we are adding 2 weeks to my due date to keep everyone off our backs at the end!! And to hopefully keep MIL away for a bit longer!!!

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scarlotti · 26/02/2009 13:55

esselle - great idea, might use that one myself!!

Hi julietbat and congratulations!

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Fruitpastels · 26/02/2009 14:20

Hello everyone & congrats! I was on the November bus and graduated last week!

Wonderful idea to start this thread Scarlotti.

If my dates are correct then I'm due on 4th Nov. Very close to ds's birthday. I've told a couple of friends and close family. I'm no good with secrets!

Have felt terrible today. Come down with some kind of bug and had diarrhoea and morning sickness thrown in as well. Feeling a tad better this afternoon I seem to be rather run down at the moment. Anyway, lots of rest and drinking lots of water for me today.

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scarlotti · 26/02/2009 14:35

Hi fruitpastels, glad you found us.

How old will your ds be at his birthday?

We'll tell close family soon although my brother's wife is only 2 weeks away from her due date so we don't want to take away any of the limelight.

What do people think - should we tell before or after their baby is born? Which is more rude (if at all)?!

I suspect my close friends will work it out anyway when I'm not drinking on nights out!

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Koumak · 26/02/2009 15:15

scarlotti i would probably tell them before the baby is born. like - oh i cant wait for you baby to get here, i am so excited for you because hopefully we will have one too soon? rather than if you tell them afterwards I was thinking it could be like- oh well done great baby but i am having one too!

Koumak · 26/02/2009 15:16

i also need to spellcheck before i post...

Koumak · 26/02/2009 15:18

I don?t know after having baby everybody is overjoyed anyway so they will be happy for you god knows I haven?t told my family and hopefully will keep it as surprise till I see them at Easter wont have to tell them then they will be able to see it!

julietbat · 26/02/2009 21:09

Hi Scarlotti - I agree with with Koumak, I'd tell them before the baby's born. There'll be so much going on once the baby arrives that they might not take it in properly iyswim (it's taken me so long to figure out the right letters for that, i might as well have written it out in full) - unless you'd rather it was quite a non-dramatic announcement?

Fruitpastels · 27/02/2009 07:41

Scarlotti my ds will turn 4 on his next birthday. How old are your children?

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scarlotti · 27/02/2009 09:03

Thanks ladies, think we were leaning more towards telling them before rather than after. Just don't want anyone thinking we're taking the shine off their new arrival - or maybe I'm just being too sensitive!

As it's our third I doubt the announcement will recieve the same enthusiasm as before anyway, my brother is on no 4 (2 step dc's) and the level of hoopla was definitely higher with the first announcement!

Fruitpastels - my ds will turn 4 too! His birthday is 4 days past my due date, and we also have a dd who's 14. She'll be 15 by the time the baby comes!

Koumak - you'll be doing well to keep it a secret until then! Am not sure I could wait that long

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Koumak · 27/02/2009 09:26

good morning,
this is amazing coincidence or our perfect planning my son just turn 4!

Scarlotti I am not sure if I can keep it secret at work though ? mu tummy is getting so big! I have started to wear my skirts over the bump literally under my bra as can do them up at waist level. Likely I used to wear them quite long under the knees so can get away with it. But the belly is definitely there. I don?t look fat anymore I look pregnant! Also have been wearing loooong tops and scarfs etc. I give it a week...

Koumak · 27/02/2009 09:28

i meant as i CANNOT do them up as my stomach so big

Fruitpastels · 27/02/2009 09:40

I think 4 years is a nice age gap. My ds's birthday is 2 days before my due date, he was a day early so there is every chance of having baby on his birthday

No sign of me showing a bump just yet. Can't get into my jeans though so need to go out shopping today and buy some comfortable combats.

Woken feeling more human today thank goodness!

julietbat · 27/02/2009 10:16

Fruitpastels and Scarlotti - I'm quite envious and also a little worried. 4 yrs age gap sounds lovely, you'll have such cute little helpers when the baby comes. My dd will be 20 months. Please tell me it won't be too hellish terrible bloody awful challenging with 2 under 2?

julietbat · 27/02/2009 10:18

oh, and I'm not showing at all yet. But that might be because I'm still carrying a teensy weensy bit of baby weight from dd!

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scarlotti · 27/02/2009 10:26

We'd originally wanted about a 3 year gap but it wasn't meant to be.
I'm happy with the 4 year, plus it means we won't have two lots of nursery fees for too long!!

julietbat - lots of my friends have 2 with a similar age gap as you will and it works out fine. It is a little harder in the beginning but you're still not out of the nappy stage etc. yet so won't find it as much of a shock as those of us who've left it longer!!
All my friends kiddies are now about a year on and it's brilliant, they all play beautifully together.

I suspect my 15 yr old will just turn her nose up and state she won't do nappies!!

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Fruitpastels · 27/02/2009 10:33

Congrats Julietbat I think it depends on how chilled your dd is. She'll hopefully be walking well by then and be more independent. Also, she'll be communicating far better and you can include her in things with the baby, like bathing etc. Also, by the time your youngest gets to the awkward toddler age, your oldest will be at pre-school for a few hours.

I will be looking for advice nearer the time on how to stop jealousy etc when baby arrives.