'Pregnancy after Miscarriage - Latest support thread'

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Hi all new thread as the other one is about to max out.

For all those going through pregnancy after miscarriage/s. Come share your worries and celebrate your milestones with people who can relate to what you are going through 🥰

@lovefromplum you need to stop testing, after a while the line darkness doesn't tell you anything at all... it's a really good sign if baby is all good at 8 weeks but it's just a horribly stressful time until later on! It's the worst... totally get how you feel about not coping with another loss though, I wish there was something we could say to help, but 9th isn't too far away. Is it a private scan on the 9th? X

@Kirstylvsya let us know how you get on today 🤞🤞 xx

@Kirstylvsya Good luck for today :)

All was perfect. The relief is something else. So so blessed. Baby girl 💖

@Kirstylvsya Congratulations :D So glad she's perfect!

Congratulations @Kirstylvsya 💞

@Kirstylvsya wonderful news! So glad it went well ❤️‍🩹

@llovefromplum I know exactly how you feel, it's so hard and the days just drag. You hold a magnifying glass up to every symptom and analyse everything. That's good that you have a scan on Monday though, I hope it reassures you. Keep us updated.

@Kirstylvsya congratulations on your perfect baby girl ❤️ such a relief for you! 🥳

@Kirstylvsya so glad your scan went well! And congratulations on your baby girl ❤️

@lovefromplum stop testing now, none of my tests were overly strong and I did about 8/9 over the course of 2 weeks! It's hard I know but it will just cause you to drive yourself absolutely crazy! I'm now 24 weeks xx

@lovefromplum pregnancy tests won't be a reliable way to see how the pregnancy is going. A positive scan at 8 week is a great milestone. Totally get how you are feeling though You might find this reassuring datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

@Kirstylvsya fantastic news congrats on your baby girl 💖

@Kirstylvsya fab news! I'm not the only one expecting a girl now 😅

@HashB I think you posted on the other thread which is now full - do you want to post again here?

@WitcheryDivine oh thanks, I don’t know how I managed that.

I don’t really know why I’m posting other than to spread gloom. I had a mmc at in the summer and I’m 7 weeks pregnant now. I had a scan this week, they measured me back 5 days but saw a heartbeat and they’ve given me progesterone to try and ease my mind. I just feel so down, I Feel like after the summer even a heartbeat on a scan doesn’t comfort me, it just means I’m Still pregnant today.

I feel like time is on an absolute go slow, I’ve got no symptoms at all and I’m just waiting for someone to tell me that this one is lost too because I don’t trust my own body to do it.

I don’t know why I’m so negative 🤷🏼‍♀️ my other half is losing patience, but it’s how I feel.

I'm really sorry you're feeling anxious. I'm probably not the best person to help, unless saying I know exactly how you feel would be a help!

The two things people said that helped me most:

• tell yourself "I'm still pregnant until I'm not" as a way of trying to "enjoy" the current state rather than always thinking of the future
• remind yourself that your body doesn't know about the previous pregnancy, what happened then doesn't have any impact on what will happen this time

When you get to the stage of seeing a midwife, do tell her how anxious you're feeling. There's help out there (I'm getting some of it). xxx

@HashB I totally get it, I lost one years ago at 16 weeks, after a "normal" 12 week scan. No amount of scans reassured me
This time, I was taking it one week at a time. "Pregnant until proven otherwise" I've now reached 19 weeks and had my big scan today, it's reassured me the most out of any! You will get there. Your not alone with your feelings x

congrats on your scan @Kirstylvsya !!

@HashB try not to think too much into having no symptoms, I pretty much had none in my first pregnancy and my daughter is 7 now. It is hard though, as after my miscarriage last year I honestly thought well that's it now it's never going to happen again. Just take each day as it comes, and hopefully you'll have your bundle of joy in your arms before you know it xx

@HashB as @WitcheryDivine says we all know the feeling but there's really not much help this early on, the fact you've had an early scan and on progesterone is great and it's more likely all will be fine... I tried to keep telling myself the uterus has no memory and that every pregnancy is a new pregnancy but honestly I'm still stressed on the odd few days, and I'm 26 weeks 🙈 there's still things to worry about but it does get 'easier' I think esp after you start to feel them move!

100% understand feeling like your body can't do this but I'm sure it can, hugs xx

I got my 12 week scan date today! It's 2nd of Nov. My dad's birthday and the day before our wedding anniversary.

Still no sign of my booking in appointment though 🤷🏻‍♀️

@WitcheryDivine @suz2285 @Brokenpancreas94 @Kirstylvsya thank you, you’re all really kind. I’ll be chanting to myself ‘my uterus has no memory’ over and over.

I’ve got a booking appointment on Monday and I’ve really been feeling like, what’s the point, it doesn’t do anything. But maybe it’s worth going just to tell her how I feel.

@Kirstylvsya congratulations on your big scan! That’s lovely news and I hope it gives you some long lasting comfort xxx

@HashB please go, it'll be okay! And everything will be put into place, like your scan etc, and then your midwife can refer you for any support for your anxieties etc. With my MC I feel like the lack of support didn't help with the "failing" of my pregnancy because I'm diabetic, they're supposed to be pretty on the ball with you, as in seeing you straight away, but with the mc pregnancy it was all a mess, I couldn't get hold of the diabetes team, midwife tried rushing an appointment through but I didn't get one until the day of my 12 week scan, and the appointment didn't go ahead because there was no baby. I know it probably wasn't because of the lack of care but I do personally hold it as part of the reason.
Take all the support and help that you are offered, and we are all here. We may not have the answers but we will all try 🙂❤️

@TheBirdintheCave have you called your gp or the community team (don't know how it works in your area) to chase it up? Xx

It is worth it, and don’t be fobbed off by them saying that anxiety is the norm. If you feel like it’s really making you miserable and affecting your life daily then say so and ask what help is available xx

Oh @HashB sending you a big cuddle. As others have said we all know exactly what you're talking about and the anxiety is no joke. I've been telling myself the exact same in my lowest points 'my body doesn't remember my miscarriage' and it doesn't. There's nothing to say that it can't have a healthy pregnancy this time. I had my 12 week scan on Tuesday and just had to repeat that to myself 30mins ago in the loo!

I didn't feel like reaching out for support with anxiety because I thought there's nothing they'll be able to tell me that I haven't already told myself. But you never know until you try and it's worth a shot if it might help you. All the best my lovely 💞