Pregnancy after loss part 3

[LER2023]

After the first 2 threads have gone really well in supporting others who are going through pregnancy after loss, ive now decided to make a part 3!
This is a safe space for anyone who wants to moan, groan, share your wonderful news or even share your experiences!

We welcome all even those who are trying after a loss!!

Oart 2 thread here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5071488-pregnancy-after-loss-part-2

Part 1 is at the top of part 2's thread if anyone wants to read back.

Welcome all, thank you for being part of this amazing thread🩷🩵

Thanks for setting this up @LER2023 - it's been such a supportive thread 💗

Joining in ladies! Very excited to finally be pregnant again after fertility drugs, miscarriage, more drugs, an 18 month break (for my sanity), more drugs again and finally BFP. I was proud of myself being relatively calm for the last week but now the anxiety has kicked in in a big way. It's so hard!

You’re not alone! After 2 losses this year, I made it to 6 weeks last week which was a personal milestone and felt huge anxiety relief. However, this week at 7 weeks my anxiety is even worse than it was before. I’m second guessing every symptom and feel like I’m already telling myself there’s a problem.

Follow up scan in a week but may be by second missed miscarriage in the space of a few months. Can this really just be bad luck? Had a 6 week scan due to last loss. It’s tiny and no heartbeat but I know it might not show till 7 weeks so still some hope.

Thanks @Mummabutterfly! Nice to talk to people who understand. My family and husband try but they can't really relate. I gave all the symptoms thick is great but got bloods done to try and reassure myself and they're not as encouraging as I'd hoped...

Fingers are crossed for you @TrulyMiss 💜 it’s such a hard journey that I hope we’re all able to get through. I have a scan tomorrow, I’m petrified but really hoping it’s all positive x

Oh best of luck @Mummabutterfly! Hopefully it will give you a bit of reassurance!

Hi I'm 5 weeks pregnant. I have a 4 yo and had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in August.
I'm already have pregnancy sickness which should feel more positive than it does as I had awful sickness with my miscarriage too.
The epu said to contact them at 6 weeks to arrange an early scan and I registered for the midwives yesterday but I feel quite disconnected from it all

I think thats quite a normal feeling, feeling pretty numb to it all. Think after a loss its so difficult because you want to be excited but you dont want to incase theres another loss, after my 3rd loss, you'd have thought nothing happened because i just didnt show anything! Fingers crossed for this pregnancy, wishing you the best!

Hi guys, I lost my little girl Kira last August at 39 weeks and am now 35 +3 weeks pregnant with my rainbow boy. I am being well looked after by my consultant and so far everything is looking great baby is growing as he should and with a posterior placenta I can feel baby well. I will hopefully be induced at 37 weeks but my anxiety is sky high and the next 2 weeks are going soo slowly! I am constantly on edge, constantly monitoring baby's movements and panicking every time he has a quiet moment until he wakes up and starts wriggling then I can relax a bit!

@LER2023 Thank you for the new thread 💛

@SophieRules I also heard no heartbeat at a 6 week scan. Follow up at 8 weeks and there was our tiny bean. I could only think the worst during that time so really understand the anxiety, but they could be wriggling away in there, don't give up hope.

Wishing everyone all the best wherever you're at on this journey ❤️‍🩹

@cococat88 I can't imagine how much that must be weighing on your mind right now. I'm sorry for your loss, there are no words.
Try to stay busy, self care and all that. I go towards colouring in this situation but also do cross stitch and puzzles. Anything that keeps my hands busy keeps my mind quiet and stops it from ruminating.

just marking my place to watch you all from afar x

Still here driving myself mad 🤣 I'm finding there are good days and bad days. The last two have been bad. Will hopefully get more blood results on Monday/Tuesday so at least I'll have more information then...

Hi all, I haven't spoke on here for ages(tried taking a break from social media) I'm 35 weeks and never been so anxious. I've suffered with prenatal depression and anxiety this pregnancy and it's been awful. I will be induced at 38 weeks and I really want baby here. I've had extreme intrusive thoughts and just feel done now 🥲 how's everyone feeling? Anyone else 35 weeks?

Hi @Mamaxo, sending solidarity. I don’t have any quick fixes. I’m 37 weeks and as reaching term creeps closer my confidence that I had built up over the middle of this pregnancy is starting to wobble. I’m focusing on the day to day like I did on the early days, getting from one appointment to the next. Sorry you’re also finding it tough x

@Mamaxo @Wise0wl sending you both love - I also had lots of intrusive thoughts towards the end of the pregnancy and then also got superstitious about them in case it was a 'warning' that he wasn't going to make it. If it's any comfort, I'm sitting here snuggling Samuel who is 16wks today and thriving! I think after losses it's just so hard to believe that you will actually be coming away with a healthy baby and unfortunately that can intensify as the day draws closer. Just know that those thoughts absolutely don't have to mean anything. It's just your brain processing fears etc. Sending big hugs and best wishes for the safe arrivals of your little ones.

Welcome and good luck to all the new joiners on the thread! I don't check in much anymore as you can see I've thankfully come through my journey and out the other side with my rainbow boy after 3 losses last year. Sending you all courage and hope! It absolutely can happen and I'm proof! 💗

Thank you @SnookyPook! I can’t believe Samuel is 16 weeks old! I hope you and he are thriving xx

@Wise0wl thank you, we are! 🥰

@SnookyPook that is wonderful news, thank you for sharing. @Mamaxo @Wise0wl sending lots of solidarity as well, and also to those earlier on in their pregnancy. I am 30 weeks now and getting more anxious as the weeks go by, I just worry about the risks of complications and delivery. At the same time I try to remind myself that every day that goes by the baby is getting stronger and her lungs and brain are more and more ready if she were to come early.

I'm 33 weeks and feeling similar. Not had any let up in the anxiety. Also being induced at 38 weeks. Wish I had some advice - I am using all the support available to me, but I still feel like I am unravelling most of the time :/

Hi all I had a early miscarriage a little over two weeks ago! But today I’ve noticed this morning and this evening when I go loo I have white discharge with what looks like blood vains within it! If I’m honestly me and my partner have still been doing the deed as normal but isit to early to become pregnant again? I have not had another period as of yet! Any ideas or could it just be remains of the misscarraige?!?

Thank you all, glad you're both doing well @SnookyPook. @Orlahoping I haven't got much support sadly I seen the perinatal mental health team but they said because I haven't got long left there's not much they can do they are coming back to see me on the 18th and she give me her number but I don't see the point in using it I can hardly phone her everyday saying I'm extremely anxious 😂 x

@Mamaxo yeah I also had my caseworker tell me that. She's not a MH professional though, so I don't know what she can do about the continued anxiety. I really am just gritting my teeth through these final weeks...the anxiety isn't going to go away until he is safe in my arms (and then there will be a whole load of new anxieties!).

Sorry for your loss. Have you had a negative pregnancy test since then? Have you been dtd regularly? If the loss only happened two weeks ago then in all likelihood you are still seeing the after-effects of that. I did fall pregnant again immediately after my last loss with no period in-between but the positive test was a full month after the bleeding from the loss stopped - I wasn't tracking at that point but know from dates that I must have ovulated later than usual as I thought we were out of the TTC window when we dtd. Ovulation after loss can get a bit unpredictable timings wise but if you are thinking this discharge is implantation (?) that would mean you probably ovulated about 8 days ago...? Would that fit any of your dates etc?