Due November after loss

[CloudsInMyCoffee09]

Hi there,
I've started this thread so that mamas who have similar due dates following a previous loss or losses have somewhere to chat and feel supported.

I've been on a November due date thread but I feel there's a huge difference in the mindset of people who have experienced loss and those who haven't - which makes total sense!

We have different worries and milestones to make it past etc, so please join if you need somewhere to chat, rant, vent, or share your worries.

Pregnancy is an anxious time as it is without having previous trauma to contend with. Is it just me, or has all the joy been sucked out of the experience?

@LER2023 that’s exciting for you! Is there a reason the want to five you a sweep before 40weeks? On the flip side I made my midwife laugh when she mentioned a sweep on my due date and I went something along the lines of “nope - no hands are getting in me until I have had some contractions or need a c-section” 😂She knew what I would prefer but as I’m 41 she has to go through the protocol - but I very much need to be left alone in labour, I like them in the vicinity but leaving me too it if that makes sense! I think that’s why I’d like a home birth! But hiring a birthing pool may be a bit too expensive after the car mishap last week!

She said its something they offer now and tbf when she was feeling round for his head, she saw me wince a little because of how painful hes making my pelvis she was was like do you want a sweep at 39 weeks, ill be 39+2! Im tired and in pain now. Sleep clearly isnt an option right now. I slept from around 830 up at 11🫠 send help for the next 3 weeks!

Pretty sure I’m in early labour but have been since 5am yesterday! Very stop start, waters haven’t gone yet and I wouldn’t say I’ve lost my mucus plug although had a tiny bit of jelly in my pants on Tuesday night. I only finished work on Tuesday! I think I keep scaring the contractions away, the pain is so similar to having a miscarriage it’s hard to relax into it. My little boy woke up this morning and the first thing he said was “baby coming!” I was so surprised he’s picked up on it. I don’t think it will be today now though x

Hey Jade, if you feel anxious you can call labour ward and have them check you. They wouldn’t keep you in if you are under 4cm but if it helps put you at ease it’s worth getting seen and letting them monitor baby and your contractions. Good luck!! X

I hope all goes well for you! I can’t imagine the extra stress this has been causing. Hopefully you are high priority!! Do you have your section date yet?
I have pre-op tomorrow and will be given my date for c-section.
Not long now and we will have them home with us and it will all feel worth it 🥰 xx

Definitely give maternity triage a call. I went in at 34 weeks with contractions. They popped me on the monitor and did an exam and a swab to see if labour was imminent. For me it was an irritable uterus. They told me to call back if they got to 2 in 10 and 40s long even if they don't want to check you over now they will give you parameters for when you should call back

What gestation are you? Id definitely speak to the labour unit and find out!
Ive been having some jelly discharge and on and off pains but im thinking these may be braxton hicks as they dont last long at all.

Let us know how you get on!! Xx

@Jade3110 How are you doing? I hope it is all going ok 🤞🏻 My friend had a longer latent stage - hers ended up about 3 days long (blew my mind as I was the opposite lol) but she didn’t have any other chikdren to have to look after. Did you call your local maternity unit?

@LER2023 ahh! Fingers crossed it gets things moving and it all happens swiftly for you 🤞🏻 My apple watch keeps banging on about how bad my sleep is at the moment 😂 my daughter is currently in with me (hubby is in her bed) as I needed our humidifier for my rhinitis, and my daughter now has a cold (deep joy - as I imagine this is now it until the weather warms up again, so keeping a newborn free from a cold is going to be fun!) but the waking up to roll over gets me - as I get hungry as I lay awake, and I’m too lazy to waddle down for a snack haha.

I’m pretty sure little lady wiggled further into the pelvis again last night too - I had some mild cramping in the pelvic area where her head is, and she was fidgeting away, and now her kicks aren’t at the side of my torso anymore - they are more under the diaphragm kind of area. I feel like I should be more organised perhaps..

