Kate2179, Sorry to here abot your second m/c, I know how frustrated you must feel at this time. I m/c'd on July 23rd last yr at 6+6 and then on Oct 18th at 6+1. I was referred by my doctor to see the consultant but only because of my advancing years (37) and the fact that I had had no successful pregnancies previously (not sure if this is you as I haven't had a chance to read the thread,currently at work). I am a complete control freak and did quite a lot of reading coming to the conclusion that the most likely (but not only) reason for me miscarrying so early was Chromosonal therefore every pregnancy was another completley separate chance.
When I went for my consultancy appointment I was 6 weeks pregnant , (I'm not very good at waiting) but I'm glad I was as the hospital said at that point that I shouldn't have been referred so I'm not convinced they would have done anything other than bollock my GP!I would have found this very upsetting having sat on my laurels for 3 months waiting for the appointment.
So I guess what I'm saying is that you can push for a referral but I get the impression the hospital/consultant can still refuse you . I hope private care is more understanding and things work out well for you.
My 3rd pregnancy has not yet m/c'd, I'm 10+6 today and living in hope that this time it's for real.
Take care of yourself.