Pregnancy after loss part 3

[LER2023]

After the first 2 threads have gone really well in supporting others who are going through pregnancy after loss, ive now decided to make a part 3!
This is a safe space for anyone who wants to moan, groan, share your wonderful news or even share your experiences!

We welcome all even those who are trying after a loss!!

Oart 2 thread here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5071488-pregnancy-after-loss-part-2

Part 1 is at the top of part 2's thread if anyone wants to read back.

Welcome all, thank you for being part of this amazing thread🩷🩵

I can't remember if it was on this thread or another one but I have commented before about how anxious I got in 3rd trimester. I just wanted him here safely. I had a few intrusive thoughts and was worried my subconscious was preparing me for the worst. Thankfully my little man arrived safely. Unfortunately I think it's a last hurrah of nerves that result from previous loss. It's so hard to believe that you will actually come away with a baby. Just remember that those superstitious thoughts don't mean anything 💗 wishing you all the best for these last few weeks! And to everyone else who is almost at the finish line 💕

@Mamaxo hope all is going well with the induction!! Not long to go now 💗 You've done so well getting to this stage especially with the sub-par support you've had. Hope all goes smoothly from this point on 💗

@LER2023 @Superscientist we're doing well thank you. Today is a poignant day - this time last year I got my bfp for what turned out to be my gorgeous little rainbow baby. However, I was so jaded and scared after my losses that it wasn't completely the joyous occasion it was with my first born. I don't regret my pregnancy not being filled with hope and joy because I have to be gentle with myself and know how much I was guarding and protecting myself, however, now knowing that it did work out and he is safely here its like I'm revisiting it with a different perspective. I hope and pray that all of you still on the TTC/pregnancy journey can be looking back in a similar way soon and giving thanks for the little ones who have safely arrived. 💗🙏🏼

Thank you all. Second day in being induced think it's gonna end in a section and I'm so scared

@Mamaxo My mum had 3 c-sections and they were all fine. Not to downplay it because I know it's major surgery and I would be scared too, but it's possible to be a straightforward birthing experience. From baby's perspective it's quick and all going well you will still have the immediate contact and bonding together. Like SnookyPook said you've come this far and are so close now. Wishing you all the best for a safe delivery in whichever way is best for you both 💕

@SnookyPook thank you for this message, it is so reassuring to read positive stories like this. You're right, those negative thoughts don't actually mean that anything bad is going to happen, it's like you're brain just won't let you be free of worry. But that doesn't mean that anything will come of it.

Sending lots of strength to everyone, wherever you are on the journey

I had a section this time and have written about it elsewhere if you want to search my name. Equally, if you have any questions please ask (here or DM). I had a really positive experience and a good recovery too. I was scared because I'd never had surgery of any kind before. It was honestly a really positive experience and of course got little Samuel here safely which was my biggest concern. Sending hugs - you've got this! 💗💪🏼💗

Hi everyone,

I’m 5+3 weeks after a year and a half of trying after a missed miscarriage in 2023.

I had a little bit of spotting last Monday so I had hcg checks 48 hours apart and they more than doubled which was promising.

The spotting restarted on Friday so I went to the emergency gynaecology unit on Sunday who scanned me and found the gestational sac and yolk sac. So I’m measuring on track for my dates and my cervix is also tightly shut. They couldn’t find any reason for the spotting but it was brown so old blood. I have to go back in 10 days for another scan to make sure things are progressing as they should.

They also prescribed me cyclogest progesterone pessaries to take until 16 weeks and lone behold the spotting has stopped!

We were about to start fertility treatment with the NHS so this has been a real miracle. I’m now just praying that everything is on track still at the scan next week 🤞 Feeling a lot better now I’ve been given progesterone.

@LER2023 thanks for starting another thread!

@Superscientist great to see you here. I remember you from the TTC thread. Congrats on your pregnancy news! Hope the symptoms ease as you progress to your second trimester.

Hope you’re all well in your pregnancies so far. I’ve been a bit of a yo-yo of emotions and worry at the moment. We’re now 18w 3d today. I’ve been mainly occupied with a busy work period and managing my mental health. Our 20 week scan is next week. I’m getting more anxious than usual, as the scan date creeps up, that it’s starting to affect my work. Manager has been supportive and helping to reduce my workload to ease the stress.

Baby was looking good at our 16w reassurance scan (and very active) and our fetal medicine specialist was happy. I’m still not convinced we’re out of the woods until we have the anatomy scan (or the very least baby is here in my arms). I’ve been referred to perinatal mental health as my anxiety has started to spiral. It took a turn when I stumbled upon an article on labour delivery. I’ve now convinced myself I’m going to go through this situation.

Midwife thinks I’ll either feel more reassured after the 20 week scan or need more mental health support as pregnancy progresses. I’m a bit of a nightmare right now. Hoping Christmas will be a nice distraction and that it’s the rest I need.

