@SunSparkle thanks for the new thread!
Just for a different perspective for the first timers, I had a vaginal birth with DS and, although it got tiring in the push phase as he was in a bit of a weird position, I would aim for that again. It is daunting but it's so important to realise that our bodies are literally designed for this. I did an online hypnobirthing course before hand, which sounds like wishy-washy crystals hoo-haa but is actually based in lots of science and about knowing your own body. There were lessons about the physiology of birth etc and I found it really helpful. I actually ended up with no drugs/gas & air or anything - would have absolutely had them if I needed - wasn't a pride thing, but I found that the mindset and breathing I'd learned did the job. I know this isn't the case for everyone and I do feel lucky in that regard. I did end up with an episiotomy at the last moment to get him through (he had a hand up by his head!) - which if you'd told me beforehand would have absolutely terrified me, but in the moment, it was honestly fine. You will be amazed what you can do when you're in that mindset and just focused on getting baby out.
My sister has had 2 c-sections. One was a semi-emergency due to pre-eclampsia, and the 2nd was planned. In some ways I was envious of her experience. The control etc and not having to confront the anxieties that come with not knowing what labour will be like. But also, it's easy to forget that it's quite major surgery and comes with it's own risks and potential for scar and recovery issues etc.
Ultimately, there is no right or wrong way to give birth. It is about getting the baby out safely in a way that works for you and your family. And sometimes the best laid birth plans go sideways anyway. So, I think just focus on a) trusting your own instincts about what is right for you b) getting baby out safely. We are all a long way off that still though so plenty of time to think and prepare! What I hadn't anticipated with my DD was how much the journey of pregnancy would prepare me for that end point too. By the time you have a big bump and feel baby etc, you are far more mentally prepared for all those bits, and you start actively wanting it - especially if, like me, you go overdue by more than a week!