'Pregnancy after Miscarriage - Latest support thread'

[tulipsunday]

Hi all new thread as the other one is about to max out.

For all those going through pregnancy after miscarriage/s. Come share your worries and celebrate your milestones with people who can relate to what you are going through 🥰

Ha so true! They are funny like that

How did you get on today @My2boysaremyworld

Morning all, thanks for the new thread @tulipsunday ! I've got my 12 week scan this morning and I am terrified. I don't know why. I could barely sleep last night... I think it because we're going back to the same place we went in March. I just keep thinking about what happened last time, what the sonographer said, what the screen looked like, what we did afterwards... I can't switch my mind off!

I know all this stress and anxiety can't be good either but nothing is helping.

@sweetpotato29 Best of luck! I completely understand that feeling. I was dreading being in the same EPU room but mercifully they had changed the layout since last December and it was a room I'd never seen before.

@sweetpotato29 good luck today, don't worry about the stress not being good, we conceived during the most stressful time I've had recently, and spent a lot of this pregnancy stressed or anxious about one thing or other! I hope all goes ok...

I've been quite chill with things after my 20 weeks scan, but then being referred for a growth scan this week was terrifying again, it's a horrible feeling! Hopefully all will go ok and you can relax soon 😃

Good luck today @sweetpotato29 it is an anxious time, but fingers crossed all will be okay for you!
I have my 3rd and hopefully final attempt at the fetal echo today, feeling nervous but also excited to see him! Hoping I can get a picture for our daughter! Xx

Thank you all for the well wishes! We missed a turning on the drive there & ended up going the exact route we went last time along all these country roads. Then I asked my husband to pull over on the side of the road as I needed to throw up - it was all quite dramatic! 😂

But it was all ok... thank god! Baby was there, measuring great, wriggling around, little heartbeat, all four limbs. It had its little legs crossed at one point ❤️ They managed to measure the NT too and that looks all good at 1.5. I am so so so relieved, what a different experience to last time.

@TheBirdintheCave that's lucky they changed it around! I just kept staring at the door we went in last time in the waiting room - it's awful feeling isn't it.

@suz2285 good luck with your growth scan this week, hope it all goes well for you! I thought the worry would ease after scans, but I have a suspicion the worry may never go away!

@Brokenpancreas94 good luck for today, hope you get to get your picture. At least you'll get to see them again ❤️ it's very sweet to see them on screen.

@sweetpotato29 great news, though not about the drive! 😂you must be so relieved! I had my growth scan yesterday and all fine, worry for nothing as usual! but you're right the worry never goes away, I still worry for every little twinge and feeling! So glad everything looks good with your little one 😍

@sweetpotato29 wonderful news. Will you be announcing it to friends and family today then?

I'm 10+1 now and have no idea how I'll get to 12 weeks without having a nervous breakdown.

With my son I didn't buy anything until 20 weeks as I was so paranoid about something going wrong. It was when Mothercare was closing so I missed all the bargains because I didn't want to jinx it.

If I can get to 12 weeks I just want to allow myself to get excited this time as it'll be my last child and I feel like when you're in this situation it robs you of all the normal joy and excitement because you're constantly trying not to get your hopes up too much 🥺

Amazing news @sweetpotato29 💖

@SparkleFly hope the next two weeks go quickly for you. This will be our final baby too so totally get that feeling of holding back from getting too excited but also wanting to celebrate and enjoy it.

Does your son know yet or have you decided when to tell him? I found that a tricky thing to decide due to worry

@suz2285 thank you 😍 it was such a relief. I guess this is the start of parenthood then... I am a worry wort by nature anyway 😅

@SparkleFly my parents and my sister already know as I knew if anything went wrong I would need their support. My husbands family is having a get together this Saturday so we felt like that was a good time to tell them then as we'll all be together in person. It also leaves a few days to wait for a call from the midwife on the blood results - apparently no news is good news so if I don't get a call by Friday it should hopefully all be good! We're optimistic anyway though as the measurements looked good. Means we get a few days this week to enjoy this happy bubble, because I haven't really felt like I've had many of those...

I know exactly what you mean, it's like you hold yourself back from allowing yourself to feel happy just in case. It's really sad when you think about it, but unfortunately seems pretty common for women like us who have suffered a loss/losses. I think the only thing you can do is try to keep yourself and your mind busy with other things, as hard as that is. Someone else mentioned something to me on here which I found so helpful I've been repeating to myself when I get anxious - 'your body doesn't remember the previous miscarriage, so there's no reason to think anything will be wrong this time.' As long as you feel ok & have no signs anything is amiss for now, just try not to worry too much. Sending you lots of good thoughts for the next two weeks ❤️

@sweetpotato29 oh same, i worry about everything! SO many anxious times during this pregnancy, i'm not sure if it would have been different without previous MC but we'll never know I guess! Hopefully no call for you, it's a rubbish wait for the phone to ring that's for sure! I do not miss early pregnancy!