Thank you all, little man was born Monday very fast active labour we had a scare when he was born as he wasn't breathing properly, emergency button pressed and loads of drs run in but he's fine now he's beautiful and we're home 💙 thank you all for your support feels like yesterday I was posting I was 5 weeks pregnant xx

@Mamaxo sounds like a dramatic entrance but so glad that he is here safely and sound and you can now enjoy getting to know him 🥰 Massive congratulations!! I know this has been a tough journey for you. Hope you can settle into enjoying him now 💗💗💗 Well done my love! Welcome to little man! 💙

Congratulations @Mamaxo ! Sounds like a scary experience but glad you are both doing well and home safe xx

@ApplesNest sounds like you've got a lovely manager - hopefully the scan will bring reassurance. It's good to have the distraction of Christmas in there, and also sounds like your midwife is kind and down to earth which must help x

Congratulations @Mamaxo it's scary when you get the rush of people. My daughter shoulder was stuck and the button had been push moments before my daughter was born. She arrived as they all ran in the room. It was strange sight without needing them it must have been a shock to need them. I'm glad you are home and doing well.

This little bean doesn't seem to be working out. I had my repeat scan this morning and whilst it's grown it's not consistent with a 2 week gap so I'm now even further behind and there wasn't a heartbeat. It looks like another missed miscarriage but have another week to wait for a rescan to confirm.

@ApplesNest I hope the perinatal team is able to give you some support. I was under them in my first pregnancy and found them helpful. I hope you find things that give you regular boosts of reassurance. Best of luck x

@Superscientist I'm so sorry 😔 I hope you get a little miracle, but we're here for you if it doesn't end well x

@Superscientist so sorry to read this update my love. Hope you're as ok as can be. It's so hard to go through. Holding everything crossed - if this little bean isn't your little miracle then hopefully they are getting ready in the wings for 2025 💗 Sending big hugs xx

@Moosey898 how are you getting on? Has the spotting stopped? X

@SnookyPook I'm ok thanks - taking part in a fitness competition today 😂 it's a pretty good distraction lol still managed to come 12th out of 23 so am pretty pleased with that (fair bit off my personal best though!). Spotting is much less, got a scan booked for next Friday when I will be 7 weeks. I don't know whether I feel like it will be good or bad news....

@Superscientist I’m so sorry to hear that, missed miscarriages are so cruel. I’m really wishing you a miracle ❤️

@Moosey898 have they given you progesterone due to the spotting and previous losses?

I had some spotting at 5+2 so I went to emergency gynaecology at the hospital and they scanned me to confirm the pregnancy was in the right place and prescribed me progesterone to take until 16 weeks.

I’ve got another scan on Tuesday at 6+4 to make sure everything is okay. I’m so scared for it having had a missed miscarriage in the past.

I've not been on in a while. I'm getting so close to the end. I've had 2 more hospital admissions due to blood pressure and they now think it's pre-eclampsia. Due to this, and a suspected big baby (95th centile), I will get an elective c-section date on Monday for sometime between 11th and 18th December!

So excited to meet my little one, but still absolutely terrified something is going to go wrong 😭

@Peachmelbaa they will do after the scan if things are looking good. I don't think that'll make a difference to me to be honest though as my issues have been chromosomes based rather than low progesterone. But no harm in it right?

How is everyone doing?

I've got my scan on Friday, should be 7 weeks. Dreading bad news again. I know there's nothing I can do either way but just really don't want bad news again!

@Orlahoping hope you are keeping well, and that you have a date now and will get to meet your baby soon!

I can completely relate to the feeling of dread that something will go wrong. I think it is almost an inevitable feeling when you've had previous losses (I am just about 35 weeks now and increasingly nervous). As someone said earlier in this thread though, the fact that you are having these feelings has no bearing on the likelihood of something bad happening (I'm sure she expressed this in a better way!), and it sounds like you don't have long to wait now. Sending lots of well wishes your way.

Aw good luck lovely! This time last year I was full of nerves and dreading that my first scan was about to make it a very sad Christmas as I just couldn't picture a different outcome. This year it's our little Rainbow Bubba's 1st Christmas 🙏🏼💗 Hopefully next year you will be able to offer a similar story of reassurance to someone! Keeping everything crossed for you 💗

Thanks @SnookyPook - we're having my dad and his wife, my sister, and my brother and his family around on Saturday so I'm mentally preparing myself to handle that if it's bad news, especially as my sister in law is 6 months pregnant with their second (having conceived their first just a few months after my first loss). They are sensitive about it but you can't get around it unfortunately. I am just at the stage I can't imagine coming out of a scan with good news, it's been so many bad one concurrently over 5 years.

Please can I join? 14 weeks today and just feeling so anxious even though I’ve had a positive NIPT and scans have all been good