Due August 2023 (Thread 3)

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Follow on from thread 2 cause we talk, a LOT 😂

www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/4693024-due-august-2023-thread-2?page=40

Thanks @Cat1424 I think I’ll give M&S a try too. Admittedly I’ve been living in baggy PJs for the last few days with no bra at all.

Talking of which, those still breastfeeding, how are you doing? I’m finding it very painful currently and am only managing a few minutes at bedtime. Hoping things might improve a bit in the second trimester.

@AnnieApple123 I am not liking breastfeeding at the moment. It's uncomfortable, and the fiddling drives me nuts! My DS has gone boobie obsessed in last few days, he would nurse all day of I let him. He is also very clingy and I am starting to feel touched out. We are at my mother's, and he wouldn't go to anyone but me. Can't even take advantage of family childcare which we don't normally have. So annoying.

I've been getting lots of cramps too. I got them both times and part of me worried every time even though I know it's normal! I think it's hard not to worry, especially until you get that first scan!

@AnnieApple123 and @UsernameNotPresent, yeah finding feeding painful although only initially (I think due to very sensitive boobs) - after the first ten seconds or so it eases up. My DS was sick before Christmas and was super clingy - I felt super touched out, he wouldn't even spend any time with my Mum, who he usually adores. It's really tough, hope it passes soon for you. I'm hoping the breast tenderness passes soon as I don't think DS is really ready to stop feeding yet (and I'm not sure I am either).

@Alexandra07 I am so sorry for your loss, I hope you have all the support that you need.

@BusyBushBaby I’m sorry that things aren’t looking good for twin 2, I’ve not got any practical advice for your situation but you’ve got a lot of support on here if/when you need it. I’m really glad that in the uncertainty with twin 2 that there’s a positive with twin 1 looking well and growing as they should be.

welcome to anyone new and congratulations!

sorry I’ve not been on here since before Christmas, I hope everyone had a good one and for those that were telling family and friends - I hope it went fantastically.

i have been absolutely exhausted. I had two days (Christmas Day and Boxing Day) where the nausea wasn’t as present so I got to enjoy the lovely Christmas dinner my wife slaved over. I’ve been making up for those two days by feeling horrible and struggling to be around food let alone eating it. I’m also randomly falling asleep throughout the day, I’m 8+1 now and counting down the days for my next scan.

A friend has just created a group chat asking if we fancy a night in hers next week since we’re all off. I had one more event in my social calendar and I was already in control of hiding not drinking at it so as to not raise suspicions. She was at the night out I was driving at the other week so it would be really obvious if I was to be sober a second time. One of those moments where your heart just sinks.. nooo, I don’t need another night out 😩 just let me get to my 12 week scan in peace!! 😂

Welcome back @Rowanandremy

@BCxx How annoying for you! I must say though that I’m quite enjoying living vicariously through your nights out. I’m afraid I’m dreadfully boring these days, living out in the sticks.

@Recoba and @UsernameNotPresent The bedtime feed is coming up in a minute and I’m finding myself quite dreading it. At this point I feel like I’d be quite happy to just wean. I’d probably regret it later though and DS definitely wouldn’t be keen.

@AnnieApple123 glad it’s entertaining you at least 😂 I can go months without a night out, I just knew I’d have loads at Christmas but was hoping I’d have a quiet January and really had made it there now, but no! I’m just not going to reply just now and if something does get arranged I’ll be ill last minute 🙄

@BCxx Can you say you’re doing Dry January this year? Even my brother, who’s a huge drinker, has been known to do Dry January.

@BCxx seeing as it’s last minute say you have plans! You could even say you might be able to pop in for an hour depending on time but have got to leave to do insert made up reason 🤣

@BCxx surely 100% dry january… adding in that you most definately over indulged on the old vino in December!

@AnnieApple123 @LMM91x i might have to use that if I’m pushed to make something up. If it’s just in her house I could take my own ‘drink’ but the fear is she starts pouring glasses of Prosecco as I walk in and I don’t get to have my own ‘wine’ 🙈

@Amme18 there’s been no date set yet, I was waiting on a date so I could say I was busy but I’m certain my other friend is pregnant too (and has most likely gone ‘oh god no’ as well), she hasn’t replied yet either but is probably looking for a route out too 😂

@BusyBushBaby incredible news for your scan you must be thrilled with everything that you have been through. Even with everything going on with baby number 2 it’s still ok to be ecstatic… I would be.

early private scan tomorrow, I feel weird about it. Maybe with my first I was naive to think that’s it I’m pregnant all will be fine. This time I feel different, it’s like I need them to tell me it all looks good and everything is ok.

got our booking appointment through for first Sunday in Jan, think it’s the third. Found it strange it was on a Sunday. Made up its face to face though as my last baby was a covid baby so everything was over the telephone!

