Almost 48 and pregnant- what the actual firetruck?

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NC for this (long time poster).

My head is in a complete spin. I'll be 48 next month and have a 6 y/o I gave birth to when I was 41. It took seven years and two miscarriages to produce our dear child. I so thought I was done.

No, I haven't used contraception or even kept up with avoiding sex in mid-cycle. Yes, I'm an idiot. But I so thought that was all over....

We are so not up for this. No way. Looking at my options.

Holy fuck, really? Thanks for letting me rant, I cannot believe this.

💐 Best of luck.

Wow, what a shock.

You're not an idiot. It is vanishingly rare to get pregnant without medical assistance at your age. 42/43 is not so unusual, but 46 is totally unexpected! I stopped bothering with contraception at 45. I'm sure many people do.

All the best OP x

Bloody hell...
Best wishes OP.

Oh God OP, that is terrifying. I'm the same age as you and can't even begin to imagine having another baby.

We're looking at universities for my eldest and 6th forms for my youngest so no way I'd want to start again.

Good luck whatever you decide

Just sending my best, OP.

I'm not voting - it's not for anyone else to say whether they think you are or aren't being 'unreasonable' (what's the question meant to be, anyway??) but I wanted to come on and wish you best of luck and stay-strong vibes. What a horrible thing to happen. Who would have thought they'd need contraception at nearly 48 with fertility issues behind them?

If it were me I'd definitely move for a managed termination rather than wait it out. Though it's massively likely you'd have a miscarriage naturally, there are no guarantees. I've had two MCs and the first, early one was really painful (I passed out). I didn't want to have to 'wait and see' when I had a MMC so I opted for an ERPC. I do think these things are better managed. But in your case you don't actually know IF you'll miscarry naturally so I think if you're sure you don't want to stay pregnant, you should get this sorted out soon.

My mum became pregnant at 46, unexpectedly, and did eventually have a MC at about 14 weeks. That's quite a long way into the pregnancy.

I don't know why people are saying that it's vanishingly rare to get pg at 48 or that it's likely to end in miscarriage. I'm 48 and I remember there being quite a few women when I was a kid, who were older mothers because they'd caught just before menopause and either weren't on contraception or wanting/able to access abortion.
Many women are still getting regular periods at this age, so presumably still ovulating.

I think the biggest concern is the increased likelihood of conditions such as Downs.

I hope that whatever your final decision is OP, that everything goes smoothly for you. Must be a terrible shock - I wouldn't fancy starting again at this point either

Hope you are OK.

Glad you are both on the same page and made a decision.

I am a few years younger than you and the thought of having another DC now would just be too much for many different reasons.

You do the best thing for you and your family x

Give over @Babochan88. The OP doesn't need your special blessing and God shite!

A baby is a blessing if you want one. If you don't, it's a source of great stress

I feel for you, OP. Been there.

I had my first child at 39 and my second at 42. Both planned and subsequently adored.

Then just before my 46th birthday and youngest dc starting school, I found out I was pregnant. Such a shock - I used to track my periods but hadn't done so since youngest was born. I've never been very regular, and obviously took my eye off that particular ball.

We decided not to keep the baby and even though I knew from the outset our family was complete, it was still difficult. I don't regret the decision but feelings about it still aren't 'black and white'.

Take care

Its not something i want to vote on but i wouldnt wait to see if nature decides either

book an appointment and discuss it with an expert-good luck

Off topic but this is one of my 7yo’s favourite jokes - “what starts with F and ends in Uck?”

Best of luck OP - I’m a decade younger and would feel exactly the same if I was to fall pregnant.

@GonnaGetGoingReturns if you were aged 50 and didn’t have a period for a year and a day you are post menopausal and cannot get pregnant. As PP aged 49 (or around OPs age), no period for 2 years and a day). Sorry if my post was confusing, my point was there often still post menopausal symptoms. Some women continue periods but over age 55 contraception is not needed.

Whatever I have brewing now must be a genetic shitstorm anyway.

Have you specifically been told that? Did you have genetic counselling?

@Babochan88

OP WANTS to terminate

its what she and her partner have decided

have you not been reading her posts ?

Oh just piss right off, with your God shite.

Glad you and dp are in agreement

thinking of you both

have a wine on me 🍸

@Babochan88 please take your God shite to another board. You are not helping.
I am glad that religion gives you guidance and structure but most people in the UK do not believe in God so just stop

You're pregnant after having unprotected sex

Your shocked, I'm not

Oh OP

I always understood that your body can have a last hurrah of fertility. It used to be quite well known I think with an unexpected baby when the others were nearly grown up.

It would be a total disaster for me as well (49).

I wish you all the very best.

You've clearly never experienced infertility (or empathy)