Almost 48 and pregnant- what the actual firetruck?

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NC for this (long time poster).

My head is in a complete spin. I'll be 48 next month and have a 6 y/o I gave birth to when I was 41. It took seven years and two miscarriages to produce our dear child. I so thought I was done.

No, I haven't used contraception or even kept up with avoiding sex in mid-cycle. Yes, I'm an idiot. But I so thought that was all over....

We are so not up for this. No way. Looking at my options.

Holy fuck, really? Thanks for letting me rant, I cannot believe this.

What a shock. I definitely couldn’t go ahead with a pregnancy at my age, 46. But then I had my first at 16. As you say, you’ve got options

This is pretty much what happened to me with our youngest. I ended up having to go on HRT at 43 but had my youngest at 41 and couldn’t believe I’d gone from getting to pregnant to needing HRT in such a short amount of time.

my menopause consultant (from Newson clinic) said exactly same thing, perimenopause and the body goes “woah, hang on a minute, get those eggs out!!”

OP- I feel for you, absolutely. I’m 46 and bloody knackered. So I’d be feeling exact the same

Your responses and the wine have made me weepy. Thank you all for being so kind.

Luckily our 6 y/o is asleep, so I'm off to bed with a distracting book, whilst DP is outside playing in his shed. We're dealing with it I guess.

The 'how' is the hard part now. I will let you all know how I get on X

Looking at the stats for England & Wales

Births for women 50 or over
Year 2001 = 55
Year 2016 = 238

Births for women 55 or over
Year 2001 = 2
Year 2016 = 20

These stats may include people who have received fertility treatment, but some will be natural

Hope the wine helped ease the shock op! and that you’re feeling ok 💐

I'm 49 and this happened to me very recently, but within a couple of days of doing the test I miscarried. We were so relieved.

Good luck!
A friend had a healthy baby at 49 .she actually thought she was going through the menopause and didn't realise she was pregnant until she felt the movements. Her eldest was 25 and there were 4 other children in between!

I hope you can get an appointment v soon

Oh I so hope this is what happens. Thank you X

What a shitty hand to be dealt.

How you can get things in motion easily and quickly.

Poor you, what a tough decision

you can be all logical and rational about it, but you have to take time to explore your true feelings about this too

good luck

Sending hugs op 💕

I’m the same age as you too and I completely understand. I’m on the coil but only because I like not having periods. I don’t think I will fall pregnant easily at this age. Last time I was pregnant was 39 and it took 3 years of TTC and a miscarriage.

Think carefully because you take action. Do you want a second? Also don’t forget that you might still suffer a miscarriage given your age. It’s hard to carry this to full term.

whatever you decide, all the best to you and your family.

I highly doubt it'll stick at your age anyway, pretty sure nature will take care of things, chances must be way down in single figures I'd have thought? Maybe book something in anyway and hope it doesn't progress in the meantime? If you still have periods though why on earth didn't you use contraception, the chance was always there even if only slim! Good luck with it all

Enjoy your wine op. I am so sorry. What a difficult time.

Hope you’ll get an outcome you want OP but…

Mixed between YABU and YANBU.

I wouldn’t expect to get pregnant at this age as well however at the age of 40 I went to GP to have Mirena fitted and commented how it would be my first and last one.
GP reiterated saying that I would need another one as they had a lady who thought was menopausal but was actually pregnant at age of 49.
The surgery updated their contraceptive policy very quickly afterwards.

It’s rare but it happens.

My friend had her second set of twins at 47. Her first set were 17!

I believe the statistics for termination include a high number teenagers (as you’d expect) and the second? highest number is for women in your age group. They, just like you, thought they were probably premenopausal and past childbearing age.

I don’t know if you can take comfort in the fact that it’s more common than we think. Best of luck with your decision. Even Mother Nature hates women some of the time!!!

Just wanted to say how much I admire your resolve - it's a tough call to make especially with how hard you fought for your last pregnancy. Knowing what you want and what's best for you and your family and then making decisions to protect you all - it's such a badass move.

I'm 46 and couldn't even contemplate starting from scratch. My eldest is 24 and my youngest 13 and I'm more than happy to be child free at this point (teens are a completely different ball game lol). However your child is relatively young still so it might not be such a shock if you do keep the baby. Your genetic issues might be the biggest problem though as this baby could need a lot of support if there was anything going on in that way.

I hope all goes well for you whatever decision you make.

I got pregnant unexpectedly at 47. Miscarried, one week later, which solved everything. I hope it is taken out of your hands now that you have made the decision. If it isn't, I think it is still a wise choice and one that many of us would make in your shoes. Big hugs xx

You have my sympathy, your body is going to run you through all those emotions. I hope it happens quickly for you. (Flowers)

Ps, i like "firetruck"!

Had my last and very wanted child at 41, but that was definitely the end of having children for me. I'd have been floored at 48 and would be making the same decision as you.

Friends/acquaintances have got pregnant at 43/44. One had a miscarriage, the other has a young under 10 years daughter.

I’ve got no idea what I’d do, too old now at 51 but during my 40s i panicked a lot and got MAP especially late 30s as was with totally unsuitable man!