Almost 48 and pregnant- what the actual firetruck?

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NC for this (long time poster).

My head is in a complete spin. I'll be 48 next month and have a 6 y/o I gave birth to when I was 41. It took seven years and two miscarriages to produce our dear child. I so thought I was done.

No, I haven't used contraception or even kept up with avoiding sex in mid-cycle. Yes, I'm an idiot. But I so thought that was all over....

We are so not up for this. No way. Looking at my options.

Holy fuck, really? Thanks for letting me rant, I cannot believe this.

Gosh, I bet that was a shock.
As you said, you have options and if you aren't up for it then don't do it.

ahh op. Don’t beat yourself up, I can totally understand how this is a massive shock to you. Give yourself time to let the shock sink in before making any decisions. What does your partner think?

It must be a huge shock. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. Whatever you decide to do, good luck.

I'm so sorry. Some things defy explanation. I know others will say "well you should've been more careful", but unless you've spent years and years not having a successful pregnancy, you don't realise how weird it feels to be ultra cautious about something that "won't" happen!

I'm glad you have a clear cut idea of your plans. Even if you find it hard, your resolve is really helpful.

I've a friend who ended up with 2 surprise pregnancies, and each time she was almost unwell from the shock.

What a shock! Any idea of dates? Hopefully you have time to let it sink in and take the action you need. Rant away.

Ah what a shock! Take care OP

That sounds tough op.

I haven't tracked my periods in so long, I was frantically looking back at the family calendar thinking "Did I have it then? Or was it the week before?" Arrgh.

I can't be more than about 6-7 weeks, at best estimate.

Thanks so much for your replies

You’re my age, I feel for you

Good luck whatever you decide

oh wow what a shock, i agree with a pp, if you'd spent years trying to get pregnant when you were years younger, why would you have been using contraception. So NO judgement here.

This may sound blunt but a friend got pg at 44 and no sooner had she peed on the stick than she lost it. So if you do decide to terminate, you might well have lost the pregnancy anyway. I think it would be the most statistically likely outcome at 48 xx

I think our bodies have a premenopausal last hurrah and flood us with whatever it is they can in a last ditch attempt to procreate before it’s too late. Same thing happened to my friend. One child in her 20s, tried for another but nothing except mc for 18 years when she finally had her DD at 43. Then, just like you, a massive surprise pregnancy at 48. I’ve always been wary of it happening and (because for the last while I never now when the next period is due so can never be sure if it’s peri or pregnant) I’ve bought more pregnancy tests at this stage of my life than the first half! Take a little time to think over your options, what a huge shock for you

Think I might be in the same boat (at 45). Haven’t peed on that stick yet, but period is a week late. Seems a bit surreal, and I haven’t mentioned it to anyone in real life.

I put it off too, but couldn't ignore how sore my boobs are.

Surreal is right. I hope you bleed soon!

@xPeaceX blunt is fine!

This is where my head is going also. Surely at my age, I'll lose it anyway?

My 6 y/o has a genetic disease. And that was when I was 40-41. Whatever I have brewing now must be a genetic shitstorm anyway.

But do I wait, or intervene?

I so want a big glass of wine (it's 8pm here) but you're not supposed to drink when you're pregnant are you? Aaarrrgh

Jesus that must have been a huge shock.
Think through your options. And go with what feels right.
I wasn’t up for it either when it happened to me. I already had 3dc and just not at the right stage in my life. As soon as those lines appeared on the stick I knew I wasn’t going to continue the pregnancy. I told dh I was pregnant and not keeping it. Was 100% the right decision for me and I have absolutely no regrets, I know it was the right choice. And I’m so grateful I had access to the services I did.
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Blimey, what a shock! Take your time to let it all sink in. What does your partner think?

Thanks all again.

DP & I are in total agreement. It's now a matter of how and when.

I poured that wine.

Yes have the wine. Well done for deciding.

Feel for you OP, life can be crazy sometimes. Glad you & DP are in agreement & that you had the wine!

Take your time to decide what is best for you. You probably have a few weeks at least, and nature may still take its course.

My cousin had her fifth, and last, baby at 49. It worked for her, but only you can decide if it might work for you.

Sending positive vibes, and support for whatever you decide is best for you and your family.

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Thanks. I think part of my hesitancy is that I know how everyone else will react - they’ll be really excited and will just assume that I will be feeling they same way. I just need some time to work out how I feel first. Especially since, as a PP said, the chances of the pregnancy (should there be one) sticking are not great. So, even if I decided to continue with it, I still couldn’t get excited about it.

Oh wow. I'm 39 and decided no babies as personally (and I know everyone is different) my body already feels knackered compared to what it did 10 years ago so I understand why someone wouldn't even entertain a late 40s pregnancy.
Good luck op

Only wait if you want to go ahead with the pregnancy, it's not a certainty that you will lose it anyway. My Gran thought she'd gone through 'the change' when she got pregnant with my mum at 48. Mum was born healthy but there are risks.
Good luck whatever you decide to do.

A friend had a 'surprise' baby when she was 50. One of her daughters had a baby at almost the same time so my friend ended up looking after two babies when her daughter went back to work!