@SparkleFly totally understand that, I didn't start buying things till after my 20 week scan! And i didn't tell most people until I was 22-23 weeks... even that felt weird! I'm still nervous about buying things even though I've basically bought everything now! 😂We told our parents after the 12 week scan, (my mum knew at 9 weeks because she didn't previously know about the MC but i wanted support this time just incase!) but I still was waiting for the Quad test at 15 ish weeks so that was nerve wracking as I still didn't have full confirmation everything was "ok" until after that. That was a terrible wait from 12 weeks to 16 ish!

Well scan went well today, well they still couldn't get clear pictures but they were happy with what they saw, so have discharged me! Although she did make me paranoid by saying "a normal picture could be abnormal and abnormal could be normal" 🙄 but hopefully all okay!
Also had my whooping cough, so I'm all jabbed out now 😂xx

Thanks for all the support ladies, it helps to be able to talk about it with people who know how I'm feeling.

I got a call from the hospital today inviting me for my 12 week scan. They said next Thursday which I thought was a week early but they seem to think I'll be 12+3 then?! Although I'm IVF they still focus on my 'last period date' which is stupid because with IVF you're kinda kept in limbo while they prepare you for the transfer, which is not always an exact amount of time! But tbh I'm grateful for an earlier scan than I expected! Will be interesting to see how they date it from measurements (all being well).

I haven't felt sick today hence my mind is on overdrive!

So encouraging to hear all of your happy updates though ❤️❤️❤️

@SparkleFly thats good that you've got a date! you should hopefully be fine as the NT scan can be done between 11-14 weeks I think so if you're too early they'll invite you back 😀

Funny with IVF the way they do things, but I guess there's implantation time etc but yeah shouldn't be dated from last period. I was having really short cycles when I conceived so I've been dated a week ahead from my last period. I read a thing the other day about how to work out a more accurate due date if you knew the exact conception day and that gives me a few more days after my due date if I go from that. So goodness knows! Just a guide isn't it.... that's good though not long to wait!

My sickness died down a LOT after 11ish weeks and I had good/bad days of nausea a lot between weeks 10-11 and I did panic too, but I think that's normal as the placenta starts to function a little. Crazy to wish for feeling rubbish but know exactly how you feel 😂

Maybe it's just everything calming down then at this stage, my boobs are hurting a lot less too.

I just strained for a poo (sorry tmi 🙈) and there was a tiny amount of blood when I wiped. They did say with the haematoma that it would come out on its own or be absorbed and to avoid heavy lifting, so I'm hoping it's just that.

We have a night in London this weekend for my 40th a few months ago. Husband spent an absolute fortune on a 5 star hotel in the centre and a show, and it's our first night away on our own since 2019 so just want to enjoy it!

@SparkleFly That sounds lovely! I hope you enjoy it :D

Glad your scan went well @Brokenpancreas94 💞 I'm sure all ok, they do say very odd things sometimes to confuse you!

Ahh glad it's been brought forward for you @SparkleFly what a stroke of luck really as now you have less time to wait! I've had pretty bad constipation the last few weeks too and heard that you should try not to strain to go as it increases the chance of piles! Just need to keep up with drinking water, eating lots of fiber and hope it should come out naturally. I've read up far too much about this the last couple of weeks 😅

Yey glad scan went well @Brokenpancreas94

Good less time to wait for scan @SparkleFly my nausea also tailed off at that point. I also had specks of blood recently so was wondering about piles but seems to have stopped. Good advice from @sweetpotato29

@SparkleFly my nausea stopped around 12 weeks too! Glad your scan is soon!

@sweetpotato29 oh they love to confuse us 😂🫣

Thank you @tulipsunday ❤️

Been weeing so much today think baby must be on my bladder today 😂

Had restless legs last night too, which was annoying!

19 weeks tomorrow and have my Anomaly scan in the morning. I am a nervous wreck tonight, so glad it's first thing but I feel like vomiting with worries

@Kirstylvsya good luck for the morning and let us know how it goes ❤️

@Kirstylvsya good luck for today. Are you finding out the sex or do you already know?

Hi all. I know none of us want to belong to a club like the miscarriage club but I'm glad I found you all, I'm really struggling!
We have a history of recurrent miscarriages. We agreed to take a break ... life had other plans. We got a positive test on 03/09/23 and wow did I know I was pregnant! Dye stealer line, intense symptoms! But then week 8 hit and ... radio silence. Tested again and the line was faded slightly (same brand and morning wee). I thought I'd lost it. But scan showed baby still in there for now. I was so shocked!!!
But my symptoms are still decreasing and the line is still faint, not getting darker. Next scan isn't until 09/10/23 but I'm scared. Guys I'm so scared, I can't go through another loss!
Anyone experienced anything similar? x

@lovefromplum At eight weeks it could well be the hook effect coming into play so you won't get a dark line on a test anymore as you have too much HCG for the test to deal with it.

I get the fear though. I've had three in a row (all different sorts of MC like I'm playing some sort of shitty bingo) and am terrified of losing this one too.

Only four days left until your scan! Hang on in there. x

@SparkleFly I will find out today hopefully 🙏🏻 really don't care as long as it's healthy. X