Pregant after miscarriage - support thread

[Nervousbuthopeful]

Hi everyone,

I'm new to posting on mumsnet, but have spent plenty of time reading through others' conversations for reassurance when anxious, and this seems like such a friendly place!

I've just found out I'm pregnant again after the miscarriage of my first at 11 weeks in August. I would love to connect with other people in a similar situation.

I'm feeling relatively ok, i.e. not totally panicked all the time, about this one, but I know it's going to be hard. I really find it hard to believe sometimes that this could work out.

Please send a comment if you're in a similar situation and would like to share/receive some support!

I'll be honest, @Nervousbuthopeful, in saying that I had to stop googling and looking at stories because I was only seeing negative ones and it was making my anxiety skyrocket! I'm going to look at the link you sent now though - thank you for it!! 😊 Not long to wait now though until my scan, where hopefully I'll see a happy baby! 🤞🏻

@B1993 Yes, totally understand. Well done for stopping! I do hope this one helps and that I haven’t in any way made it harder for you by sending! I know exactly what it’s like to Google too much… Fingers crossed for you on Friday, too 💗

@Nervousbuthopeful, not at all! It was actually really helpful reading some positive stories. I also contacted my midwife shortly after the first scan, through the online portal, and that was also reassuring. They said that, due to the fact they they're dealing with such precise measurements (tenths of millimetres), the dates can be out by 5 days either side, which is the same as the 12 week scan. I'm hoping baby has caught up a bit on Friday's scan but I'll be happy as long as they have grown from the last scan and have a heartbeat 💗

@B1993 I’m so glad it was helpful, and I’ve heard the same about dates being out because of small measurements. Will be thinking of you tomorrow!

Thank you, @Nervousbuthopeful! I’ll be sure to come back and update 😊

Hi everyone! Im trying to stay optimistic since after 2 years since my miscarriage, i had a bfp last week, so I'm nearly 6 weeks now. I feel like I'm not allowed to be excited incase it happens again, especially after I had a dreadful nightmare last night that I lost this one too :( sending love to everyone who knows this feeling x

Hi ladies... can I tentatively join?

Currently around 11ish weeks. 12 week scan next week when I'll be 12+. Had a mc at 9 weeks (first baby) a few months ago, it was the most painful experience of my life as I'm sure you can all relate to on this thread 💔

Absolutely terrified about the scan next week, honestly don't know how I'm going to get through those hospital doors!

Hope you're all doing well , sending you all the love.

Hi ladies, can I join? Currently 8 +3 and have had 2 scans as iv been having brown spotting for over 2 weeks. Both scans have been fine but I'm an anxious mess as had a "gush" of pinky/brown discharge I had this morning at work. Has gone back to light brown now but I'm a wreck.
How does anyone cope with anxiety!?

Hi everyone! Good to have you here. When I went through my miscarriage in August one of the things that helped me was the thought of all the women who have been through this—recently and through the ages. And it makes such a difference to have company in these first anxious weeks!

@Beapo , I feel the same way about not being allowed to get excited, and so sorry about your dream!

@Mariabombia , I can imagine how you must feel! We’ll be here for support, and wishing you the absolute best scan!

@Daniki , so sorry about the spotting! I’ve heard so many stories about even full bleeding in pregnancy and all was still well—your two scans seem a strong sign that that will be the case for you!

Hi all, I'd like to join too I'm 4+6 today. I also had a MMC at 11 weeks back in June, it was such a terrible time that like others I feel I can't let myself get too excited about this pregnancy 'just in case'.

I have a daughter who has just turned 4

Wishing everyone health and luck on their journeys xx

Defo nice to have company in these times! 🤗

@Nervousbuthopeful Yes it does offer some comfort knowing we aren't alone, even though it may feel like it the majority of the time.

Fingers crossed for everyone here - we got this ❤️

@Beapo, that's totally normal. Even when I told close family at around 9 week, I felt obliged to remind them that it's still early days so not to get too excited either. Even now, at around 12 weeks, I'm struggling to feel really excited. It's so sad because with my son I was nervous (that was my first pregnancy) but couldn't wait to announce etc. whereas, since my loss in August, this pregnancy has been so different.

@Daniki, it's so hard not to feel anxious, especially after a loss. My loss was early, at around 5 weeks, but I found out at around 3.5 weeks pregnant. Since finding out with that pregnancy, I had brown spotting on and off for a couple of weeks before the miscarriage bleeding fully started. I was quite niave and thought brown was quite normal so didn't think much of it at the time. With this pregnancy, 2 days after finding out (also at around 3.5 weeks), I had bright red spotting. I was convinced it was all over again but EPAU scanned me at 6 weeks and all was well! I've since had more light red and brown spotting, every week or two, but a second scan was also postive at 8-9 weeks. Even after those, it's hard to relax! I think for me personally, I'll start to feel better when I feel kicks 💕🥰

@Pink Pamplemousse, I'm sorry you're part of a loss thread but welcome nonetheless. My son was 3 in July so will be (almost) 4 when this one is born in June.

Have you told your DD yet? I wasn't planning on telling my DS just yet, but I think he picked up on a conversation I had with MIL and then started taking about being a big brother so I've since mentioned the baby. Hoping all is well as telling him there's not a baby anymore will be heartbreaking 💔

@B1993 hey, yea my Mc started the same way the last time had brown spotting for 2 weeks and had a scan at 7 weeks all ok and then mc at 8 weeks.
had the same brown spotting this time for weeks exactly today but had a scan on Tuesday this week and Monday last week and all ok 🤷‍♀️ just have to hope for the best🙏 roll on having that baby in my arms so I can relax 😅

This is the thing @Daniki, it’s hard to know the difference between normal spotting and what’s not, isn’t it?! 😓 Hoping all of our pregnancies are successful this time around and we have those rainbows in our arms soon! 🌈

Oops, pressed send too soon…

If you’re anything like me, you won’t relax when baby’s born and there’s a whole host of parenting worries then! 🙈

@B1993 yep! If we could just sleep for 9 months be great no worrying then 😅 duno whether to ring the EPU this morning or not as I was only in for a scan on Tuesday, but if something happens over the wknd it’s a long wait until Monday!
we will deserve a big drink when babies come! 😅

My scan this morning went perfectly and I need not have worried about the previous small measurements. Everything looked great and baby is now measuring slightly ahead of what I thought at 12+6! 🥰😍🤩

@B1993 aw fantastic!! Delighted for ya 🥰🥰🥰🥰

Aww congrats @B1993 🥰

I'm still 6 weeks off my 12 week scan, don't think I can wait that long, been tempted to go to a private early scan place near me to put my mind at ease 🤔

AMAZING NEWS - i went back today after an agonising weeks wait and the babys heartbeat was there so strong - i burst into tears with relief i am over the moon.

THIS is a message to everyone worrying about a fetal heartbeat sometimes you are just TOO early!! ❤️

i’m having a baby… WOW what a feeling.

@B1993 and @mm1998 What amazing news for both of you—I’m so so happy right now!

Congratulations to everyone whose had positive scans and saw there babies, that’s my dream🥹❤️

I found out earlier this week I’m pregnant again, has a mmc in July so this was the 3rd cycle back trying again! I’m trying my best to stay positive and just enjoy being pregnant because it’s what I wanted so badly!xxx

Thank you all for the kind messages 🥰 Feeling very relieved and happy! Was incredible seeing how much baby has grown from the initial 6 weeks and then 9 week scan 😍