My samsung watch keeps telling me i had an excellent sleep.. i look at it like what are you on about? My OH is saying im like a hog in a spit the way i turn🤣🤣🤣

I give up with getting up for wee's and snacks my OH has to be up for around 4.45 for work and i always wake up around 330 needing to pee🤣

I tend to have a snack just before i go to bed and i go for around 3 wee's or dribbles before im ready to settle down but because ive got the next to me, literally next to me, it may as well be in bed with us its that bloody close or it feels it🤣🤣 i have no chance of rolling out of bed, i have to try and shuffle down the bed to get out!

You know what i had that weird pain last night in my diaphragm!!! I said to him last night you know what this whole pregnancy ive been saying baby hasnt been under my ribs and tonight i feel like ive been winded🤣

Baby soon moved when i had a mini wiggle at the loo🤣🤣
But then i just got booted everywhere he could fit his little feet and hands as a punishment! Hes been a naughty boy alreafy and starting fights, i keep telling my OH i'll get baby to fight him when hes out because hes a little aggressive on the inside!

Ive just put my pump on charge getting ready to collect colostrum from tomorrow!! Im definitely going to start off slow and steady😬
Its getting so close im like ahhhhh!!! We're going to have a baby in the next 3 weeks!!!!

My MIL keeps hinting that she wants to be at the birth, and i keep wanting to say no, just because i feel like my mum should also be there if my MIL is there.
I love my mum to pieces and i would want her to be there to witness the same as my MIL. So we agreed it would be my OH and my SIL.
But my SIL has said we'll switch it out, if you want to be there mum we will just keep switching whos in the room.. you know not like its my choice or anything🙂
Even my OH has said 'i dont want my mum there'🤣
Ive spoken to my midwife about my birth plan but i havent written anything down, or got anything set in stone! I panic bought some more clothes for baby this week🫣 i woke up at 2 in the morning almost crying because hes meant to be a winter baby and i have no long sleeve vests for him, although i agreed that i wouldnt buy anymore things for him, i bought more in a panic!😅

Ive been asked if i wanted to go out for tea by one of my colleagues although i told her i can barely walk and i definitely cant walk very far🙂
I have a growth scan again on Monday which im going to on my own since my OH has work and cant get out so im having to get a taxi there🤣 i keep saying i might pop into work and see my lovely colleague but on the other hand im like why do i want to do that😂

Im waiting on the end.. like the diarrhoea end so i know i'm close to labouring as apparently thats how everyone starts.. it hadnt happened yet, im more constipated than anything, TMI i spent an hour on the loo other day because i knew i needed to go but i couldnt go🫠 when it hit the hour mark my bum cheeks started to go numb and my hips started hurting so knew i had to give up🤣🤣

Nesting hasnt hit me properly yet.. does it ever hit or have i just had the nesting stage throughout pregnancy😅 ive sorted all babys bedroom, got everything i need for him, the house is always clean anyway, i dont feel like the nesting stage is going to hit me anytime soon and if it does i dont fancy washing all of his clothes again. Ive washed them when i got them.. so they dont necessarily need washing again😬

3 weeks to go and im so ready for it!!!

Sorry that was a lot🤣

@LER2023 if you’re anything like me - the nesting will be a weird thing you do, I thought it would be all the tidying etc, but in reality - it was doing a shed load of sewing the night before my contractions started 😂 I look back on it now and go “ahhh - yeh that makes sense” but at the time it was just this sudden need to make baby clothes lol! My Mum’s was re-organising the cupboard under the stairs, which was where all my Dad’s work stuff was kept. So not a cupboard she ever went into, but there she was on her hands and knees crying at the state of it and moaning to Dad about his lack of organisation, then at 3am she woke up wanting a cup of tea and thought that was a bit weird, then 6am felt her first contraction and by 9am-ish, I was in the world lol!

Weirdly I never got the loose bowels before labour last time! I feel like I would have gotten myself to bed earlier than I did that evening if I had - like you say, ita good warning to let you know things might start happening!!

