Pregant after miscarriage - support thread

[Nervousbuthopeful]

Hi everyone,

I'm new to posting on mumsnet, but have spent plenty of time reading through others' conversations for reassurance when anxious, and this seems like such a friendly place!

I've just found out I'm pregnant again after the miscarriage of my first at 11 weeks in August. I would love to connect with other people in a similar situation.

I'm feeling relatively ok, i.e. not totally panicked all the time, about this one, but I know it's going to be hard. I really find it hard to believe sometimes that this could work out.

Please send a comment if you're in a similar situation and would like to share/receive some support!

Had one period, then fell pregnant so it was based on period

@loulouhind sounds like it could just be due to the MC and not tracking that you don't know exact dates, I know my first few cycles after MC my ovu was a bit out of the usual times for sure!

Did they say to come back in a few weeks? Usually they want to check growth etc? But seems like maybe just late ovu 🤞 glad baby was healthy and you could see the Heartbeat

7 weeks today and the nausea 😩😩 i really want some bacon! At jump 360 with my daughter (I'm not jumping) sat in the cafe thought oh il get a bacon sandwich...40 minute wait...I could cry 😂😩 hormones!!! Hope everyone else is doing okay.

@Brokenpancreas94 I've been enjoying bacon too 😂 but just the precooked strips cos it's just a pain to cook it!

Still having to eat every few hours or I start to feel really sick! But i feel better now than I did at 5 weeks! Maybe cos the cyclizine has kicked in? But if I can't eat immediately after I start to feel it then it comes on strong! It's still way worse in the afternoons from 4-6pm!

I don't fancy most foods either so it's a struggle forcing myself to eat! But managing to keep eating 😂

Aw I also wanted bacon took one mouth and nope it wasn’t going to work lol! I’m 10+1 and my sickness is not disappearing at the moment. We’re in Greece and the mix of the heat and sickness has been…interesting!

hope you enjoyed the bacon tho!

@suz2285 yes, I seem to be nauseous if I don't eat every couple of hours it seems 😩

I don't know why I crave bacon so much 😂I guess it won't cause havoc on my sugars as it's got no carbs so that's one positive 😂😂

@Peachy3118 I didn't end up having it, told them not to worry, cba waiting that long 😂

Same have to eat so regularly if don't want to feel sick. I am just wanting carbs really and can't handle fish or eggs atm think it is the smell. Finding it hard to know what to have for dinner - can't have pasta every night 😂

@loulouhind hopefully just less than you thought due to miscarriage and not knowing ovulation. Will you get a rescan at all?

@tulipsunday oh god yes the thought of what to have for dinner every night is even more of a struggle than usual! Also I keep bringing leftovers to work and then not wanting to eat them 😂 such a pain!

I'm def having to eat small things every few hours it's like grazing constantly! I never normally eat until lunch time but now I've eaten 3 things by then!

Hi everyone I've been a bit quiet on here the last couple of weeks. I'm officially 7 weeks today and the tiredness is really kicking in. Also feel like I don't want to eat anything. Around this time when I was pregnant with my son was when I went off chicken but this time I've just gone off food in general. I don't feel particularly sick or nauseous but when I look at food I just don't fancy it. I had tomatoes and scrambled eggs on toast for lunch, I always have this on a Friday and look forward to it but just didn't enjoy it. I also have a cream cake from the bakery every Friday afternoon but when I opened the box and looked at it all the cream put me off and didn't really enjoy it like normal. I love a cream cake so I know something is not quite right 😅. Going to book my scan later for next Saturday when I should be 8+1 so praying there's a little bean with a heartbeat 🤞. Off on holiday on Monday so at least I can hopefully relax and take my mind off it 😊

Hi all,

Congratulations on all your pregnancies ❤️

Just wondering if anyone else has constant aching legs/bum cheeks?? Mine is currently keeping me awake (I’m 4 weeks). Really anxious as I had a miscarriage (3rd one :( ) 2 months ago and my legs felt like this then too. No cramping though. I’ve had one successful pregnancy with my DS, but can’t remember if the leg feeling is normal or not, so thought I’d see how common it is amongst you guys?xx

@Bessie85 yes my legs and ankles are achey plus lower back. Don't think it is a worrying sign - just an unfortunate side effect of hormonal change.

