Due April/May after loss - thread 2 🌈🌈

[IWillBeWaxingAnOwl]

Oh no! Our original thread has filled up to the brim.

Join us here if you are expecting a little one in April or May 2023 after a previous miscarriage or pregnancy loss 🌈.

Xox

@Janefx40 congratulations. Hope your recovery goes well. He’s beautiful.

@MO22 Im 6.5 weeks post csection now and I’m mostly recovered or at least I feel that way- I still get some niggles, and on odd occasions a bit of pain otherwise I’m good. I finally finished the injections after 6 weeks and I can drive again. Now it’s mostly the lack of sleep that comes with a newborn/baby that I’m still adjusting to. He’s also quite a windy baby, has been since day 1 in scbu so I shouldn’t be surprised really.

How is everyone doing with their little ones? Also good luck for anyone waiting for their little one to arrive.

@Janefx40 congratulations, thrilled for you. ❤️ Welcome baby boy!

How is everyone managing with the lack of sleep with a newborn? Any tips or advice? I’ve always slept a lot, especially during pregnancy. So I’m struggling a bit. The whole sleep when baby does isn’t going too well. I manage a small 4hr block of sleep in the evening while dh takes over, then one 1hr nap around 4am. I might need to switch back to caffiene tea or something else to wake up.

@Blue2020 I don't see how sleep when the baby sleeps is good advice - I'm pumping, she's bottle fed, by the time you feed her, pump, and change her, she's only asleep another half hour!

@Janefx40 congratulations!! 💙

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl Yes this is my life at the moment too, exclusively pumping and feel like I get hardly any time between washing and sterilising pump, feeding and changing baby. Husband is home at the mo but goes back to work Monday

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl I'm in exactly the same situation! It's impossible - best case scenario is an hour's sleep when he generally sleeps for 1.5hrs and I've got to pump, store the milk and clean the pump, make sure there are sterile bottles, and do anything else (lol eat, bathroom) in that window.

And my partner is driving me up the wall by acting super sleep deprived even though he's managing at least six hours' uninterrupted sleep every night and other short stints and I've managed four hours uninterrupted twice since bubba was born three weeks ago. 🫠 I'm at the point now where I wish he'd go back to work and leave me to it because him acting like we're 50/50 on this when we're very much not 50/50 is really starting to get on my nerves.

So in summary @Blue2020 I am not managing well. I am so tired I can't brain at all, I'm incredibly irritable all the time, and I'm at the point of doing a violence if my partner mentions one more time "how tired he is" 😤

This is my last full day of being pregnant as of 5pm tomorrow I'll be in the hospital and won't be leaving without my boy 💙 this pregnancy has had it's hard moments but I'm so thankful for it after the my loss. Happily though I can say I'm having no more lol

@ArrrMeHearties so exciting. Keep me posted.

@Melusina123 @MRSDoos @IWillBeWaxingAnOwl I don't think I slept once when the baby was sleeping with my first. Not once. As you say, by the time you've taken a shower and eaten something and done a couple of things, the time is up. But it does get easier in time.

Xxx

@MRSDoos if it helps, I think that whilst the bottles etc need sterilised every time, the pump only needs sterilised once a day?

@Melusina123 I'm feeling a bit resentful of my partner too. We did a few days of shifts but we seem to have settled into him getting a straight six hour sleep from midnight (when we go to bed) until 6am and I am up every 1.5h feeding and then soothing to get him into the beside me crib. I get that I'm exclusively BF so he can't feed but he keeps saying he's tired when I can't sleep beyond an hour and a half block at a time! He does take him 6-7.30am but I'm feeling pretty grumpy about it.

I've got a pump coming as I think I have to share the feeds somehow otherwise I'll lose my mind. How are you guys doing it, do you get your partner's to do some of the bottle feeds? Any particular ones?

@ArrrMeHearties good luck for everything! Let us know how you go x

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl i think I missed it but congratulations on your little girl. Yes it’s really not helpful when they say that.

I sterilised the pump set each time but I don’t know if it was needed. I was just being super cautious with my baby being early and scbu and the postnatal ward telling me what to do.

@MO22 I'm currently (largely) exclusively pumping with some formula top ups so he's getting mainly bottles. My partner and I have very different body clocks so he takes point on the baby from 8pm or so until 3am and I take him from 3am until 11am or so. This works ok for both of us because he's a night owl and I'm an early bird.

Having to pump kind of sucks so this is my compensation. I still get up to pump during my partner's shift because breast milk production is better at night though, and I don't usually manage to get to bed/sleep until more like 9 or 10, which is why I'm so much more tired than he is. Also the baby has a witching hour around 1am which tends to keep us both up even though in theory it's in his shift. I think adding a pumping session to breastfeeding is quite tricky, might be worth looking up some advice on timing/logistics?