I did the same thing the other week. Ended up buying a load more vests and changing what I had packed in baby’s hospital bag. I was in full nesting mode last week but the pelvic pain didn’t let me achieve much. My hallway looks awful now because I started to remove all the paint from the wood but couldn’t finish so decided it was a job for my husband while he’s home either us, he hates sitting still so will keep him busy for a day.
I was given my section date today and I’ll be having a birthday baby.

Sorry for the late response! Baby boy arrived this evening after over 48 hours of contractions! Ended up needing IV antibiotics as they couldn’t say when waters went, by the time they finished I hit transition, panicked a little but then got in the pool and breathed him out in 30 mins! I don’t want to put him down or go to sleep now tho!

Congratulations @Jade3110!!! Glad baby boy made a safe arrival into the world. Hope you are both doing well. Xx

Congratulations on baby boy!! That sounds like a breeze!! Snuggle him tight💙

Hope you're both doing well x

Congratulations @Jade3110 !! Hope you are both doing well and home now?

I have my section date, so week after next for me! Hospital bag all ready and finally finished work. Just going to do a little clean this week and then we’re ready 🤗

Congratulations @Jade3110

Congratulations @Jade3110 - glad the pool helped! I’m hopong I get to use it this time round - they got it filled just in time as I needed to start pushing, but then I had to get out - so as soon as I ring this time I’ll be saying “get the pool started” 😂

@Xwx1010 not long now - eek! I have another growth scan and consultant meeting on Weds, so hopefully if they are happy with the growth still I’ll be around 4weeks to go! They do keep mentioning inducing me on my due date as I’m “geratric” apparently lol, but I have said as long as baby is happy in there I’d rather not be induced. They said I should respond well due to the speed of my first labour - but I think I’d either rather have a scheduled section - or wait until she is ready!

On the 3rd day of trying to get colostrum i finally have some and im honestly over the moon by it🤣 mum life ehh!! Who'd have thought!

I had a growth scan today, in which it went absolutely wonderful until they made me go to triage to go on a fetal heart monitor because i said hes been a little sleepy yesterday and this morning but for me thats normal. They wouldnt listen and insisted i went to triage🙃

Turns out hes a 'text book baby'🤣 and is currently weighing 6 pound 14!
So hearing hes a text book baby, having a good weight and managing to get some colostrum... im literally having the best day🤣

Hope everyones doing ok x

Amazing you have managed to get some stored, your persistence paid off in the end. I managed to get 1ml the other day but haven’t managed to get any more. I’ve been so busy prepping everything ready for my section Wednesday.

Its crazy to think you'll be having your baby on wednesday!!! Its so exciting!! Atleast baby has atleast a ml!!

@LER2023 I’m very excited but very nervous. I can’t believe how fast these weeks have gone. I can’t wait to have her in my arms now. How are you getting on, did you manage to get your birth done? We got a sheet of paper to circle our choices for C-section. I cried a little when I saw it but it was nice to be given options.

No i keep saying im going to write it out and then i keep getting side tracked😅
Being a bit of a nightmare putting it off at the minute, but i think im putting it off because i feel like ive got ages to go and i really dont😅 ive got just under 3 weeks!!

I just cant believe how far we've all come. It does make me a little emotional to think about it!😅
We've all gone through so much and now we're getting close to holding our babies!

😂 Hopefully you manage to get it done soon. The 3 weeks will fly.
I can’t wait to hear all the updates of the babies arriving. It’s been an emotional journey getting here but are so close to having our babies here safe and sound.
I’ve spent my day re cleaning everywhere and napping, hopefully I’m going to sleep tonight cause I have to be up at 5 am to shower and be at hospital for 7:30 .

@Bellabubble i actually can’t believe how long it takes to fill it! I literally only got in to push but he was back to back and had his hand by his face so the pain in my back and bum was intense, the pool helped massively with that!

we came home the next day so trying to adjust to life as a 4!