Due April/May after loss - thread 2 🌈🌈

[IWillBeWaxingAnOwl]

Oh no! Our original thread has filled up to the brim.

Join us here if you are expecting a little one in April or May 2023 after a previous miscarriage or pregnancy loss 🌈.

Xox

Calling in:

@Melusina123
@MRSDoos
@MO22
@ArrrMeHearties
@Sera123
@Blue2020
@Anoushka1986
@ratherbthedevil
@Janefx40
@Myotherusernameisaferrari
@northerngal20

Sorry anyone I've missed - these are the posters who have been on the previous thread in the last 5 pages 😊. How are we all?

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl Thank you for making another thread!

I’m doing OK thank you. Just had my 24 week midwife appointment and all well with baby xx

Hope you are doing well

Hi @MRSDoos ! Weird how healthboards vary - we have a 22wk then 28wk is next one.

I'm not great today - baby has been so so quiet since yesterday. Can still feel some tiny movement but they didn't have their usual party last night. Wondering whether to call later but aware they might just say its too early to track (22wks)

I'm currently sat in maternity triage waiting to be checked after falling down the stairs early hours of this morning then went for a pee about 10am and I think I've lost some of my show. I'm only 21+3 it can't go wrong now after the relief of being told there was no anomalies it just can't :(

Oh god @ArrrMeHearties - did you hurt yourself in the fall? Hope wee one is all okay. I know mucus plug can regenerate a bit too so hopefully it turns out fine. What a worry though - have you waited long?

Midwife has listened into the heartbeat and I got a urine test. Have ketones so they will need to sort that. Waiting for a scan just now so hopefully all is well. My baby toe took the brunt of the fall and is a nice silver colour lol. My hips hurt a bit but they are bearable

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl I woke up about 1am and couldn’t shake the feeling something was wrong. Baby usually very active at night. I think I stayed awake till around 3/4am before he started kicking me. I felt the same as you, being 24 weeks I thought maybe to leave it for a bit as I’m still early-ish on

I hate when they have quiet days 😞 the kicks help my anxiety a lot but when he fancies being lazy it sends me into panic!

@ArrrMeHearties Oh no, really thinking of you. Hoping your scan goes well and baby is all safe and sound xxx

hello! thanks @IWillBeWaxingAnOwl for the new thread! sorry I've been quiet recently, Xmas was so busy then was anxiously waiting for my 20w scan. hope you're all doing okay!

sorry for those of you having quiet days/periods, i'm sure everything is fine but they really won't mind you calling in if you're worried, even if it is slightly early for regular kicks/movement at this stage. Always better to be on the cautious side with this!

@ArrrMeHearties hope you and baby are all okay!

update from my end - had a bit of a scare at our 20 week scan with baby's head being on the small side, and got referred to see a specialist at the fetal medicine unit for further checks.. the consultant reassured us everything is most likely okay after a more detailed scan but we're still really worried! we have to go back at 32 weeks for a scan, but I think we might book a private growth scan in a few weeks as that feels like a really long time to not know if things are okay in there.. it's a tough time tbh! really hoping baby has a growth spurt over the next few months!

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl thanks for creating another thread.

@ArrrMeHearties I hope you are ok and everything goes well, and the little one is all fine.

Also was it @MO22 that just had their scan? Great news anyway. There seams to be a lot of baby boys in this group. I found out at the 20week scan something similar to you- that the placenta is anterior and slightly over my cervix too. I have another scan at 32 weeks.

My next midwife appt is on Wednesday, I’m now 24weeks. The little one tends to be active around 7-9pm, slightly near midnight, and maybe slightly in the morning. Otherwise I don’t feel anything. I wouldn’t say it’s a fixed pattern yet, it does vary.

Is it 28weeks when there should be a pattern?

Also at my 16 week appt the midwife suggested I stop taking the iron tablets at 24weeks (I will run out in the next few days and won’t be prescribed more). Then to check my levels at the 28week appointment. Is anyone else on iron tablets and doing this? I don’t want it to have any negative affect by my iron levels dropping at this point.

Hi everyone. Thanks for the new thread @IWillBeWaxingAnOwl

Sorry to hear about the stresses. @ArrrMeHearties let us know how you get on. Hopefully the toe is the worst that happens.

Movement can be so variable. I would personally always go in just the the reassurance. I was hoping things would be less stressful once the movements started but it only reassured me if he is super active and even then only for about an hour afterwards! They saw me at 18/19 weeks so will hopefully see you too @MRSDoos and @IWillBeWaxingAnOwl

@northerngal20 sorry about the stress. I see it's unlikely based on your user name (!) but if you are in London/Surrey, I know an excellent guy you can see. It's positive that they weren't too worried tho. Plus the measurements do vary. My baby had 92nd centile at my NHS scans and around 60th at my private scan. So it's a bit of a range I think.

I'm ok. Just endlessly under the weather. Desperate to get to 24 weeks so the baby is viable but then I know that I won't feel any safer then!