@Nic2908 mines a Sunday too! Was meant to be the 6th but they called today to say they were having to cancel the whole Friday clinic and move it to Sunday 8th. I’ll be 10+1 and there’s bloods that should be done before 10 weeks but she said a day or two won’t hurt 🤷🏻‍♀️

@AnnieApple123 thank you :) I’m glad to be back on here, I think I needed a rest from the internet 😂

Has anyone noticed big differences in their hair? Mine has gone super dry, almost straw like and feels really damaged - even though I’ve not died it in over 10 years and I’m having a break from swimming. It didn’t feel like this a week ago. With my first pregnancy I had greasy hair in the first trimester and then it was back to normal so this is very different 😂 I’m not big into hair care or anything so no idea if I should be doing something different or getting a hair mask?

Sorry I put dyed and my phone changed it 😂

@Nic2908 good luck for the scan! I feel the same this time round, like I may have used all my luck up with how well everything went last time. Then I try to tell myself about all the people I know with two kids who didn’t have any bad news inbetween or anything, so some people are just lucky twice or three times even, when some people seem to get all the bad luck. I feel like I’m not even properly pregnant until they’ve told me there’s a baby with a heartbeat in there. We’re going on Saturday for it at nearly 7 weeks

@Rowanandremy could it be the weather as well since it’s been pretty cold? I’ve found my hair feels greasy a bit sooner than normal, but also I got my hair cut a week ago and feel like I’m touching it more so can’t figure out if it’s rang or pregnancy 😂 I do love a good hair mask when my hair isn’t feeling great!

i managed to avoid all offers of alcohol all Christmas and then today we went to my BILs with the rest of the family and I was offered a glass of Prosecco. I declined and tried to have a tone of oh no thanks I’m not fussed, I’d prefer a Coke Zero. But MIL was there when this happened and I’m now convinced she knows 😳🙈 I didn’t look at her at all and tried to be so casual haha.

BIL and his girlfriend have been doing dry November and December, and apparently May continue into January according to my husband who was talking to them 🤔🤔🤔 SIL told me they’ve been having trouble getting pregnant and I’m so so hoping that it’s happened for them and they’ve not stopped as a way to help instead 😔 we thought they didn’t want kids until SIL said last week about it. I’m really glad we know now as I feel like we’ll need to be aware and more sensitive when sharing our news when the time comes (if they aren’t pregnant and haven’t shared)

@PumpkinEverything my hair doesn’t tend to change during winter and it’s never felt damaged like this so I was putting it
down to pregnancy but it could be weather related. I’ve never done a hair mask before but I think Im going to have 😂 my hair literally feels like it’s about to snap off!

@PumpkinEverything oh that’s a hard one when they might have been told not to drink or (fingers crossed) she’s already pregnant and it’s a cover up. I wouldn’t usually care or notice what anyone else is doing drinks-wise but feel hyper-alert to any time anyone says anything 😂 my friend, who could potentially be pregnant with her first, said she was drinking the other night and I was driving them all to dinner. When we got there though she announced she was really hungover and was just going to have soft drinks, kept saying about all the drinks she’d had the night before. I’d usually not think twice about it but was sat thinking ‘are you pregnant too?!’.. it’s such a mind game isn’t it 😂 rejecting a drink once isn’t suspicious but I think if MIL saw you reject one again she might put 2 and 2 together

@BCxx i feel like pregnancy makes you overthink everything 😂 I just know when we tell them she will be like I knew it! I’m not even a big drinker! And even less so since having my daughter. I could probably count the number of times I’ve drank since then on one hand in the last 14 months 😂 and obviously one of those times was right before I got my BFP as it was a surprise 😂😂 it was as if my subconscious was like quick, drink now while you don’t know before you can’t for another 9 months 😂

I’d love for my SIL to be pregnant soon and for us to have close in age cousins. Admittedly I’ve been watching her for signs. Normally I’d be totally oblivious.

We've had a similar situation here. My SIL has been trying for her second for a year, I don't think I'm meant to know and my MIL has told me 😭 so now I'm in a very delicate position. My husband and SIL have never been that close really but they do live 10 mins apart. She also didn't speak to me really for the first 3 years that she knew me and now seems to have grown up a bit. I had problems with her with my first too, because I'd just had my son in Sept 2020 and she was doing things like going to hen dos, not socially distancing (when the rule of 6 was in place) then coming to my house to see my newborn and not telling me where she's been until its too late.
Our relationship is better now, but I don't think we'd ever be friends if we didn't have to be. I don't wish infertility on them though, I want them to have another child! But yeah, I guess she may well be at the same stage of pregnancy as me by now, or still not pregnant, I don't know. But I don't know how to feel about it all. I feel bad to tell them I'm pregnant. It's all very odd. Wish MIL has respected their privacy and not told me!!!