@Bessie85 yeah it's hormones loosening all the muscles and joints, my hips and back are achy and my old sciatica that I don't really have anymore sometimes feels a bit achy! I think I really need to do some stretching and yoga so I feel a bit more strong 😂

@Bessie85 Yeah it's hormones. When I am on my period my back and hip plays up, along with my sciatica and now that I am pregnant, it's pretty constant - although it seems to be improving a little (hope that's nothing to worry about).

Had a weird dream last night...had my scan...in sainsbury's..all was okay, not that I could remember in it the dream! Was so bizzarre!! xx

@Brokenpancreas94 thatd be nice if you could just pop to Sainsbury’s to see baby 🤣🤣

@ChloeN the thing is I don't even go to sainsburys 😂😂😂🙈

Haha @Brokenpancreas94 pregnancy dreams can be weird 😂

They really can be it was so bizarre 😂😂😂 and the picture of the baby was like full colour as well 😂😂honest it was so weird. @tulipsunday

This nausea is getting to me today 😩

I’m currently 13+5 and today when I wiped I had a little bit of lumpy red blood. Not a huge amount. Probably 2mm. I had my scan on Wednesday and everything was fine. Do you reckon the scan may have caused a bleed. The sonographer used the probe a lot to get the baby in a good position. At 8 weeks I was told there was a hematoma that might cause a bleed. I’m having a little panic that this could be the start of a miscarriage

Thank you for your reply, fingers crossed that’s all it is :-) I panicked this morning that when I wiped it was a little darker than usual, not red or brown, but just a tinge of colour. Nothing since though so hopefully it’s just me being paranoid.

I also should really start some yoga and stretching!

5+1 today and can't shake the worry. Feel like I just need to get past 6 weeks (when I last miscarried) and then I'll feel a bit better but just so worried everytime I wipe there will be blood.

@Smileyface32 most likely it was the haematoma coming away. Keep an eye on it - and I know from first hand experience it's hard not to feel anxious about it - try not to panic.

16w+5 today, feeling very emotional and more than a bit nervous, still in the phase of worrying about miscarrying every day so still afraid to talk about baby and plan, more recently I've starting obsessing about still birth. Pregnancy is very emotionally draining, pregnancy after loss is a complete shit show.

I had a scan at 16w+1 and all was OK, my bump has popped in last few days and it's all becoming a bit serious now which is scary.

Hope everyone doing OK, we got this girls (I hope lol)

@38andtrying I was like that with my daughter, that was before having a miscarriage too! After the 12 week scan I just couldn't see past the birth, kept thinking it would be a still birth too! I had therapy for it too, but it didn't help.

7+2 now, and so nervous, anxiously waiting for my scan at 9 weeks....keep getting sharp pains in my belly when I move, trying to rest as much as possible x

Sorry to read about all of the anxieties. It is so hard to shake them off isn't it. I have my booking appointment tomorrow when I will be 9 weeks. The last time I had one we had been discussing birth preferences how low risk I was etc and then I lost the pregnancy less than a week later. Just trying to stay positive and think that the likelihood is all will be well.

Snacking all day today to try and keep the nausea at bay. Those who are further along when did you start to feel better and have more normal eating habits?

@Brokenpancreas94 7+2🤯 I feel like it’s flown, it probably doesn’t feel like that you for you tho does it🤣🤣

@tulipsunday good luck for tomorrow, hope it goes okay!☺️ I haven’t really felt better at all, I’m still sick probably once a week and I have to eat immediately when I wake up if not I’m definitely being sick. It did ease a bit after 17/18 weeks I think it was but it’s come back now 🤣🤣