Xxx

Thanks for the new thread @IWillBeWaxingAnOwl ! Not much to report here, just muddling through each day. 🤷‍♀️

Got scanned and baby is thankfully all good. Me on the other hand might be a bit stiff for a few days but baby is okay that's all that matters

Hi all! Glad you're OK @ArrrMeHearties .

Currently getting kicked to pieces and feeling very weirded out by watching my stomach move when they kick. This pregnancy lark is very odd!

Thanks for making the new thread.

@ArrrMeHearties glad you and baby are ok, sounds scary!

I'm going well. Been feeling lots of movement. Been feeling a bit irritable over the last few days and not sure if it's because of hormones or if my visiting family have just been a bit annoying!

@ArrrMeHearties great news that baby is all good! Not so great that you’re not going to be aching for the next few days!

Did anyone else have anxiety about turning 24 weeks? Or getting close to 24 weeks. I feel like I should feel a ton better now I’ve hit viability but instead I’m full of anxiety!!

Hi, thanks for the new thread.

I've been panicking about movements. During the day at work I feel low down bubbles then occasionally I might feel a kick or 2 of an evening but some days I feel no kicks. I'm end of May so only just 21 weeks, hopefully in the new few weeks they start to get more stronger and regular. Tbh I don't think I'm happy unless the baby moves 24/7.

Anyone who's worried (sorry I forget user names) then I would go to triage. My midwife always said they would rather see you when worried than not.

I bought my first outfit for the baby the other day. It's the first time I could buy something specifically for a girl. I have some unused baby grows from my previous pregnancies but they are gender neutral but I'm not sure if I should use them for this baby because they were meant for our previous babies. They are really nice though still with the tags on.

@MRSDoos I can't wait to reach 24 weeks. All my losses previously have been before 24 weeks. The last one was 22 weeks and she looked like a proper baby, a real human but was never recognised as such. So getting to 24 weeks means, to me, whatever happens they are a legal person. I think I'm still in a negative mindset about if we are actually going to bring a baby home this time or not.

@ratherbthedevil It breaks my heart that babies at 22/23 weeks are not classed as such in the UK. I know in some other countries it is after 20 weeks. I know there has to be a cut off but it really upset me knowing that the baby kicking in me and moving around would still be classed a miscarriage.

I think I’m just nervous about every part I feel like I’m missing out on the enjoyment of pregnancy!

@MRSDoos i know what you mean about missing out on the joys of pregnancy. I get frustrated with myself that I'm still saying "if" we have a baby in May. But I accepted before I got pregnant that it won't be a pregnancy full of excitement but rather something I have to "get through" and as long as I get a healthy baby I'm fine with that (mostly). Kinda like a marathon, the run itself might be long and painful at times but the achievement at the end is worth it.

I follow a lot of TTC accounts on tiktok (it's my guilty pleasure🫣) and it blows my mind that some of them get pregnant and start planning the nursery and buying things so early on. Like I wish I could have the confidence that pregnancy=living baby.

@ratherbthedevil Yes I feel the same way. I will be honest and say that I have moments of excitement, moments of “when he’s here!” But about 20% of the time I still have thoughts of “well anything could happen” or “what if we buy everything and have no baby to use it”

I also find it hard sometimes with friends, 4 of us are pregnant in my friendship group and I’m the only one who has experienced losses so sometimes they can’t understand why I’m so cautious or if I’m panicking about a scan they’ll text me “hope scan goes well bet you’re so excited!!” When in reality I’m on edge with nerves assuming the worse and don’t feel relief until they tell me baby is fine at the scan

@MRSDoos I'm 24wks on the 3rd of February and last pregnancy 24wks was the day of my tmfr which was bittersweet as he would of been viable on that day. I have my gender reveal that day so it will be a bittersweet day again but he will be watching which makes it better

@MRSDoos I'm lucky in the sense that my friends are either child free or completed their families but sometimes I get a bit sad that had we never experienced any loss (I've had 6 in total) then we would be finished too and not starting again. Sometimes I have moments of excitement and positivity because when all scans have come back normal just how unlucky would we have to be to have yet another loss, but I can't let myself get excited.

@ArrrMeHearties I understand how you feel. Next week I'm 22 weeks and we had the TFMR at 22 weeks exactly. It's weird knowing this baby will be "older" (if that's the right word) than our previous baby (assuming nothing happens in the next 5 days) and also what they look like in terms of development at that stage. Are you excited for the gender reveal? Any feelings as to what it might be?

I feel like I’ve jinxed things. I’ve noticed I haven’t felt baby move since this morning so I’ve phoned hospital and they’ve told me to come in but they won’t properly monitor me until I’m 26 + weeks.

I feel a bit upset. Why do they call 24 weeks viability if they won’t monitor him. I’ve noticed last few days he has had reduced movements but kept thinking maybe it was my anxiety. I’m too far along to go early pregnancy unit but yet too early to be properly seen by the actual maternity unit.

As long as they can reassure you baby is ok, what does "properly monitor" even mean?

I hope it goes well at the hospital and baby is just having a lazy day 💐